The Power of Questions















Yvonne Brooks



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The Parenting with Love – Six Lesson Plan is designed to provide accurate and authoritative information in regards to the subject matter covered. It is written with the understanding that the Author has based the development of this program on personal experiences and over thirty years of research in regards to family empowerment.


The enclosed material is presented with the expressed understanding that the reproduction of any portion or portions herein is strictly prohibited.






1. Make choices, take ownership for their actions and non-actions


2. Experience days that are meaningful and rewarding


3. Feel a sense of satisfaction with the completion of their chores or tasks


4. Identify what values are important to them when choosing friends


5. Welcome growth through challenges


6. Develop excellent communication skills with themselves and others


7. Manage their time more responsibly


8. Become the best they could be




You are about to embark on what will be a very rewarding time in your life. The Parenting with Love Six-Lesson plan will give you the tools necessary to improve the overall quality of your relationship with your child.


This program is a thorough, step-by-step guide to give you all of the components necessary to empower you and your child to achieve maximum potential.


The Parenting with Love Six lesson materials was designed to be parent-friendly, concise and beneficial. It is time tested and it works!


Many parents who have used the Parenting with Love programs have improved the overall quality of their lives and even surpassed their own expectations with themselves and their children.



As you proceed through this program, you will begin to experience a wonderful change. You will feel inspired to be a parent and have access to an abundance of tools to help you grow into that parent you desire to be.


You will be revitalized. The ideas and concepts you learn in the Parenting with Love programs are unique and effective.


It is my sincere hope that the Parenting with Love program will provide you with all the knowledge and motivation to help you achieve most or all of your dreams in parenting at your highest potential. Remember, it all starts from within.



With Gratitude,


Yvonne Brooks



About Yvonne


Yvonne Brooks is an entrepreneur, and expert in child, teen and parent empowerment. She has devoted her writing career to the study of empowering families, and has published numerous cutting-edge books on the subject.


Her passion is empowering kids, teens and parents to achieve their highest potential through a series of comprehensive digital products, leadership trainings and commitment to lifestyle changes.


Yvonne is a national and international public speaker on family issues regularly at schools, churches, libraries and many community groups.


Yvonne Brooks has become known as the “Parenting with Love Coach.” She is the industry leader in teaching parents about using love to decode their children’s emotional language. She is the author of the best-selling book, Building Your Child’s Self-Esteem, Understanding Your Child’s Emotional Language and co-author of the book, Emotional Banking for Kids.


Yvonne is founder and the executive director of the Brooks & Brooks Foundation, a non-profit organization that serves, educates, and empowers families toward living on purpose for over sixteen years.


Yvonne has over 30 years of experience as a parenting expert and she is the only parenting coach to create a ten-year parenting course that teaches parents step-by-step how to increase their children’s capacity for emotional growth and development.


She has taught her award-winning workshop “Understanding Your Child’s Emotional Language” to over 1,000 parents in public and private schools to date and looking forward to reaching millions.


Yvonne lives in California with her family.


How To Use This Book:


My hope in writing the Parenting with Love program is to inspire, educate and motivate parents with taking full responsibility for their experience with their parent-child relationship.


The struggle with self-love, taking responsibility and enjoying healthy relationships are just a few of the challenges most parents will have to face at some point in their lives.


I have helped over 10,000 parents within the past 30 years develop and build healthy relationships with their children. During this time, I was able to work along side some amazing parents who have allowed me to mentor and coach them on some of the topics being covered in this program.


Throughout each lesson there are a number of activities for parents to try, notes for them to read and positive statements for them to practice and remember.



The Parenting with Love program is divided into six lessons and eight sections.


Section One deal with preparing parents to get the most from the lesson


Section Two gives definition of two words used frequently in the lesson for parents to add to their vocabulary.


Section Three is about what to expect.


Section Four is lesson guidelines.


Section Five gives an outline for the lesson.


Section Six is a time to reflect and transform.


Section Seven is a set of action-steps for loving your children by going deeper.


Section Eight allows parents to give feedback, recommendations and ideas.





While I provide eight simple sections in each lesson for parents to use, my intentions are not for you to try them all. Take your time with each lesson and section.


Choose one or two sections that resonate with you before moving on to another lesson. When they become routine, add some more. Every parent is different, and each section is meant to accommodate a variety of needs.


The idea is to find the sections and lessons that can help with improving your parent-child relationship immediately.










Prepare To Get The Most From This Lesson



p<{color:#000;}. Decide to follow through on what you learn.


p<{color:#000;}. Invest 10 minutes or more daily to work on your action-steps!


p<{color:#000;}. Commit to your action-steps and implement what you learn















Words to Add to Your Parent Vocabulary This Week:


React: Taking Negative Action

(Using Questions Reactively)



Proactive: Taking Positive Action

(Using Questions Proactively)
















Facts About Questions


1. Questions are essential in a successful parent and child relationship


2. Questions push children to reach higher and dig deeper in their communication with others


3. Questions can be used as an art for empowering children to think


4. Questions can communicate belief or disbelief in your child’s goals, dreams or passion


5. The right question can either make or break your child


6. Your relationship with your child is driven by questions NOT answers


7. Only when your child ask questions they have decided to grow and learn




What To Expect With Lesson One








Action Plan
















Parenting with Love

Lesson One Guidelines


p<>{color:#000;}. Begin each morning this week with writing down five minutes of gratitude



p<>{color:#000;}. Write down and meditate on the proactive question for week one (what if today was the last day on earth with your child, what would you do differently?) daily to shift your parenting intelligence to another level


p<>{color:#000;}. Monitor and record in a journal different times throughout each day when you are feeling peaceful, loved, and happy with your level of self-care







Did you know that your parent-child relationship could only be improved by asking proactive questions?





















Parenting with Love Transformation
























Your Questions About Parenting, Guides and Directs Your Experience With Your Child


What is one question you keep asking your child?



Is this question a reactive or proactive question, and how can you improve your question for next time?



Are you getting the results you want with the types of questions you are currently asking your child?



What are some ideas for turning your reactive questions into proactive questions this week?






Use Proactive Questions as a Skill To Help Your Child Reach Their Highest Potential



In what way would you like to connect with your child better? (Be specific)






What proactive question can you come up with to experience your desired connection with your child?










Negative and Closed-Ended Questions Produce Negative and Limited Experiences With Your Child



An example of a negative question is: “Was it you that left the pantry opened?”


Parent Tip:

Negative question stops parents from getting what they want with their child and amplifies emotions negatively.


An example of closed-ended question is: “Did you do your homework”?


Parent Tip:

Closed-ended questions does not encourage a flow of conversation, instead it makes it easier for the child to give short answers and stops the conversation from going any further.





Examples of Negative and Closed-Ended Questions Parents Should Avoid



p<{color:#000;}. What is wrong with you?

p<{color:#000;}. Did the call with your grandmother go well?

p<{color:#000;}. Are you going to eat that?

p<{color:#000;}. Is this your idea of a cleaned room?

p<{color:#000;}. Are you going to school with that attitude?

p<{color:#000;}. Do you think I have time for all this right now?

p<{color:#000;}. Are you happy?

p<{color:#000;}. Why aren’t you happy?

p<{color:#000;}. How many times do I have to tell you to do the same thing over and over again?

p<{color:#000;}. Is this your math assignment?

p<{color:#000;}. What else do I need to do for you?

p<{color:#000;}. Why do I have to do everything?

p<{color:#000;}. Are you hungry?

p<{color:#000;}. Why did you hit your brother?

p<{color:#000;}. Are you listening to me?

p<{color:#000;}. When will you get it?

p<{color:#000;}. How many times do I need to remind you to put your clothes and toys away?


Positive, Proactive and Open-Ended Questions Produce Positive and Expansive Experiences with Your Child


An example of a positive and proactive question is: “If you had complete control of the time you cleaned your room, what time would you choose and why?”


Parent Tip:

A positive and proactive question removes the limitations in your child’s mind as to how they can get something done.


An example of opened-ended questions is: “What are three action steps you could come with to get your homework done on time”?


Parent Tip:

Opened-ended questions encourage children to go deeper in their thinking, creating a healthy and powerful emotional relationship.




Examples of Positive, Proactive and

Open-Ended Parenting Questions



*How exactly did the fight get started between you and your sister?


*When is your favorite time of the day to complete your chores and why that time?


*What is the most important thing to you first thing in the morning before getting ready for school and why?


*What will it take for you to do your homework without being told?


*How will you take more responsibility with getting better grades?


*What is your major goal for today?


*How would you solve your current problem?


*How will you take responsibility for the results you are currently having with school?

Increasing Your Child’s Self-Responsibility


Children respond favorable to parents who believe in their ability to be responsible with their own day-to-day challenges. Without challenges (opportunities) to grow through proactive questions, children will learn how to be victims and bullies.


Asking your child proactive questions means trusting in their abilities to solve their own problems so that they can add value to themselves, their family and the community.


Parents, who put their children down, criticize and nag them about everything sends, messages of worthlessness, guilt and shame.









Parenting with Love Action-Steps

























Steps Parents Can Take to Raise the Bar

This Week



1. Ask yourself challenging and proactive questions daily


2. Create a written plan of action-steps you would like to experience at a higher level with your child this week


3. Set aside time to educate yourself on personal growth and development


4. Practice leading your child with proactive and positive questions


5. Believe in your child’s ability to be responsible with every challenge


6. Face all challenges with confidence


7. Take frequent time out to have FUN!



Parenting with Love Lesson One Action Steps


Write down 5 inspirational and elevated questions to increase your child’s effectiveness within the next 7 days



















Your Focus for This Week



What are the top 3 results you would like to accomplish within this week with your child?








How will you measure progress/success? (List specific milestones)











Parenting with Love Fun Activity


1. Create a scrap page of your top 3 results for shifting your relationship with your child to a higher frequency. Feel free to use pictures from magazines

(Be very creative)


2. Review your journal of times you were peaceful, loved and happy this week



3. Share this lesson with another parent before moving on to lesson two (a powerful activity for increasing significance)

















Parenting with Love Evaluation

























Parenting with Love

Lesson One Evaluation



On a scale of 1-10, how did you feel about yourself this week before and after your completion of this lesson? If you did not score a 10, what steps would you need to implement to make it a 10?


















Parenting with Love Lesson One Feedback


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Parenting with Love Six Week Series


Lesson One: The Power of Questions


Lesson Two: The Power of Listening


Lesson Three: The Power of Decisions


Lesson Four: The Power of Planning


Lesson Five: The Power of Responsibility


Lesson Six: The Power of Accountability












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High School Prep 4 Teens


Bully Prevention Tips 4 Teens


Proverbs 101 for Kids


Kids Time Management 30-Day Planner


Stress Management 4 Teens


Financial Values 4 Women



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The Power of Questions

When we ask good questions, we are more likely to get responses worth listening to and answers that have valuable information. If you want to increase your effectiveness as a parent then The Power of Questions - Parenting with Love Lesson One is for you. The Power of Questions - Parenting with Love Lesson One is a simple and easy outline to assist parents with developing healthy communication skills with their children. Using questions as a powerful tool to educate, inspire and motivate children to take responsibility is key in parenting. Children respond favorably to parents who believe in their ability to be responsible with their own day-to-day challenges. Without challenges (opportunities) to grow through proactive questions, children will learn how to be victims and bullies. Parents, who put their children down, criticize and nag them about everything sends, messages of worthlessness, guilt and shame. Asking your child proactive questions means trusting in their abilities to solve their own problems so that they can add value to themselves, their family and the community.

  • ISBN: 9781370000692
  • Author: Yvonne Brooks
  • Published: 2016-08-16 03:05:26
  • Words: 2342
The Power of Questions The Power of Questions