Lola's Marriage Cocktail


Lola’s Marriage Cocktail

A Selection of Poems

Now all glory to God, who is able, through his mighty power at work within us, to accomplish infinitely more than we might ask or think. Glory to him in the church and in Christ Jesus through all generations forever and ever! Amen.” Ephesians 3: 20-21

Copyright © 2016 by Purposeful Changes Foundation
All rights reserved. No part of this book may be reproduced, scanned, or distributed in any printed or electronic form without permission.



Table of Contents



Rock ‘A’ Bye Baby













Mothers and Mothers-In-Law



Happy, Happy, Joy, Joy

Message from the Author

Excerpt Lola’s Prayer Cocktail




Sing to the LORD, all you godly ones! Praise his holy name. For his anger lasts only a moment, but his favor lasts a lifetime! Weeping may last through the night, but joy comes with the morning. Psalm 30:4-5

After a heart-to-heart with God during my everyday prayer session; He gave me the idea to write a book of poetry exploring the different stages of marriage. This book was fun to write in so many ways! As the scenarios would play in my mind I realized the ever changing complexities that marriages goes through on a daily basis.

Some scenarios recaptured moments in time from my marriage while others were simple enough to imagine. I wrote this book in about an hour, so feel free to indulge in each poem and share the book with others. If you are married, or soon to be, just remember for every trail there is a triumph and for every disagreement there are countless agreements, and last but not least, joy indeed comes in the morning!


Prayers up,




Lola’s Marriage Cocktail

A Selection of Poems



Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything…” Phil 4:6


Ugh! Another complaint Ugh…

So what you a saint?

My deliverer, my fortress?

Nah, my foe, my friend?

Here we go again.

Just can’t get right. Lovers,

Prayer partners, let’s build a dynasty

He said. Now, anger and dissention

Anything goes…I guess.

My Sweet, my Bae

Bros to the end I guess.

Pray for me, I pray for you

Lord I cry see me through…




Many waters cannot quench love…” Song of Songs 8:7

Rock ‘A’ Bye Baby

Rock a bye baby on the tree top

Twiddle~ diddle dee tree top. That’s how

The song went. Laid her head on my breast.

Loved her, kissed her, all mine.

So soft, so…everything. His and mine.

I couldn’t thank God enough.

This gift was unimaginable.

We’d tried, it didn’t take long before she came.

No, rewind. Let’s start again.

This. Is. Hard.

Yeah, at first it was exciting, scary, but true.

A little bit of him and me ahhh

Who wouldn’t want that to be.

But then the swollen feet…

The aching back. Lord take this thing out of me!


Here you go, they said, she’s ready to go home.

With who? With you…

Okay God will see us through.

Panic as the fire men checked her pulse.

She’s fine, she’s fine put your worry behind.

It’s a baby, you’ll be fine. They’ll grow up just

In time, to spare your sanity and your sleep.

Prayers at the midnight hour.

Lord what to do? I’m here, I here,

Don’t you see me I’m here!

1, 2, then 3 was all I’d see.

And God’s peace, His love, would wash over me.

New to the game, but

She’s awake gotta go…Parenthood



A friend loves at all times…” Proverbs 17:17


Girl, come over! Wait now?

I can’t gotta baby to lay down.

Girl, come over! Wait now?

Gotta husband to lay down.

Girl, come over! Wait now?

Gotta potty train her now.

Girl, come over! Wait now?

I’m too tired now…

Girl, come over! Wait…you come over,

Can’t get no break, trying to hold up the fort

Trying to bake baby a cake! Wait…girl? Girl?




Grandchildren are the crown of grandparents” Proverbs 17:6


Baby’s so cute!

Let’s buy her some diapers, toys, food.

We’ll hold her and watch her, feed her and play,

But please, take baby back today, today.

Don’t do that! She’ll be spoiled, she’ll hate that,

She’ll love that!

Leave baby with us we’ll watch her today.

Good job she’s so healthy her smile is so bright.

Bad job don’t you see you’re not doing it quite right.

A little softer a little harder you don’t have a clue,

But leave her with us, we do, yes we do!

We’re tired, please come, she’s not slowing down.

Perry Mason is calling and I’m lying down.

Come back tomorrow I love her I do

But she’s tired, I’m tired…Grandparents…whew!



There is no fear in love…” 1 John 4:18


He’s so handsome, so agile, so strong.

He provides for the baby, he provides for us all.

He laughs so much and tells so many jokes.

My belly aches, oh so sweet love make and take.

More than Bonnie or Clyde, better models too.

God’s at the center of our little stew. Curly black hair

That runs through, and through, laugh lines a few

Grey hairs. Yes, I’ve spotted those too.

How did we get here. 10 and 1 makes 11. That’s how

We got here on a red car named desire. 12:34 the time

Reads we’re always in line. Boy…no man.

How fine, how fine…all mine…Love



I don’t really understand myself, for I want to do what is right, but I don’t do it. Instead, I do what I hate…Romans 7:15


Another day, another problem.

Still you, and still me. God? Or you? Both.

Naw, can’t be mad at God, so you.

Wait, but He brought you here. So God.

No, wait, but God might be talking to you too, so You.

It’s gotta be you. Like, just stop.

Take a breather, be kinder, look inward.


Pray it’s just another day, yesterday was love,

But today, its…Hate.



Godly sorrow brings repentance that leads to salvation and leaves no regret…” 2 Corinthians 7: 10


I’m so sorry, I’m so sorry

For what I said to you.

I didn’t mean it, please

Forgive me. Oh God see me through.

In the book of Matthew…

Remember, 11 I think…

My trespasses your trespasses let it go

Baby please. I’m not perfect you’re not perfect,

But we fit together, see.

I cook, I clean… sometimes, and I make

You happy. We laugh, let me in.

I’m your woman, always have been, no one else

There’s been no one else. Just us.

Look, here we are in Hawaii looking at

Stars. Watch our dogs play in the yard.

Thank you baby…Repentance.



The righteous man will flourish like the palm tree, He will grow like a cedar in Lebanon. Planted in the house of the LORD, They will flourish in the courts of our God.… Psalm 92:12-13


“Dang, girl you look in that dress!”

Baby stop it! Let’s go you such a mess.

Palm trees, new jeep, baby stroller car seat, check.

New job, open my door, how did we get here?

Blood, sweat, and tears.

No prayers, prayers, prayers, more prayers.

No God, no direction, no God more obsession

About things that don’t matter, served on a platter.

Know God, Know direction. But God

Saw us through, good jobs and bad ones

To the mountains we flew. Fix your tie,

Check baby, beautiful eyes. Let’s go start the engine.

Say a prayer for them, say a prayer for me…Growth.



Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last; but a woman [man] who fears the LORD will be greatly praised. Proverbs 31:30


My how things have changed

Me, him, neither the same.

Low top Ceaser, straight hair or braids

Now curly top all natural, kinky tresses, pudge,

My how we slay!

Smile, laugh.

So slim, so beautiful, so fun, no cares,

But now true Beauty appeared. In kindness, in our

Patience, in the small hand we hold.

No prom dresses, just tutus and lots of milestones.

She laughed, oh she smiled, oh she wrinkled her toes,

She jumped, oh she spit, and the bubbles she blows.

Babe, I went to the store, bought your favorite drink,

Put the laundry in the dryer, payed the piper

How sweet…Beauty.



But even after they ate them, no one could tell that they had done so; they looked just as ugly as before. Then I woke up… Genesis 41:21


Try and hide it, put that away

He won’t want you, if he sees you that way,

At least that’s what they say, they say…

You’re a human I scream, no boxes for me.

I see him, he looks, and he sees me.

But as time has passed…put that away I say

Smack my lips, roll my neck, don’t play, don’t play

Hands on hips he’s disgusted put that away he says

Passed judgement, past judgement it’s come out to

Play. I can’t function, he can’t function

Until he puts that away.

Passed judgement, past judgement it’s come out to

Play. Why can’t you stop? It’s hideous, get a lock

And put that away, it’s…Ugly



Then Jacob said to Laban, “Give me my wife. My time is completed, and I want to make love to her.” Genesis 29: 21


It’s like everywhere you look. Would be a best seller,

If it was on the cover of this book.

I’m holy, you’re blessed we passed every test,

But this thing we should have it…it’s sex, not just sex.

The baby’s asleep, we’ve gone through the day

No fighting, no lamenting, it’s been a good day.

The passion, let’s fake it, but now’s not the time

The baby is crying I’m sick, let’s just try.

Okay, okay, we’ve started, how silly

The baby is sleeping, you’re happy, I’m happy,

Sweaty and happy.

Lay your head on my chest, too slick, okay, lay your

Head by my pillow, nice spot to end the day

Turn the fan on, the breeze is just right,

Good night lover, good night…sex



They will do no wrong; they will tell no lies… Zephaniah 3: 13


I didn’t say that! Yes, you did!

No, I didn’t! You really just did!

I don’t think I said that!

Oh now you don’t know?

We’ll, that’s beside the point!

No, it’s not!

Yes, it is!

Let it go! We’re not kids!

Stop the car, this is it. Are you sure?

That’s what it says!

Hello, how are you guys? Good! Fine!

Oh the lies…

How was the drive? Great! Fine! Oh the lies.

Let’s talk about this, and that, double back

Do it again, nice house, good people, great friends,

Let it go…hold my hand, smile, nod




But it is you, my equal, my best friend, one I knew so well! Psalm 55: 13


Brandy and Ray-J. Him and me.

Oh wait, Him and I.

Let’s have a picnic…no wrong word a bon-fire.

You call, I’ll text. Get the firewood, and the food,

Get the lights, set the mood. Oh, the games!

Put the baby to bed, snack on this, snack on that

Are they coming, umm no response yet.

Pull that song up let’s dance, laugh and fun,

Swing me around, spilled my drink, swing me round

Check your messages no response. Grab the

Marshmallows, let’s set them to roast, oh so hot!

Laugh, lick my finger, swing me round and round

Best-friend…the fun never ends.



Nevertheless, listen to my prayer and my plea, O LORD my God. Hear the cry and the prayer that your servant is making to you. 2 Chronicles 6:19


On my knees. Lord set me free.

So many problems. So much joy, but we prayed

For a boy! Got a girl.

Best thing I didn’t ask for. We made it

We got here, now what’s next. Oh Lord

Here my cry. We made it.

Let’s count. 1, 2, 3, 4, 5.

Couldn’t have asked for this.

Well, I did but I didn’t…

Even better than I could ever imagine

Even harder than I could imagine.

So I talk to you and no surprise you answer.

I know you, but you know me better…Prayer.



These older women must train the younger women to love… Titus 2:4

Mothers and Mothers-In-Law

Please let me help…Take her, take her

My bath, now my hair, please take her, take her.

I want to feel whole again. Not new just feel my

Soul again. Please take her, take her. Do to her what

You did to him, watch him, feed him and bath him

I mean her…

Going crazy, oh so crazy,

Not a helping hand to find…take my hand he says

Go upstairs, catch a plane, bye, bye, bye.

Thank you mommy, oh I mean, mommys.

Put my feet up, drank in my cup, twist my hair, wash

My own dogon underwear.

Oh now I lay ME down to sleep…mothers and mothers-




This means that anyone who belongs to Christ has become a new person. The old life is gone; a new life has begun! 2 Corinthians 5: 17


Let’s not pretend I am who I thought I would be.

GPA’s, Scholarships, and degrees aside.

Baking this, making that, pies, pies, pies.

No gradebook to be had, no mountain to climb.

Wipe the poop, clean the goop.

Mine! Mine! Mine!

Who am I?

Let me out of this shell I’m in.

Two choices raise her or raise them.

Get gaup or clean slop, but these are not choices at all.

Too much pressure to do it all.

Make her pigtails symmetrical…

A is for Apple ah, ah, ah, but W

Is for Who the hell am I?

Please pardon my French or is that Italian?

I can’t remember…Identity



Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes? Matthew 6:25


Let’s buy a house. No let’s rent.

No, let’s have a baby. Maybe another one?

Let’s go here, let’s call your mother?

Should we join that church? Did we pay our tithes?

Can we afford that purse? No that house, or that car?

The insurance is high, the deadlines tonight.

Should we file that paper? Should we not? Maybe…

Let’s just pay it? Should we move?

But we’re happy.

So happy and so green…

Is this the right doctor? Throw away that fake food.

Organic, organic, have you seen the news.

She’s our only option, cause he’s crazy.

The world needs us. Let’s pray.

We’re rich, yet so broke, start saving today, what a

joke…too many Choices.



They will enter Zion with singing; everlasting joy will crown their heads. Gladness and joy will overtake them, and sorrow and sighing will flee away. Isaiah 35: 10

Happy, Happy, Joy, Joy

He rubs my feet, sometimes.

I massage his back, sometimes. She laughs so bright

Her smile lights up the night.

We were not good, not quite…

But now we are.

We’ve come so far. Kinda like Beyoncé and Lemonade.

Happy, happy, joy, joy!

God picked you, he said, no…wait, I said

Jinx! I said it first.

His caramel skin, my chocolate go together like

What’s it called? A Milky Way…so sweet. Took a whole

Lotta praying to get up that mountain…

Listen pray anyway. God turns your happy to joy, joy.

Key’s in the lock, I gotta go…baby wants to play

I gotta go!…Happy, Happy, Joy, Joy.



Message from the Author

Hello Family! I wanted to write 20 of these marriage poems, but God stopped me here at 18. I guess there’s no more to be written. Don’t take these words too literally, or take them extra literal if you want! Guess it’s up to you! I wanted to write a book that captured the adventures of marriage. I wanted it to be real, but relatable. I wanted to show that the different stages in marriage were only temporary, even the good ones. I’m a Christian through and through and I prayed for an outlet to share my innermost thoughts, suddenly God gave me this. This book is nothing like I thought it would be! But in a sense, everything I hoped it would be. I do hope you enjoyed it and realize that God honestly has a sense of humor for this. I love you just the way you are.




Lola’s Prayer Cocktail]

]]Y. L. Mitchell



Copyright © 2014 by Purposeful Changes Foundation
All rights reserved. No part of this book may be reproduced,
scanned, or distributed in any printed or electronic form without permission.
2nd Edition: February 2014
Printed in the United States of America
ISBN: 9781620308424

[The Biblical stories in this book are brought to life by the author in hopes to further convey the messages given to us through God’s Word, not to change or substitute meaning.*]



[[Have you had your drink today? For Jesus Christ is the water of life.
John 4:10]]

Dear Sister,

God is who He says He is. He is willing and able to clear the path of life for you; to make decisions seem simple and without complication. Allow your prayers to facilitate a change in your life. Our prayers are a better communicator than any texting, chatting, emailing, or video calling that we do!

Prayer is a direct connection to God heart to heart. He sees the innermost workings of you, and thirsts for your attention. Over the years, through many trials and tribulations, I have learned how to pray myself through myriad circumstances, so you could say that this is my testimony that I want to share. Let it inspire you to use prayer in any and all situations as the gateway to God’s heart.


Chapter 1

What Do You Really Want? (Ask God!)

Dear Sister,

Not long ago my husband and I moved to California, leaving behind his family and two relatively well paying jobs. Whoop! Whoop! No, it was not for fortune and fame! When we got to California we felt freer than we had in a while, but reality soon set in. After 10 to12 job interviews my husband was still no closer to the ideal job, which went along with the California fantasy. I had left behind the perfect school district and many friends in order to move to California, and although at least now I was with most of my family, I felt like I sacrificially let go of the countless years in school, boot-camp student-teaching and other career hurdles, when I left my dream job. But, I had to listen to my spirit, which was easy to do at that time, because I had practiced hearing from God. I knew what questions to ask, and how to decipher my own thoughts from His voice. A part of having a conversation with God is asking yourself beforehand what it is that you really want from Him.

One cannot be prepared for something while secretly believing it will not happen.”
~ Nelson Mandela

Indeed, one cannot ask for something while secretly believing God is not able. Let me set the scene:

You are a princess in a vast kingdom. Your father is a very well-respected and fair ruler of this kingdom. He has many children, but you know he has a special place in his heart for you. You’ve gotten to the point where you’re feeling unsettled where you are in life, and because your father has a reputation for giving his children whatever they ask for (in moderation) you consider asking him for…Hmmm what? Do you even know what it is exactly that you need at this point in your life? That is truly the crux of the matter, is it not?! (Sorry, I was still in my medieval character. Okay, where was I?) Many of us believe that God will automatically give us whatever He sees fit, and that is not entirely the truth. Our princess in this situation had a roof over head, more clothes than she could ask for, food of ever variety, but she was not content. Yes, the Lord will provide for you, and yes he loves you and cares for you, but your relationship with God must be like a princess who has a royal father, meaning God has everything at his disposal, but it is necessary to ask for certain things.

It’s all a part of having faith. But just as with a human child, no one likes a child who only speaks to their parent when they want something. It is important to have a relationship with God the same way you have a relationship with your closest female friend. Talk to him when you are happy, discontent, nervous, sad, angry, ambivalent, excited, etc. He yearns to have a relationship with you. Consider a father who loves his child, but his child somehow is being kept from him. Hear his anguish and understand that’s how God feels when you don’t speak to him regularly. Having a continuous relationship with the Lord will teach you how He speaks to you, and will help you cultivate a relationship with Him that will make for way better decision making.

So when I got to California I had to ask myself what I really wanted, and not just that, I asked God what he really wanted from me. When it came down to deciphering what I wanted, I had to consider what desires were in my heart. Figuring out what you really want may take many moments alone in prayer and meditation. You may even have to ask God to reveal what your next step in life is, because honestly, many of the things we think are just right for us are the opposite of what we should really have.

Is there a certain guy that you’ve had your eyes on? Have you been wishing he would notice you or ask you out? Or maybe there’s a guy already in your life who doesn’t treat you the way he should? Instead of asking God for a particular guy, or even asking Him to shape up the guy you’re currently dating, maybe you should consider asking God for a man who will see you and know that you are exactly what he’s been looking for; a man who will treat you like the princess that you are. If that man happens to be your crush, great! And if the guy who’s treating you not so nice begins to completely change, then that’s also great.

But sometimes it’s not necessary to be too specific because God knows the best plan for our life. Simply asking for your life companion to come at the right time in your life might be enough! He will weed out all the unnecessary and give you the best. There’s a famous quote that has been used most recently by Kerry Washington, a famous actress: “God has three answers to prayers: yes; yes, but not yet; or no, I have something better.” If we approach prayer and requests with the idea that no matter what, your prayers will bear fruit, then there really is nothing to fear! I leave you with this scripture:

Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives; he who seeks finds; and to him who knocks, the door will be opened*.* Matthew 7: 7-8 (NIV)

Prayer Starter:

Dear God,

I thank you wholeheartedly for the opportunity to come to you at any time. I thank you also for your faithfulness, because although I may waver in my commitment, you are always right there waiting for me to come back. Please forgive me for ever losing faith in you, and for not giving as much as I know I can. Lord, help me to desire only the things that are good for me, and to forget the things that are bad. When I come before you with requests please help me to listen and wait for your response. Also help me to have peace about whatever your answer may be. In the name of Jesus, my Savior, Amen!

Let’s take a look at how God answers Hanna’s prayers…

*Hannah was once again downhearted. She tried to keep a brave face for her husband, Elkanah, but it was so hard keeping her eyes averted from her sister-wife Peninnah. Hannah blinked furiously to subdue the impending tears. It would truly make Peninnah’s day to know that her back-handed taunts had hit their mark. Hannah sighed, if only she could have a child of her own, preferably a son that could carry on her husband’s name. Not that a daughter would not be a blessing too, Hannah thought, but a son carried extra insurance for he would have the full privileges of the law. Turning her head while using her head covering to shield her face, Hannah watched her husband, her brown eyes softened as she viewed him. If there was one thing Hannah had no doubt of, it was her husband’s love. He truly adored her, and made her feel beautiful despite the fact that she couldn’t conceive.

As Elkanah separated the meat for the sacrifice, as was the Jewish custom, he gave his wife Peninnah and her children each their portion. Hannah tensed in anticipation of what Elkanah would do next. Every year as Elkanah doled out the offering meat he gave each of his children and Peninnah their portion, but when he got to Hannah hers was always twice as much. For years Hannah had told Elkanah that it was not necessary, but year after year he did the same thing. To Hannah all this ever did was fuel her sister-wife’s hatred. As Elkanah turned to gather the large portion of meat for Hannah, Peninnah leaned toward her, “It’s such a pity that our husband feels so sorry for you that he must give you so large a portion. Maybe he thinks the meat will provide your womb what it needs in order to produce fruit.” She sat back when Elkanah approached and laid Hannah’s healthy portion in front of her. Hannah offered Elkanah a pained smile, but refused to cry in the presence of her husband or Peninnah and her children.

After the sacrifice was complete and Hannah was left alone, she could no longer contain her tears. She wept for the child she thought she may never have, until she felt someone rubbing her back. She looked up into her husband’s concerned eyes, “I saw that you had not eaten and I came in search of you. I know that it bothers you greatly that the Lord has not blessed you with a son. But my love, aren’t I enough?”

Hannah sighed; every year it was the same. She would cry, and it would hurt Elkanah’s feelings. “I’m fine, my love. Please leave me as I converse with the Lord.” Knowing that it was no use to argue, Elkanah gave her, her space. As Hannah violently rocked from side to side, she fell to the floor holding her chest in earnest for the pain in her heart seemed too much to bear. She raised her hands to the side and cried out to the Lord. She made a vow to God, saying, “Oh Lord Almighty, if you will only look upon your servant’s misery and remember me, and not forget your servant but give her a son, then I will give him to the Lord for all the days of his life, and no razor will ever be used on his head.”

Eli, the priest, observed Hannah as she prayed. He shook his head mistaking her fervor for that of a woman who was drunk. Tired of her making a spectacle of herself, Eli called out to her, “How long will you keep on getting drunk? Get rid of the wine!” Hannah stopped praying, startled by her audience. “I’m not drunk on wine, my Lord. I’m just troubled and praying to God.” Eli inclined his head in acknowledgment, “Go in peace, and may the God of Israel grant you what you have asked of him.”

Not too long after that Hannah conceived and gave birth to a son named Samuel. She dedicated him to the Lord, and after he finished nursing she took him to the temple as she had promised. He was to be raised by Eli the priest and live his days as a servant of God. After Hannah gave Samuel back to the Lord she was not sad, as one might expect; she was truly joyful. She took the time to sing a praise song to God, for He had answered her most fervent prayer!

Remember, “Yes; yes—but not yet; or no, I have something better.”

Samuel became one of the most notable prophets, and was the youngest prophet in the Bible to be called by God. Had he not been born at exactly the right time he would not have been in a position to take over the role of prophet from Eli and his sons. Be assured God answers all prayers!

*The Story of Hannah (an interpretation) 1 Samuel chapters 1 & 2: 1-11 Additional Scriptures: Phil 4: 4-7

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Lola's Marriage Cocktail

From the author of Lola's Prayer Cocktail, Y. L. Mitchell, has written a fun and poignant selection of marriage poems, called Lola's Marriage Cocktail. This new "cocktail" is sure to resonate with men and women alike. The short read makes it easy to pick up and not put back down. If you're married, soon to be, or honestly neither, you'll still find this assortment of marital poems fun, thought-provoking, and refreshing!

  • ISBN: 9781370367917
  • Author: Y. L. Mitchell
  • Published: 2016-09-20 23:35:22
  • Words: 4960
Lola's Marriage Cocktail Lola's Marriage Cocktail