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How to Shift Your Atmosphere

HOW TO SHIFT YOUR ATMOSPHERE

By

FREDERICA A. PETERSON, M.A., CPC

COPYRIGHT 2017 FREDERICA A. PETERSON

Table of Contents

Intro

My Journey

Masks and Walls

Shifting Your Atmosphere

Trials

Living Free!

The Power of Choices

Everyone Has the Power to Choose

You Wake Up Everyday With a Choice

Excuses Are Just That, a Choice is a Choice

What a Difference a Choice Makes

If You Didn’t Have a Choice Who’d You Give it To?

Conclusion

About the Author

Intro

I believe there is no greater tragedy than unrealized potential. Through my own experience I discovered that a change in perspective is essential in helping you live up to your potential; I call that process, Shifting Your Atmosphere. _]It’s all about transitioning from where you are to where you want to be. Atmosphere, according to Webster’s Dictionary, is “[_the pervading tone or mood of a place or situation…moving from one place, or season to the next;” and Transition is defined as “the process or a period of changing from one state or condition to another.” Let me take you through my transition journey and how I learned to Shift My Atmosphere.

My Journey

I left a 30-year successful career in corporate America to pursue my calling and my passions. My transition journey began over 10 years ago when I started to feel unfulfilled in the work I was doing. I was experiencing an inward discontent that I couldn’t satisfy. At the time, I didn’t know what it was or what to do about it? Eventually, it took losing my father and months later my dear friend to begin the process of inner reflection.

Dealing with the “dash” of people’s lives can cause you to really take a hard look at your own life and the impact you are making on others. I found myself asking the questions, “What kind of legacy am I creating?” “What am I doing to impact the world to make it better?” I knew I had unique gifts and talents but they didn’t fit into the confines of the work I was doing and I couldn’t see myself operating outside of that realm because I had lost my true identity chasing after “the dream.”

After a great deal of inner struggle, I made the decision to leave corporate America and pursue my dreams. I was on the road to pursuing my purpose and things were starting to come together until the unexpected happened; I lost my oldest nephew to a senseless act of violence. It shook my family and I to the core! Sometimes, it takes a jolt to unsettle some things within us that never should have been “settled” in the first place.

When you are stripped raw emotionally the effects can be life altering. For me it became difficult to identify who I really was at my core. I was dealing with a great deal of unprocessed grief. I was grieving for my old life, the people I lost along the way and the person I lost (me) in the process. I found myself in a place where I wasn’t being defined by my title or my work, which was difficult for me to wrap my head around? I had moved into a new “space” but I was still transitioning because there were some things I needed to process.

Everything in my life that felt comfortable and safe was no longer there and I was lost. I needed to start redefining who I was but I was floating around in a sea of doubt, fear, anxiety, distrust, disbelief and incredibly, excruciating pain. It was like all the things that I didn’t want to deal with and tried to bury deep inside me came flooding out in a massive gush! I had no more tools, scriptures, affirmations, or funny antidotes to mask all of the hurts, disappointments, injustices and loss that I had experienced and never dealt with. Yes, that one blow knocked me to my knees and all the stuff I had been carrying around sprawled across my existence and I was paralyzed.

I struggled with how to define myself now that all the titles were gone; I realized these things defined my worth and my purpose. This was a critical stage in my transition journey. I first needed to identify who I was before I could move on to who I was going to be. This is where the healing process began. It wasn’t easy but I wasn’t alone. Luckily I had some great friends and colleagues that helped me get back on my feet and dust myself off.

I also sought out counseling because there are times in your life when you can’t do it by yourself and you need to deal with some things so you can move forward and be set free. A non-judgmental ear is medicine to the soul. Without it I would not be where I am today, nor would I be equipped to help all the people I am helping because I truly understand and I have been there. It is my transition journey that got me to this place. I Shifted My Atmosphere and I want to help you realize you have the power to do the same.

Masks and Walls

Herein began the real journey. I started going through the process to become reacquainted with who I was. I had to make the distinction that this was not who people said that I was but who God said I am. In reality, no one really knew who I was anyway. There were so many masks and so many walls I had put up, they only knew who I let them see.

Consider this, the masks and walls we put up from our past hurts and disappointments will ultimately sabotage the ability for “right” relationships to come into our life. I went through life with a lot of masks and walls hiding me. They were there to shield the pain and the hurt but they ended up attracting more of the same because broken people attract broken people.

I learned that when you put on masks and put up walls it hinders your own vision and can often attract the wrong people into your life. These masks and walls can also cause delays, detours and ditches because when you are busy fooling around with the wrong people this can cause a delay connecting you to the right people you need in your life. People are attracted by what they “see” and if you are not representing who you really are, then you are attracting people to who you are “pretending” to be.

Shifting Your Atmosphere

So, how do you Shift Your Atmosphere? Along my transition journey I learned a lot of things that began changing my perspective and encouraging me to start living up to my potential. Here are a few of them…

Trials

There is no greater impact you will have on others then the way you manage trials in your life. This is true because every trial we go through is training ground to help other people. If you stay stuck where you are or allow your trial(s) to stop you how can you move forward to use that experience to help someone else get through and be free? It is all about building a bridge. Think of your trials as a time of building you up. Though it may not feel like, in fact it may feel like you are down for the count but that is your flesh talking. In the spirit, every trial you face is a teaching ground to take you higher in your gifts, in your calling, and get you closer to living up to your potential!

Living Free!

Surviving means we are victims of our circumstances and we have to do whatever is necessary to live (survive). When we are surviving we are not dealing with the things that got us to this place to begin with, we are merely storing them for safekeeping. It is the baggage that weighs us down and keeps us from moving freely. When we are in this state we have to adapt our decisions based on how freely we can move. We allow the baggage to determine our options. So our decisions are made from a place where our “junk” takes priority and our deepest desires, which hold great value, have to be put on hold.

Living free on the other hand is living baggage free! This takes some courage because we have to let go of some stuff that has become very comforting for us. We can get very comfortable in our dysfunction because it is familiar and it feels safe. We know what it is and why it’s there and we can wear it like a badge, though we don’t always realize that we have on a badge but trust me other people do.

Can you think of someone that is proud of his or her victimization, abuse, or disappointment? No? Sound too crazy? Well, that was definitely me. As long as I had an excuse for it is was perfectly acceptable and my behavior and thinking was fully justified. It sounded a little like this…”[_I have been through… so I am entitled to be …” _]Ha! Let me tell you where that will get you if you don’t already know, nowhere! If you allow it you can stay in that place and spin your wheels for the rest of your life! It can appear to be a more comfortable option than actually admitting to ourselves that we have an issue and dealing with our stuff. Some of us like walking around with lots of luggage because it reminds us of how strong we are. There are gyms for that, seriously.

Living free helps you realize that you have a choice. It is the place that allows us to make decisions that honor who we are and gives us the space to think clearly, move freely and align with our purpose and the vision we have for our life! It’s not allowing outside influences to convince us of what’s right for us, when most times they have an ulterior motive which benefits them (whether they acknowledge it or recognize it). Know that when you get to this place God is with you. As you take one step in faith, he takes five in your favor. You’re not in it alone but the decision to take the step is yours alone.

The Power of Choices

With dreams come vision and with vision comes choices. Every choice you make will either draw you closer or further away from the vision you have for your life, your career, your relationships, the list goes on. Being intentional about the steps you are taking to get closer to the things you want comes down to one small thing, choices.

Here are some basic principles about choices:

Everyone Has the Power to Choose

Everyone, no matter the situation, has the power to choose. There is power in your choices, real power. They don’t always result in a pleasant outcome (what will make your comfortable) but good choices are always leading you on the path to better things, even if they seem far, far away at the time. Just embracing your power to choose is a choice. Think about it…

You Wake Up Everyday With a Choice

Every day you live you have a choice. You can choose to live your life or just be a passenger along for the ride. The real challenge is not your power to choose, it is reconciling the consequence of your choice. We often confuse the two. Yes, there are consequences to our choices, good and bad. When choices start to feel like they are not an option it is often the sign of a series of poor choices or choices that we do not want to be accountable to. Please don’t misunderstand me, I realize it can feel like it is more complicated then a simple choice, life is complicated but no matter how challenging it gets never ever give up your power to choose. It is the difference between living your life and letting life happen to you. When you recognize the real struggle is the consequence of the choice then you can put things in proper perspective without losing your power.

Excuses Are Just That, a Choice is a Choice

There are lots of reasons why we may choose not to make a choice. It’s too difficult. You don’t want to own it. Or maybe, you don’t want things to change because…you fill in blank. It is all well and good but just know that excuses are excuses and a choice is a choice[. _]Period[._]

What a Difference a Choice Makes

Embracing the fact that you do have a choice about what goes on in your life and how you will honor yourself in the choices you make can Shift Your Atmosphere*._ A choice, even a difficult one, can evoke just the change you need to put you on the right road. Whether it is ending a relationship or embracing a new one; choosing to eat healthy or choosing not to; or choosing to save your money or choosing to spend it; I could go on and on but you get the idea. If you just give yourself the permission to live every moment honoring yourself in the choices you make I guarantee that you will start to see a change in your perspective[.*_]

If You Didn’t Have a Choice Who’d You Give it To?

It’s true! We give our power away every day when we decide to give someone else the power to choose what is best for us. When I hear someone say, “I didn’t have a choice.” I just shake my head because I realize that person has handed over their power to someone else. It is important to understand we all have a choice; it was even a choice when you decided you didn’t have a choice. Like I said earlier, it is a choice between living your life and letting life happen to you. Be empowered. Choose YOU!

Conclusion

One thing is guaranteed; we will all go through many transitions in our lifetime. Shifting Your Atmosphere _]is about being intentional as you journey through life by being present, showing up in your authenticity and embracing who you are. If you are not honoring those areas you are probably not living up to your potential and I will venture to guess that you are probably not fulfilled in your life either. So let me ask you this, what’s getting in your way? What is at risk if you don’t move it out of your way? Your potential influences your impact and the size of your impact depends on the clarity of your vision and your intention to achieve it. So I challenge you to ask yourself these questions; “Am I really living up to my potential? What will it take to start [_Shifting Your Atmosphere?

Perspective is everything.

About the Author

Frederica A. Peterson, M.A., CPC is a professionally certified Executive and Life Coach, best selling author, adjunct professor and radio and TV show host of “Shifting the Atmosphere with Frederica.” She is also CEO and Founder of her own coaching and consulting practice, Unique Insights Coaching, dedicated to helping executives and professionals achieve their path to success.

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How to Shift Your Atmosphere

Are you feeling unfulfilled in your career, relationships, or in your life? Your experiences can taint your perspective and cause you to fall short of your potential thus causing frustration and feelings of un-fulfillment. So, how do you get back on track? Learn how to shift your atmosphere. As a corporate leader and coach over the past two decades I have gained a great deal of experience in this area through the work I have done with others and my own life journey. In this book I have pulled together compilations of inspirational and motivational thoughts that capture some things I learned along the way that will provide you with life altering perspectives to help you get out of your own way, empower your thinking and start creating the environment for positive change.

  • ISBN: 9781370433032
  • Author: Frederica Peterson
  • Published: 2017-08-23 21:37:18
  • Words: 2690
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