A Book About Love and Happiness
By Magnus Ahlberg
Published by Maldorma at Shakespir
Copyright 2016, Maldorma and Magnus Ahlberg.
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English translation: Rebecca Ahlfeldt
Other titles published by Maldorma:
The Illusion: A Personal Journey Towards Spiritual Awakening
Magnus Ahlberg (2015)
Stepping Into the Unknown
Tobias Ahlberg (2016)
A Book About Love and Happiness
is the first book in the series
Heart to Heart
This book is for you.
You are unique.
You are meaningful.
You know this within yourself.
Never forget it.
Everyone wants to be happy, even those who aren’t aware of it. Most of what we do every day, we do just for this purpose. We might go to work to earn money, and we hope the money will help us feel better. Maybe we tell ourselves that we want a nicer and more expensive car because we like it, but most often it is actually the affirmation we’re looking for. We hope that material success will make other people look up to us and affirm that we’ve done something good.
Using, we treat other people with love for the same reason. We want them to reciprocate our proof of affection and like us. This is good, but oddly enough, we even do mean things to try to make ourselves feel better. Usually, this bottoms out in poor self-esteem, and therefore we believe, if only subconsciously, that maybe we’ll feel better if we can get others to feel just as bad or even worse than we do. In other words, the pursuit of happiness and confirmation plays out in many and sometimes strange ways, but the fact is that many people don’t really know what to do to be happy. At least not in the long term.
We live in a world where people perform miracles every day in the form of innovations and achievements, but we seemed to have failed to master perhaps the most fundamental piece of our lives, namely how to be happy. We’re certainly fed thousands of statement about what we need to achieve this or that, but the solution isn’t on the outside. You can acquire as many things as you want but still fail to create lasting happiness.
Maybe you’ve pushed yourself to the limit to reach different goals in an effort to win praise from others because you’ve noticed that you feel good when you get praise from what you’ve done. You may have managed to gain a respectable work role, with a title that others look up to. Despite all this, you have a hard time relaxing because your self-image now rests on your performance and not on who you are, and this means that you have to constantly try to maintain your position, which is constantly threatened by others’ accomplishments. You constantly compare yourself to others, and this leads you again and again away from happiness. In many ways, we live in a very disorienting society.
But there is a lot of good advice out there on what we can do to create happiness and love in our lives, and much of that advice works. However, all too often the advice is too fuzzy, imprecise or incomplete. This is why I decided to write this book. I want to show as clearly and simply as I can what you can do to succeed in creating love and happiness in your life. It’s actually easier than your think.
The technique that I will describe is not tied to any religion or life philosophy; it can be used regardless of your background. It’s universal and completely independent of culture, income, nationality or anything else we identify with. It’s doesn’t even require you to buy something that I describe here in this book. It’s enough that you simply give this method a chance, and you will find that it works. You will find a practical guide that you can start using today.
The technique can easily be explained in a few pages, and I do not intend to pad this book just for the sake of it. Rather, I intend to make this simple and concise. Nor do I want to charge you anything more for this information above the printing costs if you decide to buy a print book. The only thing I want is for you to know how meaningful and fantastic you are and how you can help to make the world we live in a better place for everyone. The only thing I want is for you to be happy.
If you feel that what I write in the book resonates with you, you are more than welcome to share the message I present with others. This is a universal truth that belongs to no one and everyone. I am convinced that you will feel that what I am describing is true because within you, you already know this. You only need to be reminded to remember it’s true. You are meaningful. You are unique. You are fantastic. You are loved. Never forget this and be happy.
Magnus Ahlberg 2016-04-14
Every person is meaningful. Each person is unique and important and has the right to be acknowledged just for that. For just a moment, I want you to think of this as a universal truth and not an assertion. It doesn’t matter what you really think about the statement, but let’s just present for a moment that it’s true. I’m convinced that once you see what I’m describing, you’ll understand that this is that truth. I’ll say it again: Every person is meaningful. They have a right to be validated just for that.
All humans have an innate feeling that they should be important and happy, but they aren’t sure of this feeling. Unfortunately, we have created a world where this understanding is not valued. We don’t learn this in our society. Instead, we’ve created a world where we are fooled into believing that we need to achieve a lot of things to be happy and get validation. Society seems to say that there are requirements in order to feel that you are important. You have to achieve different things and receive recognition for these achievements. We have to be thin, beautiful, rich, have the right job, and so on. The list is long. We chase happiness outside of ourselves all the time, in a constant search of being validated, but the whole time it feels as if happiness lies in front of us. We can get occasional glimpses of it, but it always seems to pass, whether it’s sooner or later. Something wasn’t right this time either, and the hunt continues. But even those who achieve many things on the list can feel empty and downright cheated. Where did the promised happiness go?
In some people, this feeling that everyone has meaning is certainly stronger than in others, but in everyone, to some extent, this feeling exists, however small. It can manifest itself in many ways. In people whose feeling is very weak, whose thoughts constantly tell them that they’ll never amount to anything, that they’re not worthy of love, the feeling can manifest itself as a desire to want to feel important and loved. This desire is actually not a desire; it is the inner knowledge that we really ought to be important and loved, and that something is wrong because we still don’t feel that way. However, negative thoughts overpower this feeling, and we don’t hear its message. The fact that you are not grounded in this feeling is the cause of suffering. We know that something is wrong, but we feel powerless. We are unable to turn the ship around. We feel helpless and poor, and with time a growing self-loathing takes hold.
For everyone that can more or less identify with what I have just described, I have some good news. There is a simple way to remedy this and find lasting happiness in life. Your feeling has always been right. You are important and you are worthy of being loved. It is your birthright. Your value is not in your performance. You are valuable just because you are. You are valuable just as you are. It is entirely possible for you to live happily every day for the rest of your life, and best of all, it’s not as difficult as you think.
The basic problem we have in our society is that many people believe that their importance is measured in their performance. When we don’t believe that we’re valuable just as we are. When we believe that we must live up to one measurement or another, and unhappiness is born. This unhappiness stems from a self-loathing. That is to say that we doubt our value as humans because we cannot live up to all the requirements we think we have to fulfill.
Even those who managed to meet the external demands discover that happiness does not last, even though they have done their utmost to live up to these demands. We cannot achieve lasting happiness by searching for it in our performances; happiness hide in the feeling that we are valuable just as we are. That we don’t need to do anything at all to be loved and respected. Once you find that feeling, that you are valuable just as you are, all the demands fall away, and you’ll find an underlying, unshakable happiness.
This does not mean you should stop trying to achieve things when you’ve found this feeling. Successful pursuits also give joy, but if you tie your value to your performance, you will never be happy for long. Therefore, it is imperative that you find the feeling that you are valuable just as you are, and this book is about how to do just that.
It is easy for me to say that your value is not based on your performance, that you are valuable just as you are. You’ve probably heard it before from others, yet you still don’t feel it. As hard as you try, you can’t make yourself believe these words. To overcome our self-loathing, our self-doubt, is very difficult. We can certainly succeed in this completely on our own, but everyone who has tried knows that it’s not easy. Therefore, I recommend letting others do the work for you. You can certainly work by yourself at the same time, but it is easier and faster to let others do the heavy lifting.
But how can I manage this? you may ask. I’ll get to that shortly, but it’s easy. You’ll see. Before I go into the technique itself, I first want to go deeper into what I described before: we all have an innate sense that we should be important and worthy of love. It’s in all of us, whether we can hear it or not. If you listen carefully, you will notice that, somewhere inside you, you believe that you ought to feel important, just as you are, and that you are worthy of love, just as you are. Listen carefully and you will find this feeling that hides within us all.
As I wrote earlier, society’s demands can make our thoughts drown the feeling so that we can no longer feel more than a slight yearning for something better. If our intellect constantly tells us that we won’t amount to anything, how can we possibly have the strength to build this feeling? Many people don’t have the strength alone, and that is why you should let others strengthen it for you.
The feeling that we are important and that we are worthy of love becomes stronger when it is confirmed by others. Every time someone tells you that they like you for who you are, this feeling to grows a little, and gradually it grows stronger and stronger.
You will certainly hear this kind of validation from time to time from the people around you, but the problem is that if it goes too long between these experiences, the feeling sinks back down again because so much in both our internal and our external environments push it down. The criticism of others and our own self-criticism suffocates the feeling. Therefore, it must be validated often. So often that it grows faster than our thoughts have time to press it down. If it is validated daily, it will eventually become so strong that you start to believe the feeling because if everyone says it to you all the time, then it must surely be true! You will end up not having any other choice than to believe what others say because the feeling is a universal truth. You are important and worthy of love. Those who tell you that you are valuable as you are just confirm what you already know within you but have not dared to believe.
The secret to making people feel good, then, is that they often, and I mean often, need to be validated for the important, unique and fantastic person they actually are. They need to be told that they are important just as they are, without performing. Each person’s inherent feeling that he or she is worthy of this needs to be reinforced over and over again until that person believes in it. This is how to make another person feel loved and happy. By giving them validation without demands and giving it often. Not just sometimes, but often.
In other words, you can make a difference for others. You are meaningful.
There are many ways you can validate other people. For example, you can tell them that they have nice clothes, they are good at their job or that they are beautiful. All of these affirmations are good to give to people, and they will most often make them feel better. However, there is a risk with this kind of confirmation: namely that it instills a belief in the recipients that they have to be or act a special way to feel wanted and important. The best form of acknowledgment is the absolutely unconditional kind, where you tell people that they’re amazing just the way they are, no matter what kind of clothes they wear or how they’ve performed. You validate them without requiring anything at all. Only their existence is enough for you to appreciate them.
This type of affirmation goes deeper than any other. The recipient does not need to tie his or her value with anything external or with their accomplishments; the person can feel that his or her unique human expression is amazing enough. To hear that we are appreciated just because we exist goes straight to the depths of the heart and strengthens the innate feeling I wrote about previously. A finer compliment cannot be given, and it does wonders to the person’s self-image and well-being.
To be met with a wide smile or a warm hug is good and important, but the spoken word is more powerful. To really tell a person in words how much you appreciate him or her goes deeper than a smile or a gesture because speaking it aloud decreases the potential for misunderstandings and doubts. A person with poor self-esteem often needs clear affirmations to be able to really take them in. Therefore, it is extremely important that we become better at actually telling each other how much we appreciate each other, and we need to do it often. We need to remind each other of that every day.
It is also very important that we mean what we say, because if we don’t mean it, the receiver most likely will notice this. Therefore, we should say things we really mean, and say them with our hearts and even with a smile and a squeeze on the shoulder, or why not with a hug?
Look the people in the eyes when you validate them. It is no coincidence that the eye is called the soul’s home. So much more is communicated through eye contact. The words will lose much of their force if you don’t look the person in the eye at the same time. To look someone in the eye and give a full honest and frank validation hits the person directly in his or her heart. The receiver is defenseless and cannot help but feel happy and touched by your loving sincerity. Your words can change a person’s whole life in a day.
When I started practicing this technique, I worked as a teacher at a school and decided to try it with my students. These were children, ages 11-13 years old. I explained to them what to do to make each other feel good, how to strengthen each other’s self-esteem.
After I explained the technique to them, we went around the class, one student at a time, and said what a great and unique person he or she was. We looked each person in the eye, and such nice words came from classmates that I astonished at how well they were able to express themselves to each other. During this brief exercise, something fantastic happened. The room was filled with radiant joy, warmth and big smiles. I particularly remember how a boy burst into tears, and I realized that he may have rarely heard these things about himself.
After we had gone around the circle, I asked the kids how it had felt when they heard how appreciated they were. I then asked them to remember this feeling so that they would understand why it is so important that we say these things to each other and that we do it often. We continued to work with this technique every day in different ways. We started each lesson by giving each student a validating comment and this set the tone for the rest of the lesson. Some of the students’ school performances began to improve, both in regards to quantity and quality.
In the following weeks, something magical happened. I witnessed how the children radiated with love and joy, and several times a day, I was met with hugs. I could also see how a student who previously felt very bad due to self-loathing now met me with a smile every time he saw me. His whole attitude changed during the course of a week.
This is the technique I recommend: To tell the people around you that you appreciate them just as they are. You give their existence the value they deserve. Without demands. You should do it honestly and often. Learn to tell several people a day how much you appreciate them. This applies to both children and adults.
Everyone carries this innate feeling that they are important and worthy of being loved. All you need to do is to validate it in others with gestures and actions but, above all, in words. This will make this innate feeling grow in those you validate and thereby strengthen their self-images. This will in turn lead them to feel happy, noticed and loved.
What I describe here is nothing new, and many people already do this. The problem is that we do not do it often enough and clearly. If it only happens sometimes, the self-esteem of the receiver falls again before the next confirmation comes. Therefore it is very important that we acknowledge each other often. Every time a person is told that he or she is important and loved, this feeling will slowly grow within him. Eventually the person will believe what everyone says and thus completely feel important and loved. The person will be happy.
How long it takes for a person to believe in the words he or she hears can vary. A person with very low self-esteem will have to hear it many times and often before allowing him- or herself to believe what is said, but believe me, even if the results aren’t immediately apparent, even if the person gets angry the first times because of self-hate, the words touch the receiver. Do not give up. Every time you and others tell someone how much you love him of her, the innate feeling will grow, and it will feel better and better. You cannot avoid this truth: We are meaningful. The negative thought patterns have no chance against the feeling your words instill in the heart of the listener.
Sincere, unconditional and loving validation possesses a magical power. It tears down all defense mechanisms. Bitter and angry people cannot continue to be angry when they are flooded with validations that don’t require that they have to change themselves. However, if you demand that they change to get your validation, they would immediately go on the defensive and find reasons to attack you. But when you acknowledge them without demands, these people often react with bewilderment. It becomes impossible for them to dislike you, to be unkind to you. They may try for a while, but quickly their game goes south. They will notice that they like you, that you make them feel good and they are happy around you. Their resentment will flow out of them and be replaced with love and joy.
The most important thing is that you do this often, preferably daily, and to as many people as possible. Start with loved ones, but with time you’ll learn even to validate strangers, such as the cashier at the grocery store, the mailman, or why not a stranger you pass on the street?
Don’t think that it’s enough to tell a person how much you appreciate him or her once. You have to do it often enough so that the person’s self-loathing does not have time to pull him or her back down.
The biggest obstacle to actually applying what I have just described is the fear of what others will think of us. We are afraid that others will think that we’re acting strange. Don’t worry about that. It doesn’t matter if they think that you’re acting strange. In fact, they will think that, but not in a bad way. They will not be able to resist completely loving the person you have become, since everyone likes to be validated. They will love the new but strange you, and soon they will get used to the way you are now.
If it feels scary to change your behavior so quickly, then by all means do it gradually. But make sure you do not stop at single validations; make sure you actually increase the quantity gradually.
One tip is to actually tell others why you do this. That you realize that this is important and tell them that you intend to validate them from now on. Then it won’t be seen as a sudden change. They will see the good in what you say and agree with you.
Another way to make it easier for yourself is to figure out different ways to validate others. It may not always be most appropriate to approach a person with a serious expression and strong eye contact to tell him or her how much they mean to you. Sometimes you can validate in a playful yet fully sincere manner. Do it with a twinkle in your eye. You will quickly notice that you can tell people that they are great just as they are in many different ways that suit different situations. Sometimes the situation requires a big hug and a serious but loving face. Sometimes it’s better to give someone a pat on the back and laugh when you tell them.
I urge you to spread your love to as many people as possible over time. You’ll see that even total strangers are fantastic and important people, and you can acknowledge this even with them. Why not tell the cashier at the grocery store that you’re so happy to see her, she’s friendly and you appreciate the service she gives you? Why not stop a stranger and tell him that he looks nice or that his smile makes you happy? You will be amazed at the effect this will have. Maybe you will change the person’s whole life with this innocent little comment. Find your opportunities, but be sure to do it. And do it often, often, often, often! Did I say that you should do this often? Tell people how important they are. How happy you are that they are who they are. Tell it to as many people as you can, as often as you can!
What you do is important. You matter.
I have talked a lot about how you can enhance the innate feeling of being important in others so that they can be happy and feel loved, but does this affect your own need for validation? How does this strengthen your own innate sense of feeling important and loved? Aren’t you also worthy of this validation?
Well, you are, and this is where the magic comes into the picture. Because when you validate other people for exactly who they are, daily and without expectations, something magical happens. The people you love will spontaneously reciprocate your validations because you make them happy. They can’t help but share this feeling with you for they genuinely love you for what you do for them, for the amazing person they feel you are. They will tell you how much they like you, that they’re happy when they’re near you. All the validation you have given them, they will give back to you. You will receive spontaneous hugs, smiles and comments, and your innate feeling will also grow strong, and you will bathe in the love of others and live happily.
It’s also true that making others happy is very satisfying. You’ll notice that you’ll hardly be in need of validation yourself. Just to see the way what you do for others makes them bubble over with joy is rewarding enough.
Creating an environment where you constantly give and receive love will bring much joy and contentment to other people’s lives as well as your own. You will long to see your family, your friends and colleagues, all the people you have validated and who now give back what you have done for them. Your days will be transformed to hold laughter, joy and warmth, and this is what makes people happy.
It’s actually not more difficult than this to be happy and create love in your life. By validating others often, you yourself will often be validated for who you are. This validation will fill your life with joy. Every day.
Your success with this technique correlates directly with the extent to which you are practicing this method. The more often you validate others, the more often they will validate you. The more people you validate, the more people who will validate you. It’s as simple as that. It is crucial that you do this to the extent that your habitual negative thoughts and emotions don’t have a chance against the love you now encounter. If you practice this, your life will soon be filled with joy and love.
You are worth it.
Joy is best shared with others. Therefore, it is important that you share with others what to do to create love and joy in our lives. To really make a difference for people, it is important to not only spread love and validate others but also to teach them how to do it and why it works. We can encourage people to validate each other often so that they become aware of how this process works. In this way, they can also create happy lives and enhance the lives of even more people.
It is important not to just stop at creating a good environment around yourself. Others should also have the opportunity to create these kinds of loving environments in their lives. The best thing about love and joy is that there can never be too much of it. On the contrary, it benefits everyone in a world where such a climate rules.
Teaching people how to create love and joy for themselves and for others will increase the efficacy of this method many times over. When you really understand how and why it works and thus actively work with this, you will to spread your love to a much greater extent than otherwise. If you do not make your listeners aware of how the process works, there is a great risk that they will fall into old habits and stop at simply returning the validation they received from you. They might not think about doing the same for others.
In other words, those that you validate will feel good when they’re around you, but how does this help the people you only meet occasionally? Although your individual validations are amazing gifts, these people would benefit far more if they really understood how and why you are feeling good and thus can practice this technique themselves. Therefore, we should spread our knowledge if we believe in it. To be a person who contributes to really changing the lives of others is a very rewarding feeling and a feeling where you give yourself the affirmation you want, to really get to feel important. To know that your wisdom is passed on.
You have the tool for improving your fellow humans’ lives, so please use it. Let your innate power to come into its own. You really are more important than you can imagine. You can change the world, one act of kindness at a time. Never think that your actions will not produce ripples in the water, for they will. More than you think. Especially if you are actively working to educate others so that they can also create their own ripples in the water until the entire ocean is in motion, in order to once again lead the way.
You can change the whole world.
Sometimes people ask me if it is not selfish to spread love because you yourself want to be happy. The answer to that question is that of course it is selfish, but that doesn’t mean it’s bad. There are two different kinds of selfishness. In one kind, a person attempts to pull others down to lift him- or herself. The person may acquire economic benefits at the expense of others or perhaps make a joke at the expense of others. There are thousands and thousands of ways to be selfish at the expense of others, but that’s not what you do to create a happy life.
A person can also be selfish when he lifts himself by lifting others. Together we all become richer. There is nothing wrong with wanting to feel good as long as it’s not at someone else’s expense. On the other hand, it’s destructive to want to hurt yourself. What kind of world would we have if no one wanted to feel good? How many people would be happy then? None!
The outlook you should to try to cultivate is that you genuinely want the best for yourself and others. It doesn’t matter if you don’t feel that way at first, because when you start to validate others and get this validation in return from them, you will automatically begin to feel more for others. You have an underlying connection to them, whether you can feel it today or not, and it will come out in the right circumstances. For some this process may take a little longer, but it will happen sooner or later when you start to work for it.
Therefore, we should always work to make others feel good. It’s not enough to simply validate others if we then speak negatively about them behind their backs or doing anything to harm them. This cancels out the positive work we have done. It is important that we work on cultivating a positive view of humanity that really permeates all our thoughts as well as our actions. We can learn to see the good in everyone we meet and love them for exactly who they are, all their flaws included. We can understand that people behave as they do because of their histories, that they are doing the best they can based on their circumstances. Instead of judging them and resent them, we can meet them with love and show what they can do instead to be a good person. When you do these things, you will soon notice how incredibly effectively your loving words break down all negative barriers.
To really succeed with this method, it may be a good idea to work with your own character flaws at the same time. The good news is that your own work will be much easier when you also spread love because then you get validations from others who will help your belief in your own ability to grow. As I wrote at the beginning of this book, with this method you can hand over the heavy lifting to others. Once others validate you, it will be much easier to accept yourself for who you are, which includes your flaws.
Just as you should validate others for exactly who they are, without conditions or demands, the goal is also for you to accept yourself for exactly who you are. We all have bad sides, and there is nothing wrong with this. Your value does not diminish because you have flaws; they are part of being human. The important thing is what we do with them, how we manage them. We can let them take over, bring out our claws as soon as someone points them out, or we can accept that sometimes we make mistakes and ask for forgiveness when it happens. To truly show remorse when you’ve done something wrong often eases the bed feelings that the action provoked.
Don’t think that you can push aside your bad sides or hide them. It doesn’t work that way. This approach will only strengthen them. The best way to work with our bad sides is to accept that we have them and not look down on ourselves. We can view them as injured body parts. Give them the care and love and they will heal themselves. A wound is at risk of becoming infected if ignored, but if treated with gentleness, covered and given care, it heals more quickly and does not leave an equally ugly scar behind. The only way to get rid of our bad sides is to first accept them as they are and then give them love. They will automatically be transformed into good sides. We should not try to cut off parts of ourselves – they are part of us – but we can change them instead. If you follow the advice I give in this book, you will see how quickly your life changes for the better.
You’re amazing just the way you are. You can do all of these things today.
The simple technique I described in this book will bring you a life full of joy, love and happiness, but it will not magically remove all the suffering from your life. Of course, you can still face tough situations. Maybe someone you love will pass away or suffer from an illness. Your home may be destroyed in a fire or your partner may leave you. The method will not protect you against such setbacks in life, but it will help you get through these adversities more easily. All the love you’ve given others will come in handy on the day you need support and comfort. You can use the love you’ve created around you, rest in its arms when you go through something difficult. Allow yourself to be wrapped in comforting arms that now will be there for you, just as you once were there for them. Let this love help pick you up again.
In other words, much can happen to disturb your life even if you are greeted daily with smiles and warmth. This is why it is important to further solidify and stabilize the love you create in your life, thus making yourself even stronger when you encounter setbacks. You do this by cultivating gratitude for what you have in your life. Gratitude can help you to see the positive more than the negative, and it gives you a sense of peace and tranquility that will quietly be with you all the time, even when the storms rain down around you. You will no longer be affected as much as when the wind changes its course for a while.
There’s an awful lot you can be grateful for in your life, but the fact is that it’s enough to be grateful for just one thing, namely that you exist. Just think about what a miracle it is that you, just as you are, exist. The odds of you, just as you are, came to be are infinitesimal, yet it is so. That in itself is enough to be thankful for.
It is actually a miracle that life exists at all. How can it be that so-called dead matter can become conscious and live? This is one of science’s unsolved mysteries. Yet we are living and conscious, and we should be grateful for this wonderful gift. Imagine that you get to be just you! There is no one else who shares your particular experience.
If you sit down and really feel that you are alive and that you are grateful for this fact, you will automatically be grateful for everything in your life. Your existence is shaped by everything you experience. What makes you experience yourself, that you exist, is that you are experiencing. All your relationships, friends, all the animals you’ve met, all of nature that you’ve seen, is part of what it means to be you and only you. All the love and joy you’ve experienced, all your suffering, all the grief you have experienced, have shaped who you are today. All this is your life, your existence. By being grateful that you are alive, you are grateful for all that your life ever contained and includes right now. Everything that formed you into who you are.
To be thankful that you live includes also being grateful for your suffering. If you had not gone through the tough periods in your life, the love you now create with this method might not have felt so sweet. If you had not experienced the suffering, you might not have felt this experience as strongly now. Be grateful for this, and be grateful for what you are creating in your life.
Cultivate this gratitude, and you will notice that the suffering of the past that was like a heavy weight on your shoulders now transforms into something that, with its contrast, strengthens the love and happiness in your life. When you go through tough periods, rest in your feeling of gratitude, and the pains will pass without you letting them drag you down. On the contrary, these will strengthen your love of life, your community and yourself – the amazing, wonderful person that you are.
If you practicing what I have described in this short book, you will create a life full of love and happiness. You can then ground this happiness in the soft peace of gratitude. Feel love’s elation during the day and rest in gratitude’s arms in the evening. Live the life you are worthy of living. Feel that your happiness is important. It is your right.
Never forget, not even for a second, that you are unique, magnificent, beautiful, meaningful, good and worthy of unconditional love. Express who you are. Remember who you really are, and your life will turn into something you can’t even imagine.
Live with love.
Realize your true self.
Never forget who you are.
You are important.
You are beautiful.
You are loved.
Never forget it.
It’s completely impossible to give love without feeling it yourself. In other words, you give love to yourself when you give it to others.
Magnus Ahlberg has devoted most of his life to understanding humans’ inner nature and finding answers to the question of how to be happy and find inner peace.
After studying traditional wisdom from around the world, trying different techniques and methods, as well as using knowledge drawn from his own experiences, he has chosen to share his knowledge so that other can benefit from it. Giving is actually one of the keys to well-being.
Together with his brother Tobias Ahlberg, author Magnus Ahlberg runs the company Maldorma.
The purpose of Maldorma is to spread knowledge on how people can work on themselves to develop and understand how happiness and love arises in their lives. To understand the importance of love, care and compassion. To understand that a person can make a difference.
Maldorma means “awake” in Esperanto, a language that was created with the goal of giving the world another language that wasn’t tied to a specific country and would therefore contribute to world peace.
In addition to publishing books, the brothers also give lectures and run courses and workshops.
To participate in Maldorma’s work and materials or to contact them, visit their website:
â€œItâ€™s completely impossible to give love without feeling it yourself. In other words, you give love to yourself when you give it to others.â€ This book is a pioneer in the so-called self-help book genre because the short, simple text covers all the essentials. In only a few pages, the book addresses the question that has puzzled the worldâ€™s seekers of wisdom for millennia: How do we find happiness? You will find concrete, practical advice on how, with a few simple tools, you can change your life in a short period of time and experience amazing results. The change begins when you read the first page, which contains a few, simple lines that go straight to the heart and start something. Something that soon finds its way further into deeper places but at all times carries with it a light of clarity and simple love. It is a book that evokes ancient wisdom about life in a very simple and understandable way that everyone can access. A book about love and happiness is for everyone that feels that happiness and self-love is the next stop on the trip, through the healing of both the self and others around. It is a book that will completely change the lives of everyone who embraces its message, but it also affects those who donâ€™t read it, since the processes it triggers within the readers create ripples that give value to anyone that crosses paths with them.