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The Power of Habit: Proven Step by Step Guide to Become a Highly Effective Perso

[The Power of Habit: Proven Step by Step Guide to Become a Highly Effective Person
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CATHERINE DAVIS

[Copyright © 2016 by Catherine Davis
**]All rights reserved. No part of this guide may be reproduced in any form without permission in writing from the publisher except in the case of brief quotations embodied in critical articles or reviews.

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[] Table of Contents

Introduction

Chapter 1 – Why Good Habits Matter

Chapter 2 – Rules Of Habit Making

Chapter 3 – How To Develop Good Habits And Transform Yourself

Chapter 4 – Common Habits That Are Ruining Your Life

Chapter 5 – Secret For A Habit Make-Over

Chapter 6 – Maintaining The Change You Will Make

Chapter 7 – 10 Proven Habits Of Successful People

Conclusion

[] Introduction

“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.” – Aristotle

In order to become successful in life, one must have discipline, determination and consistency in making something work. Even in the simplest things that you do -- whether at home, work or even in school -- there are steps that you need to follow in order to excel and eventually make excellence a part of your daily life. These are what we call habits.

If you are holding this book right now, I believe that you want to change and be a better person. Making good habits is as easy as making bad ones. However, it is always up to you how you can avoid making a bad one and instead create your own “good” habit, and make it a part of your everyday life. This book will help you accomplish that goal and help you understand the reasons why habit building is an important part of people’s lives.

It’s never too late to make the change. Start reading and be empowered. Be inspired and open your mind to the wonderful possibilities of transforming yourself into a better person.

[] Chapter 1 – Why Good Habits Matter

Are you tired of starting a new set of habits only to fail somewhere in the middle? Aren’t you wondering why, no matter how many books you buy and how many articles you read about habit-building, you still end up failing?

I’ll tell you why: the problem with those other books and articles available on the market is that they focus too much on how you can build the habit and how you can integrate it into your life. There is nothing wrong with that, but that process usually poses the same problem: it is prone to failing.

The reason why you normally fail is that you are too focused on the habit and how to make it a habit. This book has just the right solution for that. What you don’t realize is that you also have to change the way you think about it. Think of it as a house without a foundation. No matter how sturdy your materials are, if you don’t invest in a good foundation, a simple storm will blow your house away. However, a house that is built on a strong foundation will be able to withstand storms and even hurricanes.

So, basically, the first thing that you have to change is your mindset. One way to change your mindset is to look at the potential of what you are doing, instead of looking at how you can do it.

Why do these habits matter?

Listed here are the benefits of having good habits. Knowing the benefits will help you understand why these habits matter.

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Having good habits can result in your feeling fulfilled and energized to do more. An example of this is when you have a habit of exercising or even just plain walking in the morning. After you have done this habit, you will surely be more energized to go about your day.

If you want to start the habit in this example, a good tip is to put your jogging shoes by the foot of your bed when you sleep, and make sure to sleep in your workout clothes. In this way, when you wake up you are already dressed and your shoes are already there. There will be no more reason to be lazy.

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Aside from the energy boost, having good habits can also impact your overall health. An example of this is when you have developed a healthy way of eating as a habit. No matter how much you eat, you will be helping your body and not ruining it.

If you want to start this habit, a good way to do so is to get rid of all the unhealthy food in your house. The longer they stay in the house, the more chances you have of being tempted to eat unhealthily. If you want to have snacks, substitute refrigerated sliced or chopped vegetables. It will only be hard to adjust in the beginning, the same way other habits are, but once you get used to it, you will never return to the old bad snacking habits.

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Yes, you read that right. Good habits can help you live a longer life. An example of this is when you have a habit of meditating for a few minutes in the morning before you go about your day. This will not only help you be in tune with your body, this will help your mindset.

I hope these reasons are enough for you to be more motivated and to keep you from failing what you start. In the next chapter, the rules of habit making will be laid out for you to build a good foundation.

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[] Chapter 2 – Rules Of Habit Making

In the previous chapter, it was mentioned that to build a successful good habit, you must be able to create a great foundation. Habits built on strong foundations are more likely to stick than habits that are spur-of-the-moment desires to change.

Are you ready to start with your habit building journey? I have laid out some rules of habit building which you can see in the next paragraphs. Treat this as the tutorial part of a new game that you are playing. In the beginning, you will need help with every aspect of the game, but once you get the hang of it, you can finish the game without ever going back to the instructions again.

RULE #1 – Habits DO NOT take 21 days to stick.

I’m sure you have read the marketing strategy that in order to build a habit you have to continually do the habit every single day for 21 days. After 21 days, VOILÀ!

You have a new habit. Unfortunately they are just that, marketing strategies for people like you to buy their book, read their blog or go to their website. This is not even backed up by any research. In fact, an actual study was conducted and it shows that it could take a person roughly 18-254 days to fully form a habit. Imagine that, that is 12x more than what they are advertising [1].

So, if you want to build a good habit, do not believe in these kinds of ideas. Every person is different. A person’s capacity to form a habit greatly depends on the person, on the person’s environment and the person’s will. For you to be able to form a good habit, concentrate on yourself and do not compare yourself to others. The rule is to just go on.

RULE #2 – Parent Goals are important.

The second rule in habit making is to have a parent goal in every habit that you build. The reasons found in the first chapter of this book are great examples of parent goals. Parent goals can act as a motivator for you to be able to keep going. They can keep you walking even if you feel that you can no longer take another step. Instead of targeting 21 days just because they told you that, why don’t you target your own goals?

Every day when you wake up, there will be time that you will be lazy – if we are going to be honest with ourselves, there will be A LOT of days when you will feel too lazy to continue the habit that you are trying to develop. You will learn about developing good habits in the next chapters, but for now, you have to be able to focus on your parent goals.

For example, if you want to lose a lot of weight, treat that as your parent goal, and every small habit that you do should coincide with the parent goal. We will expound on this in the next rule. If you are faced with a decision between chips or salad, if you think about your parent goal, I’m sure I know what you’ll pick for a snack.

RULE #3 – Baby Goals are important as well.

If there are parent goals, of course there are babies as well. These baby goals are small habits that will help you ultimately reach your parent goal. Instead of being overwhelmed about the vagueness of your parent goal, you can focus on the small baby goals instead. Before you know it, you be closer to your parent goal than ever before.

Let us pick up from the last example. If you want to lose 50-100 lbs. you will not get anywhere if you don’t do anything to reach that. Starving yourself and aiming for a drastic change is definitely not a good idea. What is a better idea is to build baby goals and develop these small habits in order to get you closer to your goals.

Set milestones like “lose 10 lbs. a month.” In this way, you will be concentrating on the 10 lbs. and not on the 50-100 lbs. This seems better, right?

Now, in reaching your baby goal which is to lose 10 lbs. in one month, you can stack up some small habits to help you.

Here are some examples of small habits that you can stack:

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These are just some examples of small changes that you can do. I get that these are not easy, but that is why they are small, and that is why you have parent goals. Keep your eyes on your baby goal, but when the time comes that you are discouraged, stop for a moment and look at your parent goal. I’m sure every time you look at your parent goal, you’ll be surprised at how much closer you are already.

[] Chapter 3 – How To Develop Good Habits And Transform Yourself

Have you been in a situation where you wanted to set a goal of changing the way you behave for better, but then it comes to a point where, after a week or two, you realized that you just went back to your old habits? We have all been in this kind of situation and it’s really frustrating, especially when you think that your habits really need to be changed.

Why does it seem to be impossible to develop good habits? Why does it seem to be so difficult to have such a transformations? How come that, even with the greatest efforts, we still end up seeing just a little progress? What can we do?

Your Goals in Life Do Not Sync Well With Your Habits

It is normal that every time we set a goal, it just ends being way too different from what we really want to achieve, or maybe we try too hard to have the results that we want that we end up being overwhelmed and fed up, and realize that what we are doing is way out of reality. It is really frustrating to think that all we want is to be better, but we end up being worse.

The main reason for this is that we always try to solve the entire problem or situation all at once.

So, instead of having all these thoughts, plans, actions, and everything to be accomplished at once, why not try to start doing small routines one by one? Imagine how a small-sized ant makes plans of moving a piece of bread a hundred times its size. At first, it will get a small chunk of it, leave scented tracks (pheromones) on the way home, take it there, and then tell the entire ant family. The idea is to do things on a smaller scale rather than wanting to finish them off, one-shot-big-shot all at once. But the big question is -- how are we going to do it?

Building good habits is like building a toy house using Lego blocks. You don’t expect it to be built just by using bigger blocks right away; instead, you should start putting small pieces together in order for you to have the right parts for building. So the main point here is: if you want to make a real change in your life, or if you are pretty sure you are serious about starting to make changes in your life for the better, YOU SHOULD START SMALL.

Think about whether your usual habits are good, better, bad, or worse, like: stretching in the morning, ways you brush your teeth, biting your fingernails, over-blinking of your eyes, flicking your toes, putting your seatbelt on, etc.

These so called “actions” are too small to imagine that you are not oblivious to some of them. Those are just being done automatically. Those are the small actions that are usually done repeatedly and thus becoming consistent patterns.

It makes perfect sense that if you want to transform yourself through forming new habits, one of the best ways is to make small changes, so tiny that the brain can quickly learn, respond, and continuously repeat them automatically. It is like you if wanted to learn how to swim, but instead of going into the deep right away, you started slow from the shallow part and took minimal level increases until you slowly got deeper.

Aim for Changes of Lifestyle, Not Your Actual Life

We always want to jump into things right away, but here are some personal questions we can ask to ourselves for us to ponder about ways we can try to transform ourselves for the better:

● Instead of aiming to lose 50-100 pounds, why not start trying to drink at least 6-8 or 8-10 glasses of water every day? Or even start cutting off sweets until you get used to it, then move to the next level?

● Instead of aiming to earn an extra $5,000 a month, why not try to work an extra hour every day being a freelancer?

● Instead of aiming to run a marathon, what about trying to run for 30 minutes every other day first, as a start of a habit?

Aiming for bigger things is not bad; in fact, doing this can give you the motivation to become better. So instead of focusing more on the results, it’s always better to focus on the small parts of the process. Teach your brain to have a few minimal new habits first, then let your brain teach your body new “muscle memories” as you repeatedly put these new habits to action. You’ll be surprised that as you are forming new habits, you can add a few more to implement. Just keep in mind to do them one at a time.

Yet another tactic consists of thinking about your usual activities and then trying to build an additional link to the behavior by adding a new habit.

An example of that would be instead of thinking about keeping your house cleaner, try to modify the idea and just tell yourself to change your clothes, clean your room, your office, or your kitchen. Instead of planning to eat healthy, why not try to focus on eating meat and veggies every dinnertime? That way, you are thinking about the main idea of your goal, but then during the actual process, you are tricking your brain into thinking that these tasks are a lot easier than the actual goal. Studies show that, instead of willpower, relying on doing things through contextual cues is proven to be more productive.

Take Away Excessive Options

Studies show that being bored has great power over us. Research findings conclude that efforts to make repeated choices can deplete mental energy, even if the choices made were very pleasant.

So for you to have a lasting change, decisions you make must truly change your entire environment and, of course, your schedule. Immediately stop buying candies or snacks and prepare a similar lunch each day during the week and benefit from the power of doing routines to get things done every day, if you are really determined to stop your snacking (no need for willpower).

Do Not Fantasize

Too much fantasizing about what will be the outcome of your goal can cause serious harm to your willingness to stick to any forming habits. An example of that is when you set a goal of learning to play basketball not by practicing every morning or doing a few drills during weekends, but instead visualizing yourself playing in a professional league right away.

These are some of the tips we can use to build new habits and change your life step by step. These things are very essential in helping you transform into a better person but, of course, determination is always the key. What good is wanting to be a better person if the person isn’t really determined? So let’s see how you are going to progress with the help of these tips we have talked about.

[] Chapter 4 – Common Habits That Are Ruining Your Life

If you want to develop some good habits, it is very important that you know exactly how to differentiate them from the bad ones. In order to do this, you must know the habits that you have right now and identify whether they are on the good side or the bad side. You must put a stop to these bad habits. In order to stop them, you must first identify what they are. Here are some the most common habits that might be ruining your life without your even knowing it.

Complaining

One of the worst habits that you might have is complaining about every single problem that comes to your life. Why? It is because it does not do you any good anyway. You gain nothing from complaining except haters who think you feel so good about yourself and that you are nothing but someone who likes to complain. So, the next time you want to post on your social media account, you might want to think twice about it. Instead of complaining, try to find an outlet to release your annoyances at. Create something and realize that complaining is a bad habit.

Crazy Timeline

It is not that your dreams might seem too big or that your plans seem impossible. The big problem is that most people want to plan the outcomes of their plan. They anticipate the results of their actions too far into the future. Sometimes, the best thing to do is to just live in the moment. Just give everything you do your best shot and always hope for the best. Remind yourself that everything will eventually fall into place and all you can do is let it happen.

Comparing

Have you noticed yourself comparing yourself with every single person that you see and with everything you do? This is a problem with this generation and the ones before. People always seem to find room to compare. They don’t realize that it does not do them any good. What sprouts from comparison is just hatred and jealousy. Every time you start comparing yourself to another, stop yourself.

Feeling Like a Failure

You are bound to experience a lot of failures in this life and the best thing you can do is just live with it. Now, a habit that most people have is to feel like they are a failure once they fail at something. Remember that you are not defined by what happens to you. Do not let yourself be defined by the failures that happen. Strive hard whenever you fail and do not let it affect your goals and your dreams. Dream big and try your very best to achieve the things you want to have in life.

Crappy Contentment

You may feel contented with your life right now but you might want to think twice. Did you reach your goals? Have you achieved the things you want to? If not, then you should not settle, you should not be contented. If you are living a crappy life or the state of your life is really crappy right now, then contentment is not the solution. A person should never be contented with what he or she has unless he or she has reached the goals he or she has dreamt of. So remember that it is okay to be contented but try and rethink if your contentment is on the right side of things.

Passionless Working

Do you love your job? If you had a long pause before coming up with an answer, you might want to rethink your job. If you only think of your job as something that will give you money at the end of the month, then you do not love your job and you are not enjoying it. If you do not enjoy your work, you are going to have too many regrets later on, so find something that you are good at and you love to do.

Letting Yourself Be Overcome by Fear

A problem with many people is that they have too many regrets because they are afraid of the things that they want to do. This is what is wrong. This is the problem with people. The things you can change? Change them. The things you can’t do anything about? Let them go. The world will not stop its revolution for you so you have no time to waste worrying about things that you should not worry about. Appreciate the things around you and be happy with what you have.

Personal Gain

Doing things for your personal gain can go a bit overboard. When you donate things for charity, do it because you have the heart to do it and not just because it would make you look kind and good. Do not think of the things that will benefit you, but instead think of the things you can do to help others.

Blaming the Parents

Do not blame your parents for the things that you do wrong in your life or the bad things that are happening to you. Your parents have nothing to do with who you are right now. You have the ability to do the things you want to change your life. You are not defined by your parents but by what you make of yourself. The next time you think of blaming your parents, maybe it might be best to think about the choices you made in your life.

Not Knowing How to Say “No”

If you do not know how to say no, you will only end up with too much commitment and it will end up stressing you out and giving you problems you wouldn’t have had in the first place if only you knew how. The next time someone is asking you to do something you do not like, all you have to do is say the two letters you have a hard time saying. Just say “no.” You can learn how to say it if you practice it bit by bit so do not be afraid to say it.

[] Chapter 5 – Secret For A Habit Make-Over

Old habits are hard to kill but they can be replaced by creating new habits. When you decide to build new habits you are raising your standards. When you raise your standards, you automatically focus on better and greater things. It is important to change your mindset if you want a real and lasting change. You need to leave the past behind and focus on what lies ahead.

Believe

Belief is the key to everything. When you believe that life has more to offer and you are ready to claim your share, you are empowering yourself. When you believe that you have the power to transform your life, your confidence will soar. When you set a positive attitude, you attract positive people and events which help you rise above your present circumstances. Strong beliefs fuel your thoughts, emotions and actions. Strong beliefs make impossible things become possible.

Plan

You need to create a strategy to obtain the results you want. Planning is necessary to guide you at all times. Create a plan that will help you stick to the journey towards change. Your plan is your roadmap so it needs to be specific and detailed. List down the habits you want to change and the steps you need to do to make it happen. Be realistic. Make goals that are attainable.

Eliminate Distractions

It is easy to be distracted despite your strong intention to start. Distractions are little obstacles that tempt you to stop and remain the same. They are hurdles that you need to overcome to build new positive habits. To eliminate distractions, you need to prepare everything you will need to create new habits. You can also remove things that distract you from doing what you need to do. For instance, you want to write 5000 words in a day, so you wake up, grab a cup of coffee, and then set yourself to writing. But as soon as you open your computer, you check your email, your social media accounts, etc. Then, you forget your goal and settle for less than you can do. You let distractions steal your precious time. If you want to be more productive, set scheduled times for everything. Make it a habit to manage your time.

Make the Commitment to Begin

The best thing to do is to start as soon as you are ready to cultivate new habits. Use your plan as soon as you can to catch the momentum. Change happens when you take a step forward. Do not say you’ll start next week because something may come up and your next week will become next week again. When you lose your motivation, change will never happen. Plan your Big Day or your Start Date. Tell your family and friends about it. Write it in your planner. Post the reminder on your wall or desktop. By doing all of these, you are building your enthusiasm and you will be more ready to begin the process of change.

Start Small

Maybe you failed in the past because you made big goals and set impossible deadlines. One example is losing 50 pounds off your weight within 3 months. Why not break your big and long-term goals into smaller, more manageable weekly goals? The thing is, when you focus on your goals for the week, you can easily achieve them. And since your weekly goals are part of the big picture, every accomplishment brings you closer to your long-term goals.

Change One Habit at a Time

Do not overwhelm yourself by changing all the habits you want to eliminate simultaneously. Habits take time to develop. You need ample time to replace something that became automatic for you to do. Habits that are deeply rooted in your consciousness take time to replace. Choose one particular habit and then set a time frame. Give yourself the necessary time to become familiar with the new pattern. Do something every day to reinforce the new habit. Check your weekly goals. Evaluate the results after a week and then prepare yourself for another weekly goal. After three weeks, you will be surprised with the result. Then, it’s time to change another habit for the next 21 days.

Do It in the Morning

The best time to practice a new habit is in the morning. Your willpower, discipline, and energy are in full swing at the beginning of the day. Make it the first thing on your daily agenda and you will find yourself more motivated. Positive change is a great motivation. Do it consistently and regularly. It takes 66 days or more than 2 months to see a new habit imbibed as a natural part of your system. Another reason why you need to practice your new habit in the morning is because the rest of the hours are used for work and other essential matters that deplete your energy.

Be Ready for Setbacks

Do not stop when things do not happen as fast as you want. Learn to wait and continue doing what is right and what is good. If you encounter setbacks along the way, do not be frustrated. Accept that anything can happen. Just focus on your goal. Continue doing what you need to do. If you stop now, you will lose the possibilities. Be positive.

Use Visualization Techniques

Visualization is powerful. It keeps you motivated to transform your life and become the person you want to be. Visualization is your mental preparation for the future manifestation of your goals. Use it to strategize things you want to achieve. By creating positive mental pictures of yourself enjoying the results of your goals, you are empowering yourself to reach your goals.

Journaling

Record your progress. Write down what you have done every day to get closer to your goals. Record distractions you encountered and how you overcome them. Journaling helps you keep track of how much you have attained. Write everything, including the emotions you feel as you continue building up new habits to change your life.

Plan to Reward Yourself

Celebrate every accomplishment you make. Plan the rewards you want to give to yourself when you reach your goals and change your negative habits. This practice will keep you motivated to continue on your journey towards change.

[] Chapter 6 – Maintaining The Change You Will Make

The next important thing to do after taking the initial steps toward change is sticking to your newly-acquired habits. Maintaining the change will determine the long-term goals that you want to manifest in your life. Behavioral change must be regularly reinforced and checked to see the progress you are making. There will be struggles and hurdles along the way but if you want real change, you need to overcome them and maintain the changes you have already made.

Focus

The key to success is focus. Focusing on your goals will keep you motivated to maintain the changes you are making to have a better life. Reinventing yourself entails a lot of sacrifices but at the end of your journey you know that you are stepping out as new, empowered and confident person.

Get Real

Accept that the journey to change is not easy. Living with new changes in your life makes you feel unsure at first. Somehow, the thought of living a false life creeps into your mind and you believe that the “old” you will be ready to resurface anytime if you let your guard down. This is natural so do not be afraid. Do not doubt your ability to do the right thing. Stick to your new habits and be positively certain that you want a lifestyle change. You may be facing new rules for yourself and new experiences that are not familiar but accept that they are the expected results of change.

Live It

To make change effortless, make it part of your new self. You need to change your self-perception and mindset. See yourself in a different light. Visualize your future self. Empower your thoughts with positive image of yourself. Get rid of old, dead-beat mental tapes in your mind that keeps you from having a better life. The decision lies with you and nobody else can make your life better but you. Your internal motivation is more important than anyone else. So, believe that you can do it and live like you are already the person you want to be.

Simplify

To avoid being overwhelmed with change especially if you need to make a whole lot of changes, simplify everything. Do not try to do it all at once because that will be futile. You need to simplify to produce better results and avoid the frustrations that can lead you back to former habits. It’s like cleaning your whole apartment during a busy week. You can clean it during weekends or you can clean part of it every day to maintain cleanliness. When you do the latter, you are creating a good habit. It is less stressful and a little change every day will make a big picture of change at the end of the week.

Be Consistent

Consistency is another key to sustaining change. Every habit that you have is a result of the consistent application of an action until it is formed. When a habit is formed, the response to stimulus is automatic. Replacing old habits that are ingrained in your system takes time so make sure that you are ready to deal with some resistance. You need strong willpower to keep going and make your new, improved habits take place. You need to make these changes part of your daily existence. Do not wait for a specific time to work on changes. You need to execute them regularly through mini-habits in your day-to-day living.

Have Fun

Change can be fun. It means new beginnings, new experiences, better results and growth. Do not be miserable thinking too much about what you have lost or what you need to give up. Self-improvement is always a step forward and gives you a chance to accomplish more by being a better individual. So, if you are dealing with obesity and you want to lose weight, you need to make a complete turn-around in your lifestyle pattern to see a change. You need to work on a diet-exercise plan to obtain your goal. You need to change your eating habits to guarantee success. So, it entails gradual to complete elimination of your favorite high-caloric, sweet foods and drinks. You need to do more physical workouts and change bad habits that are contributory factors to your weight problem. Thinking all of these things will make you feel miserable. But change can be fun too. Learn to reward yourself for every accomplishment and all of the progress you make.

Celebrate Your Success

Rewards are important to keep you motivated. Celebrate your achievements no matter how small they are. Review your weekly accomplishments to check your progress. If you successfully hit your target, reward yourself. A massage session or a good film to watch will keep you aiming for more progress. Small success reminds you that you are doing well and can do better. It will inspire you to work on your next weekly goal and claim another victory.

Get a Buddy

If you have someone with you as you embark on the journey of change, you will be more accountable to your goals. Find a friend, a family member or a support group to help you become consistent with your efforts to maintain the change you are making. It is very helpful, especially if you are eliminating bad habits like smoking. When you have someone to encourage, motivate, and support you along the way, the struggles are less intimidating.

Be Kind to Yourself

Remember that no one is perfect. You made mistakes. You failed. But that was in the past. Let it go and embrace change. If you make mistakes on your self-improvement plan, do not blame yourself. It is okay to commit mistakes but make a commitment not to let it happen again. Keep going.

Embrace Change

There is no end, only continuous change. Make sure that you are changing to improve yourself. Keep moving forward. Monitor your efforts and the results. If you see that you are not making enough progress, change your approach but stick to your goals. Embrace change as welcome development to steer you the right direction. Make change less stressful by maintaining a positive spirit.

[] Chapter 7 – 10 Proven Habits Of Successful People

Everyone wants to be successful but only a select few get there. So we can’t help but feel envious of others’ achievements without knowing what they went through, the failures they endured and the hard work habits those people acquired. Externally, successful people seem like they drifted through life with ease while we all struggle day-by-day.

 

Since we did not witness their hardships before they reached the epitome of success, we call them lucky. Perhaps they even came from a wealthy family and their success is handed over by their grandparents. Or maybe they were born with exceptional intelligence to figure out the key to solving the puzzles each of us will die not knowing.

 

Wrong. Success is actually available to anyone who dreams. Therefore, it is not a matter of IQ, family wealth, or race. Although there is no exact formula to becoming successful, there are consistent traits that these people have in common that brought them to where they are now.

 

Below is a compiled list.

 

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We used to bully nerds in high school --- those weird-looking kids in class who carried massive books in their arms. We thought they were losers. Yet in this day and age, they got the biggest prize of ruling the world, one great idea at a time.

Bill Gates once said, “Be nice to nerds. Chances are you’ll end up working for one.” It couldn’t be any truer.

 

Mr. Gates assures us that he reads for at least an hour before bedtime. M. Cuban pushes himself to read three hours minimum daily. J.K Rowling reads anything and everything. U.S. President Barack Obama, Albert Einstein, and Sheryl Sandberg are book lovers as well.

 

Reading teaches you to learn from people’s successes and their avoidable mistakes. Instead of going through your routine, clueless of what the outcome will be, readers have mental guidelines embedded in their heads that prevent them from committing the mistakes all rookies make in their lives.

 

Reading empowers a person and provides a treasure chest of knowledge. This habit takes you to different places and cultures without having to lift a finger. It exposes you to deep trauma and, similarly, inspires you through getting to know valuable people who made it because of their distinct and exceptional character.

 

This habit sums up the values and experiences of different people you wouldn’t get the chance to learn from had it not been for reading.

 

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p<>{color:#000;}. Collating Lessons Acquired for Future Relevance

 

Now you start to read. And then you make mental notes of these authors’ collective wisdom. You highlight a truckload of aphorisms to help you remember them. You’re ecstatic to apply the different concepts that transpired in the book. Then, after finishing it, you unconsciously forgot all the quotes you had gained.

 

Ryan Holiday of The Obstacle is the Way says not to worry. Another author, Robert Green of The 48 Laws of Power, equally agreed that there is a certain methodology to retaining and organizing information.

 

Grab copies of their books for a thorough walk-through of how to do this. In any case, if you find their methods seem a little too tedious for you, you may compose a digital version by using Evernote (or other apps widely available on the web).

 

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p<>{color:#000;}. The Early Bird Catches the Worm, Indeed

 

Virgin Group’s Richard Branson, Marissa Mayer of Yahoo, and Robert Iger of Disney have something in common apart from being very famous and wealthy. Yes, you guessed it right. They are all early risers.

 

They say waking up and actually raising your half-dead body from slumber is half the battle. As a matter of fact, opening your eyelids is the first painstaking struggle as soon as your face feels the first streaks of sunlight (and you blame your curtains, sometimes). Truly, it is not easy to do. There are several techniques you can play around with though to measure which activity will work for you.

 

Find them below:

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p<>{color:#000;}. Get yourself a relentless alarm clock that will shock every bit of your living cells to get up and go. This kind will relentlessly piss you off and turn you into The Hulk every morning.

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p<>{color:#000;}. Do not procrastinate by hitting that snooze button multiple times like a clingy mother trying to feed you cereals before you go to class. Snoozing never does make you go back to sleep, really. The very moment your alarm barges into your sleep, you’re as awake as a zombie.

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p<>{color:#000;}. Shut off all the lights in the room. Light fools your body into postponing hitting the sack. It affects your melatonin production too (the hormone in charge of making you doze off).

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p<>{color:#000;}. If all these fail, try what Hal Elrod suggested: Write a To Do List for the following morning so you have something to look forward to and (hopefully) get excited about.

 

 

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p<>{color:#000;}. Do Not Be a Couch Potato

 

Successful men technically don’t need to get up and exercise because they can afford fat reduction procedures, spa treatments and Botox. Despite all the resources available at their disposal, successful people still choose to incorporate that into their daily routine. Why do you think that is?

Exercising not only gives you a flat abdominal area to show off at the beach but it keeps your brain functioning properly too by reducing your stress and improving your memory. When you skip exercising because you have loads of things to do, you ironically make yourself less productive. Based on studies, exercise boosts productivity and creativity for two extra hours. It consequently makes a person smarter as well.

 

 

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p<>{color:#000;}. Get On with the Task

Professionals continue to work despite their stubborn cells telling them not to --- that’s what differentiates a pro from a beginner.

If your entire body is dragging you down, breathe and push yourself. By pushing, you obligate yourself to work anyway despite what you’re feeling. Do it for the first 15 minutes and then watch as your attitude magically transforms. The 15-minute timeframe is usually enough to spike up your momentum.

 

 

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p<>{color:#000;}. Hibernate Your Busy Brain

Studies show that meditating decreases anxiety, body pain, and depression. Regular meditation allows the brain to focus more which will combat the body’s tendency to be overwhelmed by the series of events transpiring daily. Meditating does not come naturally to us, so for starters, concentrate on your breathing for about 5 minutes. During this short period, when your brain pesters you with random thoughts, reset the clock again until you get the hang of it.

 

 

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p<>{color:#000;}. Do Not Be Bothered by Social Media

Don’t be Kim Kardashian and make your life’s purpose dependent on the number of likes and followers you have on Instagram. Emails are included in this list too.

 

Browsing, answering, and reading emails make you counterproductive. You are only being responsive when you answer the emails. Do not confuse productivity and being just reactive.

 

To lessen distractions, minimize your social media accounts’ windows and turn off the notification feature so you don’t get alarmed every time it makes a beep.

 

 

 

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p<>{color:#000;}. Be Charitable

Successful people are selfless. If you center your goals on your personal gains and aren’t bothered by others’ welfare, chances are you are most likely not going to be where you want to be. A man does not live by himself alone. You have to identify your purpose as more than owning a Billion Dollar home or transforming yourself into a real life Barbie Doll.

 

Oprah Winfrey, Bill Gates and Mark Zuckerberg are all successful people who are helpful and donate to diverse charitable institutions. These wealthy icons are donating billions of dollars at their own disposal. Of course, you don’t need to shell out that amount to fulfill a selfless life purpose. Volunteering at nursing homes or helping typhoon victims rebuild their community is more than enough to mark your significance in other people’s lives.

 

 

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p<>{color:#000;}. Keep Practicing & Sustaining Hard Work

We may not both know how old Serena Williams is now but we know how she has remained an unbeatable tennis player over the years. Serena was not born with great forehand and backhand strokes but has acquired them through a lifetime of practice. She has gotten up at 6 in the morning to practice ever since she was a kid. Now you and I may need to know how old she is to be even more impressed by her unwavering hard work and dedication.

 

There are always shortcuts in each road we choose to travel but taking those side roads will never give you the same result as doing all the hard work needed to accomplish your goals.

 

 

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p<>{color:#000;}. Being Consistent is the Key!

The next challenge now is to be able to keep up with this attitude all throughout your pursuit to success. And even when you reach the peaks of your ambitions, you shall not fall back and go back to your old ways.

Keep up the winning attitude by keeping a calendar you can mark daily. Mark each day and watch it multiply as you progress to weeks and months of consistent hard work and dedication. Seeing the chain of marks will even make you more inspired to continue with your momentum.

[] Conclusion

I hope that you finally understand the importance of building your own habits. There is no strict “timeframe” or magic spell that will automatically allow you to develop a habit. Just be patient and keep on pursuing your goals. Although there will be roadblocks along the way, don’t let them be a hindrance to you. Be strong and more motivated – because with the mistakes that happen along the way, you become more knowledgeable and yes, stronger!

Remember that your habits will define who you are. This separates you from the rest and will allow you to be the unique person you ought to be. Every day is a new day – a new chance for you to change, to grow and to choose what is best for you.

Have a happy life! Good luck on your journey!

[* -- Catherine Davis *]


The Power of Habit: Proven Step by Step Guide to Become a Highly Effective Perso

“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.” – Aristotle Your habits will define who you are. Building the right habits separates you from the rest and allows you to be the unique person you ought to be. If you are pretty sure you are serious about starting to make changes in your life for the better, YOU SHOULD START SMALL. Habits built on strong foundations are more likely to stick than habits that are spur-of-the-moment desires to change. This book will show you not only the “why’s” but also “how’s”. It aims to help you avoid making bad habits, and create your own “good” habits to make it a part of your everyday life. Remember, having good habits will not only improve your careers but also help you live with integrity, dignity, and success in all aspects of life.

  • ISBN: 9781311715609
  • Author: Catherine Davis
  • Published: 2016-05-03 09:20:34
  • Words: 8038
The Power of Habit: Proven Step by Step Guide to Become a Highly Effective Perso The Power of Habit: Proven Step by Step Guide to Become a Highly Effective Perso