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This text is written to disperse misconceptions about human sexuality. As always, I advise people to check the legitimacy of the creation. Nothing is accidental, and no action is without the consequences. This text should help the reader realize that there is no coincidental happiness, but only deserved one. That also means that happiness related to sexuality can’t be arbitrary. It is the result of a pure, innocent and human sexuality. Who doesn’t believe such claims, my advice is to check for validity of this reading at least. Still, it’s always better to live properly and humanely, than to check for errors, faults, and sin. The results of errors are always: the waste of time and misery.
That’s the truth that modern man has forgotten. Even worse thing is that there are a few of those a man can learn from the laws of Universe, which are happening every second faultlessly.
And why is that so?
It’s because a man feels lonely and lost in Space. It’s time to change this situation.
Sexuality – A short guide for dummies
PERFECT AND POSITIVE
God is perfect and everything he creates is perfect. Therefore all created has perfection within itself and has a perfect purpose.
What does this mean?
Souls are at different developmental stages. Thus they inhabit different bodies. Therefore each being has perfection within itself while only his thoughts and actions can vary from the worst possible to best possible ones.
Still, even the worst deeds entail perfection because the outcome of these deeds would cleanse and lead to the goal. In this way, you have right to free will but you don’t have right to randomly change the outcomes of the actions.
From the secular point of view, God is the only one who is perfect and everything else is imperfect. Therefore, from the secular point of view, there are positive and negative actions. Positive actions results are mainly good while negative ones are insignificant.
It can be easily seen in the case of masturbation. If a person has no sex partner and wants to live its own sexuality, fairest solution is masturbation. While masturbating you may make two catastrophic mistakes which are not nearly bad as irresponsible sex relationships with other human beings. When it comes to masturbation, it is bad if you think about someone else’s i.e. the person in the relationship. If you think about someone else’s partner, then the consequences won’t be good for you. Still, even in that state of desperation, if that other person that you are thinking about has clear mind and heart, it will be protected from your lecherous thoughts so you will be the only one to suffer the consequences. Otherwise, the other person may be encouraged by your imagination and he/she may have problems too. Still, I have to mention that events and problems that are the outcome of this case can’t be desirable or positive, although many would like to think how can that be so but not to happen in that manner. The other mistake is thinking about the single person. That is also wrong because that is an attack on another person’s freedom and dignity.
So, when masturbating you have right to think about your partner or about an imaginary person if you need sexual gratification. Such doing, maybe isn’t perfect, but it’s very positive. That is because in such manner you achieve an extent of sexual gratification generally without doing much harm to anyone.
This could be explained by a straightforward example. The knife has a perfect purpose. One of them is to cut a slice of bread with it. If you cut yourself or others with a knife, then there is no slightest positivity in that let alone perfection.
A lesson is following:
Perfect acting brings happiness and true love. Positive acting brings self-satisfaction, the growth of love and joy.
Why do I say this?
In order not to be burdened by imaginary perfection; not to judge me and others; not to commit sin by destructive sexuality as one thinks how fancy, able and modern he/she is.
AN IMAGINARY PERFECTION
One of the worst misconceptions of a man is to think as if sexuality is a sin.
What does that mean?
God created sexuality. He created the sexuality as an act of lovemaking and the way of continuation of the species. Sexuality as such has perfect nature. The other thing is that people use such wonderful gift in a negative way so that they correspondingly get miserable, sick and lonely.
If a man is disappointed by sexuality, he should about its own behavior and dignity.
In the past, people suppressed the sexuality. That was due to the collective belief that it’s bad. People have condemned themselves and the others so it has reflected very negatively to the human psyche and to their acts in the past. They were under pressure that they shouldn’t live sexuality because it’s bad and sinful, thus they condemned themselves to bad deeds and bad luck. Nowadays, it goes to the other extremes. Modern people think that they have right to have sex with whoever they like. As if the sex isn’t a sin. They have forgotten about their and other people’s dignity. They don’t realize that disrespect for oneself and others are also disease, as well as suppression of sexuality. However, sex can be really sinful if you use it for sinful aims. It’s very simple to come to such conclusion.
Having in mind that sex as everything else has its perfect purpose; this means that since the man can’t achieve sexuality instantly, he has to use sexuality in a positive manner. That means a man has right to live sexuality at a certain point of his life when it’s got proper conditions to do so.
In order to acquire and meet such conditions, the effort is needed. It’s all in vain, but everything has to be deserved and for all is required mental effort. You can’t have regular sex if you don’t know well or respect your partner. That takes effort and time. You can’t have positive and satisfying sex if you haven’t acquired responsibility when it comes to the happiness of your partner and responsibility for the possible children.
The positive purpose of the marriage is that you can have free and safe sex in a marriage and planning the family is your own will. Any other sexuality out of the marriage is more or less destructive for an individual. Also, children that grow in normal and sensible marriage without the unity of both parents greatly suffer, and the parents themselves suffer too.
Sexuality outside of the marriage results in very bad consequences. Sexuality is nowadays lived under the motive of a modern love relationships ‘boyfriend and girlfriend. And in the majority of cases that is not positive sexuality and many complain and are angry at such claims. In reality, people don’t want to admit their irresponsibility and lack of dignity, and they don’t admit that their ‘modernity’ is actually bigotry that they want so hard to hide not just from others but also from oneself. For, the glorification of things bringing misfortune and pretending to be special by committing a sin can’t bring you or assure you happiness or success.
The message is following:
Many say that sex is not sinful. I would add: a divine aspect of sex that’s achieved by fidelity and love is a positive sex, and as such has a positive effect. Of course, that sex can be very sinful. Don’t trust people that give such short and incomplete statements. It’s not a coincidence that they are so stingy with words and that they say that the wise man is quiet. Because, if they had been smarter, they would know that a smart man says what should be said and how much it should be said.
THE NEGLECTION OF THE PARTNER
When a man is in search for happiness, it’s completely logical that one day he will eventually reach spirituality. Spirituality is the path that man takes when a man needs God. Such man is disappointed in world and life, so he turns to God.
What does that mean?
There are many spiritual paths. God is only one.
That means that many are entrapped by Ego, so they think they are more spiritual that those living a secular life.
Since the sexuality is a topic here, we have to deal with it through this problem.
Many spiritualists opt for abstinence from sex. That is not so bad if you don’t have a partner. If you are married, then you have obligation to take care of partner’s wishes. If you don’t live sexuality while someone lives it, that doesn’t mean that you are better or more spiritual than that person. As we have already concluded, sexuality has positive application and as such it helps people on their spiritual way. That means that two coupled in their common and pure sexuality always make progress on their path to God. They never regress. Only those irresponsible and reckless in their sexuality regress. Those not consummating sex and thus thinking they are for it better than others also regress. That’s a first class egoism. Neglecting partner for the imagined spirituality is egoism.
Just to make clear something that many spiritualists haven’t explained until the present day.
Why do people want to repress sexuality?
The reasons are selfishness and will to power.
Sexuality is powerful, thus living sexuality takes so much life energy. If this energy is saved, it can be used to develop spiritual powers. However, you generally don’t need spiritual powers. God protects you and takes care of you so that helplessness really doesn’t exist, because who could feel helpless if has God beside oneself on one’s side? In that case, a man can only look helpless or think that he/she ‘s helpless.
A man eager for spiritual progress and progress of spiritual powers actually gives up on love.
Even a sick man feels love. A man without strength also feels love. If you lose everything, the capacity to love is not lost. Likewise, a man that lives sexuality doesn’t lose the feeling of love. It is only lost by the one who looks for an imagined more and better. Ha ha, do you leave a loved person even your children under the excuse that they drag you backward on your spiritual journey? How much egoism is blinding in this case?
The message is following:
Each person is on its spiritual path, even the worst ones. Denying and belittling of sexuality implies complexes and injuries that have to be cured. However, this doesn’t mean that person who realized God wants to have sex. Avatar has no desire for sex and it’s really foolish when people want to find the significant other for Christ. In the same manner, many people have mentioned Buddha’s married life before he realized himself. That’s very ignorant because if you don’t eat bread anymore, you don’t really need a knife to slice it. Degrading God and self-realization is also egoism and ignorance. Two people as a couple always reach the point when they consensually agree that they don’t want anymore to have sex. That’s perfectly natural process.
According to that, a person that openly and honestly lives its own sexuality is better than the person who saves sexuality by taking advantage of others and for its own spiritual powers.
CONTRACEPTION AND ABORTION
Contraception and abortion are integral problems related to sexuality.
What does that mean?
Every person that has sex comes into a situation that there is a chance to deal with this problem
Contraception is used for many reasons. It’s used with the goal of decreasing a possibility of conception and to protect a man from sexually transmitted disease.
Certainly, the modern suppliers are dealing with statistics and possibility. So, in such cases, their statistics are insignificant, although they want to prove that it is.
If the thief is caught red-handed after the first robbery, and the second one is caught after the tenth robbery, then statistics that you get away from punishment for ten times has no significance. In both cases, you’re 100% in trouble if the statisticians will say that the second one went well in 90% of cases. Specifically, it is worse if you get caught stealing for the tenth time, because it’s very likely that your previous offenses will be exposed, so the punishment will be more rigorous.
What do I want to explain?
Ignorant people rely on contraceptives. Due to the consumption of contraception, they are easier to engage in sexual relations. In such situations, it is much more likely to get a sexually transmitted disease or become pregnant, because no contraceptive is 100% safe, which manufacturers hide. And if you have received a sexually transmitted disease or conception occurred then it was likely to happen 100%, and not 5% or 3%.
Contraception is a wishful thinking of the modern man to live selfishly without knowing it and to destroy oneself and one’s own life. People that use contraception out of the marital relationship want to avoid the consequences of their selfishness. Therefore such people take risk of developing severe illness or facing the “accidental” pregnancy. Thus people, who engage in irresponsible sexual relationships, also use contraception irresponsibly and use contraception for negative purposes. A person using contraception for negative purposes always has an excuse and always wants to present to the world how properly he conducts i.e. to show its valid reasons. Such people receive and suffer sexually transmitted diseases, sometimes terminal ones. They also face an unwanted pregnancy. Then, naturally, not did they used contraceptives wrong, but they also want to terminate and great problems arise for participants in sex, as for an unborn child. At this point, severe traumas have been suffered by man’s psyche.
Many people think that only women have been damaged by abortion. Nonetheless, even a cold and insensitive man is suffering severe consequences subconsciously, as well as by karma.
The message is following:
The contraceptives are a perfect invention for couples who have chosen one another, who married and decided to have sex, as to reduce the possibility of conception because in the given moment that isn’t acceptable solution. In such cases even if conception and abortion happen, consequences can be timely neutralized and more or less acceptable.
Using contraception for the sake of living of egoism and as protection from disease, and abortion as the consequence of irresponsible sexuality, bring huge karmic problems and psycho-emotional issues. As it would be said in my country:
- A little music and lots of money.
In doing so, the music I have mentioned is shallow and heathen, i.e. destructive.
Practice positive, innocent sexuality, while improving love and fidelity, and don’t worry. God rewards such people and never condemns them.
If you look at something and think that it is wrong, and is done in sin, then you look bad. That is why you think that it’s better for others than for you, and it’s no wonder that you are always disappointed.
Believe in perfection if God and creation. Believe in purpose and benefits of God’s gifts. Sexuality is one of those gifts. You have right to live it as it’s appropriate for a human being. On the other side, you’ll be in trouble. Believe me, with such laws – there is no favoritism, nor random luck.
Because, how many people you know that pray for mercy, but they don’t get it? Because it’s a lot, and they haven’t given when they should give. Unfaithfulness, as irresponsible and sinful sexuality, is a denial of mercy and happiness to oneself and to others.
So far, that would be all about that.
The rest of the questions and stories related to spirituality and the life of the man you can find in my books coming out in sequels in Serbian and English as ’’Return to God’’ and ’’A Contemporary Spirituality’’.
This text is written to disperse misconceptions about human sexuality. As always, I advise people to check the legitimacy of the creation. Nothing is accidental, and no action is without the consequences. This text should help the reader realize that there is no coincidental happiness, but only deserved one. That also means that happiness related to sexuality can’t be arbitrary. It is the result of a pure, innocent and human sexuality. Who doesn’t believe such claims, my advice is to check for validity of this reading at least. Still, it’s always better to live properly and humanely, than to check for errors, faults, and sin. The results of errors are always: the waste of time and misery. That’s the truth that modern man has forgotten. Even worse thing is that there are a few of those a man can learn from the laws of Universe, which are happening every second faultlessly. And why is that so? It’s because a man feels lonely and lost in Space. It’s time to change this situation.