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Say Hello To I: Feel Good To Be In Audience With Yourself


By Santosh Jha

Copyright 2017 Santosh Jha

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There are seven conscious and unconscious elements of personality. All seven elements are within an individual and operate simultaneously. The life journey is shifting gears from these layers of consciousness. Most of us therefore are in a state of flux and drift – conflicted and confused. It is our mechanism, the way our brain has evolved, in constant interactions with our milieus.

Then, there are eight intangible affecters: Sensation, emotion, impulse/desire, imagination, thought, intuition, will and the central point ‘I’ or personal self. An individual is often split and conflicted between these. Often, we put in ‘more’ or ‘undue’ weight and importance to one layer of our consciousnesses or one aspect of ‘I’; often justifying it, to the brink of obsession, which is psychosis. The requirement however is synthesis of all these psychological functions by the ‘Self’ – the definitive ‘I’. The higher consciousness, the highly aware and in control ‘I’, needs to strike harmony and balance. This poise of ‘I’, managing the conflicts and confusion of seven different layers and elements of consciousness is the primary intelligence, which can pave pathways to lasting wellness and personal excellence.

Few people recognize that their own personhood is a mystery. Fewer still care enough about the mystery to pursue understanding it. The Pop-Belief is: Life is really more about living it than it is about understanding it. But, shouldn’t we ask ourselves, ‘who am I?’ The answer needs knowing and it needs allowance to some knowledge, other than what we usually hold dear to your heart. We live and swear by so many subjective and individual ‘perceptions’, even as truth is calling us to listen to it.

The trouble is; the process of understanding one’s ‘self’ is pitted against one’s own beliefs about one’s ‘self’. It is no easy task to determine which of these beliefs are true and which is mere perception.

Somehow, we usually are in the error of believing that our ‘Body’ and ‘We’ are the same things. We are not aware that each of us is a virtual agent, a ‘self’, that speaks for his or her organism. To understand ourselves we need to understand this relationship between the Real Me and the Virtual Me. Your ‘self’ is in a relationship with your organism. Sometimes it is aware of what you are doing but sometimes it is not. The ‘self’ (along with other functions of the mind that support it) is more involved with ideas that initiate activities.

There are two subjects within ‘I’: One is the Generic Subject, which is our innate body mechanism – The Visceral Self. It accepts only tangible things and is mostly reactive and self-initiated to inputs from our ambient milieus – an auto-mode behavior and action.

The other subject is Specific Subject, which leads a thoughtful action. The self, the ‘I’ is a functional relationship between the two subjects and is a ‘Virtual Agent’. You are a bridge between the two ends of the two subjects.

Unraveling the mystery of ‘I’ is ultimate empowerment. I’s destiny is what ‘I’ owns and we need to know the ‘I’ and its mechanism and process well to own and shape up our destinies in a way, which we wish for our lasting wellness and personal excellence. Do step in…

‘I’ Begins…

It is always tough to accept realism about self, which one cannot feel and see. Why? Simply because, there is this long nurtured belief that self is true and it can sense anything, which is there for it. Most believe; if self cannot understand something, then it does not exist. However, contemporary knowledge of humanity insists – Self, this sense of ‘I’, is the biggest mystery and it is always tough for ‘I’ to belief something beyond its perceptional faculties as self is always pitted against self.

Therefore, it is innately a hard ask for us to believe and accept that sanity is a fine line like a strand of our hair and most of us stand on the border; often susceptible to cross the line, inadvertently or otherwise. At least this is what contemporary psychologists tell us.

In a lifetime, how much part of it we live on the wrong side of this line of sanity, we ourselves are the worst judges. If others judge us, it is worse.

That’s why, Hypocrisy is a global disease, cutting across time and space. If belief can be rational enough to accept sanity for a fleeting split second, it is not just cynicism that most of 7 billion plus people on earth are muddled up pictures of sanity-abnormalities and; sanity mostly touches them for a fleeting moment or two.

Just liberally and humbly list the mind disorders that humanity faces. Add to it the thousands of phobias. Admit the circumstantial bouts of irrational mind positioning and one finds the true picture a psychologist is scared to portray. But the picture is well there as a permanent template!

And, why should it not be! Since the inception of human civilization, humanity is struggling to strike sanity with its inquisitive mind – a virtual cache of catastrophe. This mind is a pernicious womb of all troubles and turbulences. However, the mind itself is the savior, a huge sanity-twister. This is the template of self incessantly pitted against self.

Why complain. Is that easy for the mind? Every individual mind has to face what may be termed as a universe of inquisition. And that is quite like euphemism of silliest order. Apart from the life-living challenges that contemporary culture of conflict, chaos and confusion throws up and constant enterprise of survival/excellence in modern complex living that buoys up, there are larger questions of universe; and beyond the universe; life and death and beyond. Very few have the liberty and opportunity to face. Life seldom gives them such facility.

But then, questions, conflicts, struggles and hypocrisy at personal and societal levels, economy and polity, the gender conundrum, etc. The list is endless. And add to that a perpetual question of surviving in this madness of what is called contemporary world order beset with information obesity. Sanity is never ever helped. It is rather always and constantly challenged.

Since the start of the civilization, questions have been provided with answers. Humanity has been privileged to have brilliant minds who have given humanity such beautiful, powerful and effective support systems. There are enough icons, metaphors and ideas for the mind to take them as support mechanism to remain in the safe zone of sanity. But then…!

Mind is not designed to accepting answers of others. The sense of ownership in ingrained so deep in human mind that anything, which the self does not accept as ‘mine’, is dumped as futility. It is like everyone has to dig his or her own well and fetch water to drink. Mind’s core character is inquisitive and then, the mind goes beyond it. It takes the ‘available’ information from the ambient milieus as well as collective wisdom of humanity and makes them their own tool of insanity.

The metaphors, the icons that were created for sanity; the inquisitive and suspecting mind takes them as end in itself and thus add to its insanity. The support systems are just means to the end of attaining sanity for mind but mind finds them so satisfying that it turns the metaphors and icons into an attainment itself. This is obsession, a disease in psychological lexicon. This is straightforward invitation to insanity.

It is tough for the mind to be what it ought to be. It is a real fine line! So tough to stand on this and stay there with a perfect poise!

… and then, the contemporary global intellectual order is also not helping…

It is indeed sad, often tragic and chaotic that humanity in the contemporary world is destined to live in an intellectual universe where questions of billions of mind are being answered by a bunch of leadership who themselves do not have access to answers and are themselves a confused lot. The political system, eclipsed by economic disorders is surely not a domain for real and true intellectuals. Conundrum always invites confusion to date her…!

The questions have always been there – who are we, why are we, what is life for, the aim, the purpose, the righteousness and the exalted path, etc. The answers fall either in the realm of religion, philosophy or science. And all these realms are unable to come to a singularity of universal wisdom, though claiming to have right answers and also, claiming, only they know the answers. Sad… tragic…!

In reality, all the religions of the world are archaic, rooted in the timeliness of the knowledge that holds no truth today, given the realisms in the field of knowledge that humanity has today. The religions are thousands of years old when the set of knowledge that created them are today nothing but poor fiction.

The philosophy and even science are evolving. They are more authoritative and well-placed when they deny that what religions say and what traditional morality based on spiritualism entails are all wrong and unfounded. But, when they are asked as to what is the right answer, they come up with another set of still evolving answers and half-baked truths as many of them are based on hypothesis, which are well short of finality. The more rational of the scientists however are ready to admit that science may have some answers but human mind is still not evolved enough to have all right answers. This is better but then, it leaves us with our primary hypothesis that sanity is not being helped by the milieus or knowledge of humanity.

The good thing however, with all aware and rational minds is that in all fields of human knowledge, be in science, philosophy and religion, which usually provide answers to human inquisitiveness, those who really are intellectuals, do admit that there is nothing called ultimate or finality in human knowledge and wisdom as answers of key questions are always an evolving entity. They also admit that the answers are in holism of all wings of human knowledge, never in parts.

But tragically, such people are in very poor minority and their voices of rationalism also remain minority voices. And as usual, the media of the day are always interested in stifling this minority voice and play puppets in the hands of that majority, which foolishly but stylishly and ingenuously claim, they have the answers and only their answers are right ones. So, we keep entrenched in our hypothesis that not from any certain quarter the sanity is being helped.

So, what is the golden prescription for common man? It seems; it is very simple! Use this evolving knowledge as a weapon to make best out of it. God is or not; there is life after death or not; life’s purpose is in material well-being or not; etc, etc. Don’t be involved in this debate. Use whatever way it suits you and still allow others to have their own ideas. If you feel god is; good enough! Remain happy; but, never be antagonistic and retributive to those who say god doesn’t. Just admit and be compassionate to all ideas and all sorts of dualism and opinions. Choose what suits you and live a life that is happy, fulfilling and meaningful.

Simultaneously, being kind and accommodative to others who have ideas and actions other than what you choose. Believe and practice the holism of wisdom. And truly be compassionate towards all ideas and actions, till it conforms to the golden principle of non-violence of highest order.

This is what the great thinker Buddha practiced. Buddha was probably the earliest cognitive psychologist and quantum philosopher, who accepted the idealism of holism in the midst of ocean of conflicting and chaotically competing ideas and idealisms of his time. He practiced it very well. It is said, whenever someone would ask him to preach them about God, religion, faith, reincarnation, etc, he would prefer to keep silent. He would not say a word. However, when someone would ask him about solutions to life-living troubles, he would elaborate him or her about the principle of holism – The Samyak Chetna (Holistic Consciousness), about which we have talked above.

Many of Buddha’s disciples would be upset, some even angry and doubtful about Buddha, when he would not answer about philosophical questions of divinity and faith. However, Buddha never spoke about them. Because he believed, it did not matter to life and living. What mattered was every individual’s consciousness and the cognition. He talked about the consciousness and cognition and even elaborated on the causality, which causes pains and sufferings in human lives. This is also what Yogic Philosophy talks about. Yogic philosophy also circumvents divinity issues and focuses on life-living issues of consciousness, cognition and causality…

Life in itself is the biggest answer of all things. Other questions and answers may evolve. But when you have got your life, you have to be happy, modest and thankful that you have got what is a huge opportunity. Go ahead, explore the opportunity and while doing that, just be compassionate to others as, others have equal right to explore their opportunities. God is or not; life after death is or not; soul is or not has nothing to do with life-living wellness and excellence. These questions and their probable answers will always keep evolving.

Accept and use this relativity with true objectivity and make it a cardinal idea that life is an opportunity and it will be explored to its best only when we all practice ‘love and compassion’ to ourselves and to all things living or non-living. This shall never change, rest is for evolution.

As Buddha did, we all need to accept that life-living wellness needs other set of questions and their right answers. This is some intelligence we in contemporary times have to accept. It is important to see and understand what ‘Intelligence’ means for the idealism of life-living wellness and excellence.

Since long, we all have learnt from family members, peer groups and general society about the benchmarks of intelligence and genius. The established benchmarks of an intelligent and genius are : A person who has brilliant memory, can do many things at times and that too very fast and better than most, has huge information bank in his mind and can reproduce it in quick time, etc. The modern scientists have however opinion based on objective facts about human mind, which is different from these popular benchmarks of intelligence and genius. And, this opinion is what a few humans talked about and recorded a few thousand years back!

Modern science says – all the above-mentioned benchmarks of intelligence are only the actionable part of the human mind, which is almost entirely intuitive and instinctive. And, intelligence of mind is not and never intuitive. All of these are neural processes and are interwoven in the human mind in various portions. In our day-to-day mode, we operate entirely intuitively (instinctively). If we want to lean back and look at things, we are in our ‘awareness’ (subjective) mode. It is only when we set our conscious minds to it, and rigidly adhere to the process, that we are ‘intelligent’. Being ‘intelligent’ is not an ‘easy’ process, nor is it fun. It requires effort to learn and rigid self-control to use. But, it is productive.

In common man’s language, almost 95% of what 98% humans do on daily basis are simply instinctive and intuitive; that is actions guided by an automatic process of human brain for which all human minds have been wired in the long process of evolution. The decision-making by human mind in almost all aspects of day-to-day mode are done without any thinking or thought-processing of mind. But, when we stop before taking an intuitive and instinctive action and start thinking over the prudence and wider utility of the decision (action), we create something which is what science calls ‘intelligence’. And, this is still not intelligence in perfectness. The self-control on our intuitive/instinctive behavior is only one part of our ‘intelligence’. The other part is processing an intuitive input or a range of such inputs with rigid and objective knowledge and scientific benchmarks.

For example, you see a plate of sweets with soft drinks on your dining table and instinctively, your hand reaches for the plate as all your instinctive inputs urge you to eat it. But then, you apply self-control as another part of your mind warns you that this may be harmful for you health-wise and you process the two mutually opposing inputs to your decision-making. This is primary intelligence but not a complete one. Because, there are some people who overdo this intelligence and cause greater harm. Some people practice the self-control so much that they face another health problem in the form of anorexia or set of psychosis.

So, the intelligence is also in knowing your body facts correctly and so many other facts that will make your decision-making matrix a perfect one. Being really intelligent means, you know how much is your blood sugar level, what is your body’s tendency to accumulate cholesterol, what is your current BMI, would you be ready and willing to burn that extra calorie by doing exercises, etc. And after holding back your decision to eat sweets and objectively and scientifically assessing your facts in rigid framework of sincerity, you may probably take the final decision to have half the plate or just two pieces of sweets only. This value-summation or decision-matrix is what science calls ‘intelligence’. Do you remember the old wisdom of human body being driven by seven horses of instincts and the wise being one who could rein in all the seven and make the chariot drive on a decided path?

The trouble is, as modern scientists regret, 95% daily decisions of 98% people are purely instinctive and intuitive, meaning that in a huge majority of human decisions, virtually no ‘intelligence’ is applied and still, these 98% humans would never ever admit that they are not intelligent and genius. Tragically, among those who apply intelligence, most either underdo it or overdo it as they do not base their intelligence on rigid scientific data and facts and depend on popular social benchmarks of subjective perceptions. Still, nobody ever admits, he or she is not intelligent.

People think, things are destined and everything in life happens, as and when they have to, with humans being mere role player. This sure is a near true reality for most average people as they are in drift, being just in reactionary consciousness, not aware and in any meaningful control of elements of life and living.

Destinies of course can be changed and some real people always do it, by knowing and accepting that whatever happens in life is a product of the Causality – function of factors, which shape up a cause-effect chain of happenings and their cyclic spin offs. So, to change destiny, we need to change this causality.

There is a mechanism of all patterns of life-living factors, which prevail around us and involve us in some role play, which we often fail to recognize and be in control of. Therefore, the primary important thing for life-living wellness and excellence is shaping up our destiny. This we do by being intelligent – by unraveling the reality called Cognition – the way we see, feel and accept things in the space of ambient milieus. This causality is very powerful and the cognition is often not very conducive for individual perception, as cognition is often backed by and driven by strong collective sense of realism.

That is why; the ultimate thing in shaping up and changing destiny to one’s own suitability and utility is Consciousness – this ephemeral sense of ‘I’, the self, this sense of ‘me’, in the midst of the cacophony of billions of ‘I’, who constantly vie for shaping destinies for their respective individualistic as well as collective suitability and utility.

Life is all about the 3CsConsciousness, Cognition and Causality. Destinies, which we all accept as some external chain of happenings, are all about the causality of cognition of consciousness. This consciousness, this sense of a definitive and over-encompassing ‘I’, or the self, is usually very localized and in a drift or flux. This drifting and diminutive ‘I’ loses all control of life and living factors and elements and that is why it becomes an attachment to a pre-ordered destiny, especially the crowd destiny, led by Crowd Consciousness.

This ‘I’ has to be empowered, this consciousness has to be empowered for life-living wellness and personal excellence. This empowerment comes with the intelligence, we have talked about above. This intelligence is the realism of holism. As empowerment is attained, this evolved consciousness, this higher consciousness becomes the chief protagonist of the theatre of life and living, scripting its own play of life, its lyrics and choreograph the dance of destiny. This drift and flux has to be pruned, so that the ‘I’ is in full self-awareness and self-control, scripting its own individual destiny, distinct from the collective destiny of the crowd of people.

For this to be achieved, we have to come out of the drift of life and living, pull ourselves aside the forceful mainstream of pop culture of collective stupidities and be our true selves.

Therefore, the primary intelligence, in the mêlée of millions, is to understand and accept the utility and worth of solitude – the ‘Me-Time, the quality leisure for self-introspection. This quality leisure you need for yourself, to be friends with factors and elements of life, to be the master of the 3Cs – Consciousness, Cognition and Causality, which then opens up the doors of all good things to you, for you to attain your best potentials…

Plato, the first philosopher of humanity said, ‘To be intelligent is to accept the utility and worth of leisure’. So many people, over the ages and even in contemporary culture, have understood the difference between loneliness and solitude. Loneliness and solitude are just two faces of the same coin. When we feel sad and bad about being alone and lonely, it is a depressing feeling and it becomes identified as a debilitating realism called loneliness.

However, when being alone and lonely makes us happy, feel good about being in exclusive audience with self, feel empowered being in retrospections about finer things of life, this becomes a very satisfying and rewarding emotion. This is all about changing the cognition, which in turn shapes up a new causality for us.

The cognition plays the core and cardinal role in our wellness as it changes the causality – the way we accept cause and effect of a particular situation. And, this happens because the two persons are in different consciousnesses. An empowered consciousness accepts even a seemingly tough situation as rewarding, whereas, an affected consciousness sees even a rewarding experience as a threatening situation.

Therefore, in contemporary modern times and space of conflicts, confusion and chaos, an aware person, desirous of peace and poise, wellness and excellence in life must accept that primary attainment is leisure in life. It is because leisure facilitates further empowerment of self. As we have the precious element of leisure, we can build up the pathways of self-introspection and self-dialogue. These pathways, when created, lead us to higher consciousness, which is in control of all our cognitive functions. In this state of self, sanity of senses prevail in our internal as well as outer milieus. This Samyak Chetna facilitates holistic life-living, the platform of perpetuity of peace and poise, wellness and personal excellence…

Do step in…

This is a humble invite to all…

I thank you for enjoying 34 of my eBooks. They all, be it fiction or non-fiction, have been my humble endeavor to empower your consciousness for life-living wellness and personal excellence. All my eBooks are aimed at continuing to write on the core issues of 3Cs – Consciousness, Cognition and Causality, as I stick to my belief that holistic, integrative and assimilative knowledge of the 3Cs alone can open the doors of wellness and excellence in a world of chaos, conflict and confusion, we live in. There is nothing better than living a self-aware life, being fully aware of the mechanism and process of how ‘I’ works for us, with poise of purpose…

I have always believed that it is not that people await good times, the good times also await good people to come and hoist the potential seeded in the soil of future. Similarly, good words also wish for good readers, to be in reception of and be in linearity of the innocent intent, which ride on the shoulders of the words, for the finality of their fruition. I am fortunate enough to have thousands of brilliantly endowed and empowered readers like you, who have lent meaning to my innocent words.

My writings are aimed at empowering you by insisting on two simple things –

p<>{color:#000;}. This world is neither good nor bad. You too are neither good nor bad. It is essentially milieus in which we breathe, which decide and bring out good or bad from within us. Therefore, it is important that an aware and empowered person, seeking goodness and wellness must understand the conflicts embedded in the milieus and de-culture his or her mind off these elements of milieus. It is about empowering ‘I’…

p<>{color:#000;}. This world is neither good nor bad. You too are neither good nor bad. It is value-neutral. It is our cognition, engendered by our consciousness, which align us with good or bad. That is why, it is key for goodness and wellness to understand the mechanism and process of ‘self’, the core ideas of consciousness and cognition, which defines self and creates such causalities, which change the destiny for us. It is about empowering ‘I’…

It is a humble invite to empower yourself. Do kindly find my eBooks, fiction or non-fiction of some good use for your enterprise towards wellness and personal excellence. They are just a click away. Have the leisure and keep doing great in life. I keep writing for the same end…

Do step in…

About The Author

People say, what conspire to make you what you finally become are always behind the veil of intangibility. Someone called it ‘Intangible-Affectors’. Inquisitiveness was the soil, I was born with and the seeds, these intangible-affectors planted in me made me somewhat analytical. My long stint in media, in different capacities as journalist, as brand professional and strategic planning, conspired too! However, I must say it with all innocence at my behest that the chief conspirators of my making have been the loads of beautiful and multi-dimensional people, who traversed along me, in my life journey so far. The mutuality and innocence of love and compassion always prevailed and magically worked as the catalyst in my learning and most importantly, unlearning from these people. Unconsciously, these amazing people also worked out to be the live theatres of my experiments with my life’s scripts. I, sharing with you as a writer, is essentially my very modest way to express my gratitude for all of them. In my stupidities is my innocence of love for all my beautifully worthy conspirators!

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Say Hello To I: Feel Good To Be In Audience With Yourself

  • ISBN: 9781370186259
  • Author: Santosh Jha
  • Published: 2017-05-29 12:55:12
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