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Relationship Advice for Women: 5 Secrets to Make Him Believe You Truly Get Him

5 Secrets to Make Him Believe You Truly Get Him

How to Prevent the Blow-Off Again

By Paul Clooney

www.DatingTheGuy.com

Copyright © 2016

All rights reserved. Reproduction and distribution in any way, shape, or form is forbidden. No part of this book shall be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted by any other means, electronic, mechanical, photocopying, recording or otherwise without prior permission from the author.

Introduction

 

You’ve been dating him for a while. He’s sweet and smart and handsome and everything you’ve ever wanted in the man of your dreams. He offers his coat, your parents adore him – it all seems just right. That’s fine and wonderful, but sometimes Mr. Right doesn’t want to commit to you.

You’re ready, but he’s not taking the right steps to making a lasting promise and staying with you for the long haul. It’s understandable if you’re sick and tired of your man not wanting to commit.

You’re not alone. Many other young women are looking for a long-term relationship. Whether that means a serious partnership or even marriage, it can be exhausting to find the right man, along with ensuring that he will be by your side for years to come. Harder than the movies make it seem, finding love and making it last is not always a fairytale.

The men that have come before haven't always treated you like you deserve to be treated. Creepy, possessive, rude, or lacking in confidence- they weren't fit to spend their life with you. You've been through a lot, enduring all of the "Mr. Wrongs", but now it's time that you took your destiny into your own hands.

You have so much to offer, and you deserve a man who is kind, funny, intelligent, assertive, popular, honest, hard working, and attractive. Now that you’ve finally met that man, let’s make him yours to keep. By understanding what attracts men and what will make them commit, you’ll be able to marry the love of your life.  

Despite hoping for many similar things in a relationship, men and women tend to think and express themselves very differently. Part of building a successful long-term relationship is learning how to better communicate with your partner and showing them how to better communicate with you.

To make things work in the long run, you'll need to not only understand the man that you're dating, but also be able to understand and meet his needs- just as he will have to do for you. Throughout this book, you will learn the intricacies of the male mind. By understanding his style of communication, you will more easily be able to discuss his thoughts and feelings with him. The following chapters will prepare you for success in your love life endeavors, as well as solidifying yourself as the type of woman that men want in their life long term. Whether you want to be the girlfriend or wife of their dreams, don't hesitate. Here's how to get your man hooked!

 

 

 

 

 

 

Inside this FREE ebook you’ll discover:

 

 

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p<>{color:#000;}. How to make sure he sees you as a potential girlfriend, rather than just a potential one night stand.

 

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p<>{color:#000;}. The seemingly “normal” things you’re doing that will make him run the other way…

 

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p<>{color:#000;}. How to stay out of that long-term relationship rut and keep him coming back for more.

 

 

 

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Chapter 1 – How Attraction Works for Men

 

Think about the reasons that you look at your significant other with adoring eyes. Maybe it’s his dark hair or his sweet smile. Maybe you’re blown away by his charming confidence and playful attitude.

When you look at your partner, you’re happy with the man standing in front of you, and your attraction to him has grown over the course of your relationship.

During this Chapter, we will explore the most important features and characteristics that men look for in a lasting partner. You’ll learn about the traits of a woman that most attract men and how you can show off those traits in yourself.

 

Confidence

 

Many women think they need to have a supermodel physique to be attractive to men.  Through movies, magazines, and other media, women have been raised to believe that they need to look a certain way; society teaches women that their hair, makeup, bodies, and clothes all have to follow a specific standard.  

It’s easy to think that men want what we see on the cover of magazines, and even easier to compare ourselves to those images. This exposure can lead to low self-esteem and a loss in hope of finding a lasting relationship.

Luckily, studies have shown that the media has led us astray. While most women believe that men prefer a very skinny body, Dr. David Bainbridge of Cambridge has stated that men prefer otherwise; men are looking for a woman with a healthy body. The physical traits that matter to men can be easily attained with a healthy lifestyle.

There is no requirement for a large chest, mile-long legs, or tiny waist, but men do desire a woman who looks like she takes good care of her body on a daily basis. Men aren’t looking for a runway-ready woman; they are looking for a woman who loves her body and loves herself.

By eating nutritious foods, finding physical activities you enjoy, and getting proper sleep every night, you’ll feel healthier, happier, and more confident.  When you feel the effects of the changes you make in your lifestyle, you’ll create an image of yourself in glowing health and become more confident about the way you look.

The better you feel about your body, the less you will worry about fulfilling an unrealistic standard of beauty that most men aren’t even looking for. This, in turn creates a beautiful, healthy mind. Loving yourself, inside and out, can be the perfect start to having your man love you just as much.

In fact, one of the biggest draws for a man to a woman is her confidence. Beyond just confidence in your body image, men like women who show confidence in their personality. Confidence is an important characteristic men look for in their long-term, romantic endeavors.

Being spontaneous is a very attractive way to demonstrate your confidence. If you usually stay in on Thursday night, surprise him with something different! Take initiative in setting up date nights – take him to a new place, pack for a picnic, or head to the beach to watch the sun set.

Make things exciting, and in turn, he will look forward to spending a spontaneity-filled future with you. Showing him that you’re confident in these types of decisions will be very attractive to him.

In addition to being fun-loving and easygoing, one way to show a man how confident you are is to be playful with him. Tease him about something silly he did, give him a goofy nickname, and banter with each other; he will love that he can laugh when he’s with you.

Being playful is fun, but sometimes you need to have someone that you can rely on. Confidence can come in many forms, including being comfortable with your partner. A successful relationship is built around reliable partners, and that means that you and your man must know each other and trust each other.

It’s important to know that you’ll have a great time together whether you stay in or go out, just as it’s important to know you can have both fun conversations and serious conversations. Being able to joke is fun, but it is a valuable trait to be able to confidently share your thoughts and feelings with one another.

Being confident and comfortable in a relationship can also help with sharing your successes, your work, your hopes, and your dreams. It’s amazing to have a person that you can share excitement and experiences with. If you and your partner have similar interests, successes, or work, indulge in these things together and make the best of your shared passions.

Confidence in the relationship and one’s self is highly attractive. Confidence shows security in yourself and in your future, and that will make a man more excited to spend his future with you.

Another way to demonstrate your confidence is through the way your present yourself. From your unique style to your body language, finding ways to visibly show off your confidence will make you even more attractive to the man you care about.

 

Beauty

 

Beauty can often be an uncomfortable subject to discuss. The women tend to believe that men compare them to unmatchable standards such as supermodels, actresses, musicians, or other celebrities.

It can feel overwhelming to consistently think that you are up against someone who is shown on TV. The truth is that some standards of beauty that we hold for ourselves are not even considered by men when they see a woman.

For example, men do not have a preference for women who wear designer clothing. You don’t need the most expensive designer purse or shoes. In fact, men don’t have any idea whether you spent a few dollars or thousands on your outfit.

Having a unique sense of style that showcases your trust in yourself and your instincts is highly attractive. By engaging in your personal appearance and creating a look that you feel comfortable with, you radiate confidence.

While men may not notice the brand name on the tag of your shirt, men do notice if you look well put together. Looking “well put together” might simply mean having good hygiene.

By showering regularly, smelling nice, and brushing your teeth daily, you create a sense of responsibility for self. You look good and feel good, and others will surely notice.

Recent studies have shown that men don’t have a preference towards certain hairstyles or more makeup; men appreciate your natural beauty. Accentuate your curly hair, embrace your freckles, and enjoy your naturally rosy cheeks.

In addition to creating your own sense of style and making the most of your natural beauty, warm body language has been shown to be attractive to the opposite sex. A relaxed posture, open arms, good eye contact, and standing or sitting closely to the person you’re talking to can relay messages of warmth, trustworthiness, familiarity, and sincerity.

These traits are often identified as attractive in a female partner, making it important to be beautiful inside and out!

Finally, as mother always said, “Make sure you smile!” Research shows that men looking for a long-term relationship care more about a woman’s smile than her body.

This again reinforces the idea that men aren’t always looking for the perfect body, but more so a genuine, kind smile. Let’s explore one of the world’s most famous smiles, and why it’s so intriguing.

 

Mona Lisa’s Smile

 

The Mona Lisa has long been regarded as one of the most beautiful paintings ever created. Mona Lisa is an alluring woman; she holds something mysterious behind her smile, and you want to find out who she really is.

A sense of mystery adds a spark to a relationship. Mystery isn’t about having an aura of secrecy but rather the never-ending excitement of getting to know one another. While you may know your partner well, it’s safe to say that you can’t be satisfied with knowing just the basics about the person that you love.

To engage in a long-term relationship, you have to be dedicated to solving the mystery of the person behind the smile.

Learn about the most intricate details of the things that they love, their favorite activities, the people they look up to the most, and everything else that fascinates you. When he opens up to you in ways that he hasn’t with other women, he’ll feel an everlasting sense of connection with you.

Just as it’s exciting to truly understand him, he will be entranced by finding out who you are.  There is so much more to Mona Lisa than just her mysterious smile, just like there is with you. You’re more than a smile, more than a mystery, more than a brand of makeup or size of dress. You have so much more to offer than just a look or a body type.

Beyond confidence and beauty, you are a person with thoughts, feelings, and ambitions. Take hold of your future and personality, showing the very best of yourself to the people who deserve it.

Studies have shown that some of the traits that men value most in a woman are compassion, spontaneity, honesty, and conscientiousness. You can show off these traits to your man in unique ways that you enjoy:

 

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p<>{color:#244061;}. Compassion

 

Compassion is a trait that many men hope to have in their partners and future wives. Compassion is showing love for others, regardless of the boundaries between parties. Compassion for others is so highly regarded as a character trait because often times good mothers are very compassionate. Showing compassion can be done through small and large gestures.

Something as simple as preparing someone’s favorite meal when the come to visit could be considered compassionate, or something as large as buying someone in need a meal and a new set of clothing would be considered an act of compassion. Love for others knows no boundaries, and he will love that you’d love him in every possible way.

 

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p<>{color:#244061;}. Spontaneity

 

Men love adventure! Being spontaneous is a “hot trait” in possible spouses. Flying by the seat of your pants as some may say, spontaneity will keep your man on his toes. Make him your partner in crime as you venture across the city and explore new places in your hometown. Spontaneity can take many forms, for example- trying new foods, meeting new people, or experiencing new activities.

Whether it’s a surprise lunch date or a Saturday road trip to the beach, he will adore your sense of adventure and constant search for fun in everyday life.

 

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p<>{color:#244061;}. Honesty

 

Being honest is a key component for any and all relationships. Partners of all sexes value honesty as a trait that they look for in potential spouses. Honesty and trust go hand in hand. When your partner can be honest with you about their thoughts, feelings, and ideas, your relationship is then built on trust.

Don’t be afraid to speak your mind. Voice your opinion, share your thoughts, and create conversation. Such honesty alludes to confidence, which men find extremely attractive.

By being truthful with your words, he will go crazy for your confidence in your words and enjoy your open mind, along with appreciating your trust in him. While honesty is essential for maintaining a lasting relationship, consideration is important as well. Don’t forget to consider your partner’s feelings when sharing what’s going on inside your head.

 

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p<>{color:#244061;}. Conscientiousness

 

Being aware of the thoughts and feelings of those around you is a high-quality trait to have. Men find it very appealing to have a woman who cannot only speak her mind, but also speak up for another. Being conscientious encompasses feelings of empathy, sensitivity, and even activism.

By being conscientious, you find that you are aware of the emotions and reactions of those around you, as well as empathetic towards those in unfortunate situations. Men love a conscientious girl because she is constantly thinking of ways to make their relationship more fun, more meaningful, and more likely to last.

 

Chapter 2 – How to Make Him Respect You

 

While chemistry and attraction are essential parts of a successful, long-term relationship, respect is a key element to staying together for good.  For many couples, respect is a piece of the relationship puzzle that you absolutely cannot miss.

Without the key component of respect, relationships lose most of their value. Any instance of disrespect, whether small or large, can easily translate to unwanted arguments, tension, and frustration between partners. An important step to making respect a definite part of your relationship is making it clear that you respect yourself.

 

Respect Yourself

 

You have a lot to offer. You’re a woman with so much to give and deserve a faithful, life-long partner. Your partner should inherently respect you, but it’s important to have it known to all that your standards are high when it comes to making sure that you feel comfortable, safe, secure, and well-regarded.

You get the respect you demand from others, and the first step towards being able to demand respect from others is respecting yourself.

You have to ask yourself if you have a healthy level of self-respect. Here are a few true or false statements you can consider to gauge your self-love:

 

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p<>{color:#000;}. I never take time for myself.

 

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p<>{color:#000;}. Other’s opinions come first when I make an important personal life decision.

 

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p<>{color:#000;}. I always compare myself to others.

 

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p<>{color:#000;}. I feel bad about myself when others critique me.

 

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p<>{color:#000;}. I have the need to prove my worth to others.

 

If any of these statements are true for you, you may not be fully respecting yourself, your work, your time, or your worth as a human being.

When struggling with your self-esteem, it’s important to remember that there is nobody exactly like you. You are unique in your talents, your appearance, your motivations, and your character. Nobody can treat you as “less than” or irrelevant, as long as you don’t let them. Regard yourself highly, and take pride in yourself. When you respect the work you have done, the way you look, and the person you are, you will find someone who respects you in all those ways as well.

Respecting yourself can take many forms, such as taking care of your body, enforcing your boundaries, and regularly speaking your mind. Don't be confined by your own worries or struggles- pursue being the person that you want to be.

Setting high standards for yourself and your future will prove that you’re a top priority, reminding him that you should be one of his priorities as well. By creating space for yourself and your desires, your potential long-term partner will respect your wants and needs. Another way to show your partner how much self-respect you have is by challenging him.

 

Challenge Him

 

Challenging your partner is a great way to show confidence to your partner, ensuring their respect, and growing your self-esteem further. By playfully challenging your partner or pushing him to become better, your relationship will become stronger.

Through persistence and continual support, a system of consistent challenges can create a strong, lasting bond.

The first step to challenging your partner is being able to trust them. By allowing him to make his own decisions, you are showing him that you believe in him. When he knows that you support him, he will be much more open when you challenge him. This first step can be the most difficult step, as trust is a virtue not easily earned.

It’s also important to confidently voice your opinions.  Whether you’re talking about a politics, money, a decision about your home, an issue with family, or anything else, it’s critical that you value you each other’s opinions equally.

In healthy relationships, people communicate their thoughts and feelings to each other on a regular basis. Letting your partner know that you’re happy, sad, angry, excited, or nervous are key points of communication. Being vulnerable and direct with your feelings will challenge him to do the same. Being open with each other is the best start to creating a serious, long-term relationship.

Dealing with conflict is an inevitable part of every relationship. Some conflicts may be worse than others. You set your own boundaries, and if a particular conflict is one that you can move past, then you can directly and respectfully challenge your partner about it.

For example, if your partner doesn’t do their share of the housework, you can talk to them about chipping in more. It’s important that you everyone you deal with knows that you enforce your boundaries; your partner will know not to overstep the boundaries you set, or else they could lose you.

While some small issues may not be worth bringing up, you cannot let blatant disrespect slip through the cracks. Make sure that this disrespect is noticed, talked about, and resolved.

Challenging your partner doesn’t always have to be so serious. Being playful is a huge part of challenging him, and it demonstrates how confident you are as described in Chapter 1.

By having more playful conversations and interactions, you can create a space where it’s safe and amusing to poke fun at each other, which can help illuminate the confidence within you. Once you’ve truly harnessed your inner self-confidence and mastered challenging your partner, you can show him how to appreciate you more.

 

Teach Him How To Treat You

 

Communicating your feelings towards someone can be the biggest struggle of a relationship. Showing your appreciation and affection for your partner are both part of making your intentions for the future of the relationship clear.

It can often feel stressful to express your feelings so openly to your partner, but lasting communication results in lasting relationships. In this section, we will focus on how to help your partner better communicate their appreciation for you.

Appreciation can be difficult to show, especially if you can’t communicate these feelings easily. If your partner can’t communicate with you, that’s a red flag from the start.

But sometimes appreciation can be easily misread or expressed in very subtle ways. In his book The Five Love Languages of Love, author Gary Chapman explains how people choose to express their feelings through different avenues.

Chapman believes that the most common ways of showing affection are spending quality time together, speaking words of affirmation, committing acts of service, giving gifts, and using touch.

Here are some of the ways you might show your appreciation for someone depending on your love language:

 

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p<>{color:#244061;}. Spending Quality Time Together

 

Whether it’s a walk in the park, a homemade dinner, or a cuddly movie night, making special time throughout the week or day for your significant other can be essential to making your partner feel special.

Spending quality time together may not be achievable in all situations, such as a long distance relationship, but the time apart creates a stronger connection for your time together.

 

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p<>{color:#244061;}. Speaking Words of Affirmation

 

Simple words, please & thank yous, or compliments can be the perfect way to tell your loved one exactly how you feel and why! Simply saying- “I hope you have a wonderful day,” or “I love you! You look great this morning,” can spark a smile on your partner's face.

Not only are words of affirmation simple, but they can be conveyed through a variety of mediums. Send a text, shoot them an email, give them a call on their lunch break, leave a sticky note on the bathroom mirror, or say it out loud as they walk through the door!

 

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p<>{color:#244061;}. Committing Acts of Service

 

Acts of service range far and wide. It can be something as big as picking up the groceries or something as simple as ironing their favorite shirt or bringing them their morning coffee. Acts of service or devotion are simple ways to show that you not only care about your partner, but that you’re a team together in life.

 

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p<>{color:#244061;}. Giving Gifts

 

Giving gifts is pretty self-explanatory. Gifts can vary from small to large, depending on the occasion. For holidays or anniversaries, gifts tend to be larger or more expensive.

If your partner finds affection through gift-giving/receiving on a daily or weekly basis, find small things that put a smile on their face, such as a piece of chocolate, a flower, or a copy of their favorite magazine. These things can brighten someone’s day immediately.

 

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p<>{color:#244061;}. [* Touching- Physical Affection *]

 

Finally, we see physical affection as a form of communication. A kiss on the forehead, a hug, a squeeze of the hand; any of these simple acts are considered valid ways to show your appreciation to your partner.

In addition to touching your partner, body language can easily show your feelings. Smiles, relaxed shoulders, good eye contact, and open arms are signs of being comfortable.

This subtlety is nice for public situations, family gatherings, or work get-togethers, where full on physical contact may be frowned upon. Body language can be sweet and a to-the-point way of reminding your significant other of your adoration for them.

If you love someone in your heart and mind, you can show them with your body. Make them feel loved, comfortable, and cherished.

Every person has their own way to express love and affection for the most important people in their life. Because each person shows appreciation and affection differently, it’s important to communicate with your partner about what makes you feel most appreciated and what you could do for them that would make them feel most appreciated.

Make sure that you reciprocate shows of appreciation with your partner regularly when they show affection in a loving, recognizable way.

Another part of showing appreciation is through understanding. Being understanding or empathetic towards your partner can be the perfect way to let them know that you are ready for a long-term commitment.

Put yourself in your partner’s shoes when it comes to their daily frustrations, work commitments, or family matters; being understanding is an integral piece of being able to show affection and communicate your readiness to settle down. Being more empathic towards your partner will push them to be more empathetic towards you.

There has probably been a time when your man seemed like he wasn’t empathizing with you when you were upset – it seemed like he didn’t even realize something was wrong. Studies have shown that men are less likely to pick up on subtle social or emotional cues.

The average man can’t read other’s emotions as easily as the average woman. If you dealt with this issue, try being more direct with your partner. When you create a space of openness, sharing, and understanding, your loved one will get to know you to the highest degree, creating an atmosphere where they can begin to read between the lines and learn to pick up on your subtlest emotional cues.  

You’ve learned how your man can better appreciate you and how you can better appreciate him. But you’ve shown your appreciation for men in the past, and sometimes they still didn’t want to commit. Let’s discuss why.

 

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Chapter 3 – Why Men Lose Interest

 

Everything was going fine. But then, out of nowhere, he says it’s over. You might ask yourself where you went wrong or what could’ve come between you, but sometimes there are more factors that play into partners losing interest.

You need to understand that your first partner may not be your last- and that’s okay. Don't lose hope or be sad. There are many reasons why men might lose interest that you might deal with yourself.

 

There’s Someone Else

 

Sometimes relationships can be slow to start. For most men, it takes one to three months to commit to an exclusive relationship. For many women, the desire to be exclusive can come much sooner than that. This can cause a disparity in the beginning of a relationship.

With one partner wanting exclusivity and one wanting to take it slower, feelings can be hurt and trust might be broken. Many relationships end because the man became interested in another woman before committing to you.

What if you had met two potential partners at the same time? Both partners might be great guys for long-term commitment, but you could only choose one. This happens very often for both men and women. If a man decides he wants to commit to another woman over you, don’t dwell on it.

It doesn’t mean there is anything wrong with you – it just means he felt more of a connection with the other woman, just as you might feel more of a connection with one man more than another.

Let your partner make his decision. If he doesn’t choose you, he is not the person you want to be with anyways. By giving your potential partner time and space to make an important relationship choice, they’ll know that you are trusting, patient, and level-headed.

Transitioning from the early stages of dating to an exclusive relationship can be wearing on a couple’s trust in each other. If you think that your current partner in an exclusive relationship is seeing someone else, it is in your best interest to break it off right then and there.

Whether or not they are, a lack of trust will result in a dysfunctional partnership that would not work out in the long run.

Sometimes he isn’t ready to commit. Sometimes you aren’t either, and that’s okay. Take your time to invest in a relationship that will last for years to come.

 

You’re On a Different Relationship Page Than Him

 

One of the common breakups sayings of all time is “It’s not you, it’s me.” It’s an easy phrase to say, in spite of breaking someone’s heart. Unfortunately, sometimes the reason that couples separate is out of their control.

As two individuals attempting to live in sync, life can get in the way of a relationship. Often times, partners separate due to being at two different stages in life.

Different stages of life can refer to endless things. Two people can be at different ages, live in different places, have different goals, or just want different things out of a relationship.

These factors can be huge splinters in partnerships, causing arguments, lack of communication, or just a general misunderstanding of lifestyles. Here we explore how these differences can become problematic in relationships.

Many say that age is just a number, but often times these numbers complicate how we interact with each other. Whether it is the level of education completed, your workplace status, or your maturity in general, many couples find that age differences become clear and detrimental to commitment for the long term.

For example, many men don’t make the transition from wanting a short-term relationship to a long-term relationship until they are in their 30s, while women often make that transition in their early to mid-20s. Thus, if a woman is dating a younger man or vice versa, they may struggle to agree on the exclusivity or seriousness of the relationship.

In addition to an age gap, goals and intentions can be difficult to make clear. At different ages and stages of your life, you will have different goals regarding your career, family, and personal life, as well as have intentions for relationships such as a short-term relationship, long-term relationship, friendships, partnerships, or marriage.

Depending on your age, goals, and intentions, some relationships will falter solely in regards to a different vision for the partnership.

While these things may cause discrepancies in the relationship, proximity of a partner may also be a factor in question. Distance can be a dagger in the side of a relationship, causing a serious deficiency of quality time together as a couple.

This lack of quality time, physical touch, immediate closeness, and clear future can result in a lack of communication, trust, and happiness.

Distance between two individuals can be an obvious problem, but the distance that it can draw within a couple is more harmful than it seems. Sometimes long distance relationship can result in cheating, feelings of desperation, or a lack of focus on current life events.

In addition to differing life stages, there are some factors that play into relationships that are even less under our control.

 

He Simply Didn’t Feel the Same Click

 

It’s not a good feeling to hear that he doesn’t feel the way you feel. There wasn’t a spark for him; he didn’t feel the same connection you did. It’s hard to know what to do when you’re left feeling empty-handed and confused.

A strong connection is key to making things last. Having that concrete connection makes individuals feel secure in the relationship, as well as satisfied. By spending time with someone that you connect with, you feel happy, excited, and accomplished in the fact that someone else feels similarly to you.

Unfortunately, the spark or connection is out of our control. If a partner decides that the connection isn’t worth pursuing, that’s the end, just as you have the freedom to decide. You don’t want to end up with a partner that doesn’t appreciate you and your efforts towards making the relationship last or isn’t in love with you, your personality, or your lifestyle.

Sometimes, you look great for each other on paper, but one or both of you just don’t feel a connection. This happens in lots of relationships, and it’s ok to move on.

Sometimes this can be explained by what psychologists refer to as the Big Five personality traits: openness to new experiences, conscientiousness, extraversion, agreeableness, and neuroticism. Research shows that people in long-term relationships tend to be more satisfied and feel more connected when they are more similar to their partner in the Big Five traits.

Relationships often require a balance. By finding out what pleases both sides of the partnership, you are much more likely to have a healthy equilibrium that creates a happy connection for both couples. When striving to create that happy medium of having a spark and making sure that everyone’s needs are met, keep in mind that everyone moves at a different pace.

For example, men generally move slower into relationship than women do. In a partner, a man may look for a woman who is likely to move his pace. In the same respect, women are more likely to be open and vulnerable with a partner. Thus, a woman may be looking for a partner who is willing to openly share emotions and feelings, which can be a critical part of any relationship.

While it can be difficult to find a balance between moving slowly and opening up to each other, it is essential to make a balanced connection that results in slowly moving forward to a lasting relationship in order to better connect.

But when you find the person that you want things to work with – when everything falls into place just right in your life – you know when you’re ready to make a lasting commitment.

Chapter 4 – How Commitment Works for Men

 

Commitment is serious, important, and big step when it comes relationships. Commitment is the act of making a concrete promise to a lasting partnership.

The idea can be scary to both men and women, but it’s an essential movement in the right direction. Sometimes it’s hard to tell whether he wants to commit or not. By learning why men want to commit, you can be more confident in the commitment signals he sends you.

 

You Are Different

 

You’ve been focusing on harnessing your confidence. You’re strong, showing off all of your greatest qualities, in both personality and body. You are driven to accomplish your goals, as well as making sure that he accomplishes his. He’s ready to commit to you because you give him a different feeling that any woman before.

He’s in love with the little things about you, like the way that you crinkle your nose when you smile or how you always hold the door open for others. But just as he loves the little things, he loves the big things too.

He’s entranced by your strong beliefs and passionate pursuit of happiness for yourself and others. You’re different because you care about yourself and you care about him.

Unlike the ladies before, you listen to him. You’re completely honest in the most beautiful way. Your conversations range from silly to playful to serious. He can trust you with his deepest darkest secrets, as well as his daily struggles and frustrations.

You’re a shoulder to cry on, a hand to hold, and an ear to listen. Just as much as you can listen to him, he can listen to you.

He loves hearing about your day, the exciting things that happen and the things you have coming up. He wants to hear your fears, comfort you, and assure you that you’ll be just fine. Your communication knows no bounds, and neither does your commitment.

Other couples envy the way that you are able to talk to each other. Being so well connected and well versed in each other’s interests, goals, worries, and passions, makes you ready for the journey ahead- together.

One of the hardest parts of a relationship for men is being vulnerable with you, and some men have more trouble with this than others. In her book “Daring Greatly,” renowned researcher Brene Brown discusses how vulnerability is the courageous path towards building true connections and building stronger relationships.

The book also goes into great detail about how to help your man be more vulnerable with you as you slowly build a more and more open relationship over time.

 

You Make Him Feel Amazing

 

You laugh at his jokes, support him endlessly, and make him feel strong. You make him feel like he’s on top of the world. He adores you and the fact that you value his life and interests. You pay attention, ask questions, and offer your help when he needs it.

You’re the one he wants to share his good news with, and you’re the first person in mind when he wants to celebrate.

You show interest in the little things going on in his life- and he appreciates that. His friends and family love you, as well as commend you for making him smile more than usual. His quirks don’t annoy you - you think they are cute.

You make him feel secure and confident by being playful in your daily interactions. You catch him smiling at you when he thinks you aren’t looking. You’re happy, he’s happy, and the future looks bright.

 

If you can answer yes to the following questions, you definitely meet his needs:

 

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p<>{color:#000;}. Did you give each other sufficient time to transition into the relationship?

 

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p<>{color:#000;}. Do you make sure that your partner is satisfied mentally and physically?

 

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p<>{color:#000;}. Do you leave time for him to pursue his own interests?

 

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p<>{color:#000;}. Have you happily accepted his friends and family?

 

He Knows He Makes Her Happy

 

There’s no person you’d rather be with than with him, and you make sure that he knows it. You wrap your arms around him; he knows that you’re there and you’re happy about it. He looks at you and sees a happy, confident, glowing woman.

He sees how the two of you have grown. You’ve laughed and cried together, been through the best and the worst.

Now, you’ve come out on the other side happier and stronger than ever before. You enjoy doing small things together. Communication is always present, and honesty is at the forefront of every interaction.

You come to him, completely genuine and original, to have the time of your life. He’s everything you ever wanted and will continue to want. He feels the same about you and your future together.

 

If you can answer yes to the following questions, your partner is definitely meeting your needs:

 

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p<>{color:#000;}. Did you give each other sufficient time to transition into the relationship?

 

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p<>{color:#000;}. Does your partner make sure that you are satisfied mentally and physically?

 

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p<>{color:#000;}. Does he leave you time to pursue your own interests?

 

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p<>{color:#000;}. Has he happily accepted your friends and family?

 

Everything is falling into place. You’re amazing, everything he’s ever imagined. He’s the man you’ve always dreamed of. But…where do we go from here?

 

 

Chapter 5 – How to Get Him to Propose

 

You’re ready. You’re there. It’s time. You’ve been together for a while, the commitment is real, and the feelings are strong. It’s time to take the step from long-term relationship to a forever partnership- marriage.

This is the biggest step of a relationship, making the promise to love each other forever, regardless of what happens over the course of your lives. But you’re ready to make that commitment to him. It’s important to know how to gauge how he’s feeling about taking that next step.

 

Know His Readiness

 

Engagement and marriage are lasting commitments of love, which can be scary. Once marriage is brought up in relationships, a lot of partners get cold feet. Small annoyances become more evident and the “big picture” is contemplated over and over again.

As many problems can be solved through communication, talking about your readiness can be an easy fix to any confusion that might accompany conversation revolving around marriage.

 

Communication about marriage can be subtle or outright. Discussing marriage and engagement openly can be difficult, but it will also help get direct answers. If he’s not ready, he will tell you. If he is, he will tell you. Easy questions to ask might be the following:

 

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p<>{color:#000;}. Where do you see this relationship going?

 

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p<>{color:#000;}. Where do you see us in five years?

 

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p<>{color:#000;}. How serious are we?

 

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p<>{color:#000;}. Do you ever think about our future?

 

Conversely, if you are subtle, the signs may not be as clear. Pay attention to his reaction when you talk about how your friends are getting married or watch his facial expressions when you bring up recent engagements in the family. Trying to feel out emotions can be tricky.

You don’t want to be disappointed when there is no reaction or little expression. Remember that men are not as likely to pick up on emotional and social cues as women are. Similarly, men are constantly taught to hide their emotions, so they might be very excited at the thought of marriage even if they don’t show it.

The direct route will easily communicate your feelings, and give a clear idea of what his feelings on marriage are.

In addition to just feeling out his readiness, use your resources! Talk to his friends, make small talk of it to his family, and reach out to buddies to get their opinion on his readiness. Maybe word will get around that you’re asking about taking the next step. Sometimes you just need to plant the seed, introduce the idea, and let it grow.

Planting the seed, just like reading into his emotions, can be subtle or direct. Subtle seed planting might involve leaving wedding magazines or pictures of engagement rings you like out in the open. Not to be deceitful, but just dropping small hints over the course of a few months or weeks so he catches a hint!

A direct way of planting a seed would be saying something such as, “What age do you want to be married by?” or teasing him about when he’ll propose to you. Being playful, along with including engagement/marriage hints, can be a sweet, yet direct way of letting him know it’s on your mind.

But in the end, what he does matters more than what he says.

 

Actions Speak Louder Than Words

 

So, maybe you’ve planted some seeds or had the conversation directly- but the idea of marriage is officially on the table. A serious, life-long commitment is up for discussion- a major possibility in your future. But then comes the line that needs to be drawn:

 

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p<>{color:#000;}. Are his words empty or are you getting married?

 

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p<>{color:#000;}. It shouldn’t be a painful choice or a forced action, but a decision should be made, you either go ahead to the future or end things where they are. This is it.

 

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p<>{color:#000;}. He says he’s ready to commit, but he always finds an excuse not to…

 

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p<>{color:#000;}. He’s not where he wants to be yet.

 

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p<>{color:#000;}. He says we have so much to do.

 

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p<>{color:#000;}. He just wants more time.

 

Whatever the excuse, he’s hesitating to make the commitment real and concrete. But I assure you- now is not the time to push. Marriage is one of the biggest decisions and commitments you can make in your lifetime, and pushing a proposal will not start this lifetime relationship off on a good note.

Just as you’ve been all the times before, be patient with him, listen to his reasoning as to why you should wait, ask questions, and really consider his rational. There are more factors that go into marriage than just feeling a strong connection towards one another.

You’ll need to consider finances, housing, location, jobs, and children. Take into account all of the responsibilities that accompany marriage, and assess everyone’s readiness, maturity, and compassion for one another.

By discussing your worries with one another, you will achieve a new level of comfort with one another.

 

Address His Fears

 

Marriage isn’t a single faceted commitment. It’s a lifelong promise to another person that you will love them, cherish them, and take care of them. It’s a vow to have each other’s back and live each day together to the best of your ability. It can be hard picturing your life, dedicated to someone beside yourself.

It’s not an idea that is easily accepted or simply proposed. It’s a serious relationship, the most serious you can have. But the seriousness isn’t all. It’s also an unknown adventure, a whole future together of experiences and excitement.

But with all these things- known and unknown- comes fear. The excitement can be drowned out by worry over the future. Luckily, this is where communicating with one another comes in as, again, a key aspect of creating a lasting relationship. Discussing your biggest worries about a commitment like marriage, and coming up with viable solutions to lessen these fears.

For example, if your partner is worried about the location of your jobs, make a list of pros and cons for each location. If you can’t decide on where you would like to be located, search for a place that the both of you have always wanted to go, live, or visit.

Unfortunately, some of these problems can’t be fixed immediately. You may have to temporarily live apart, settle for a less-than-desirable house or apartment, or hold off on starting a family. The importance of these compromises is that in the end, you’ll be together. Marriages endure the beginning struggles, whether that’s hesitancy to commit or worries about the future.

While you’re ready and excited for this new chapter in your relationship, don’t make assumptions about your partner. If he needs more time, give him the time that he needs. If he isn’t sure about popping the question just yet, let him decide when he is read.

 

Pushing someone into marriage, or any situation for that matter, won’t result in a happily ever after. Instead of a constant pressure to step up, remind him how your relationship has come this far.

 

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p<>{color:#000;}. You’re different than any woman he has experienced before.

 

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p<>{color:#000;}. You can be open with each other.

 

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p<>{color:#000;}. You make him feel amazing.

 

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p<>{color:#000;}. You know he’s the one, he makes you the happiest woman.

 

Remind him of your best memories, and even your worst. Remind him how you’ve made it through so much. This isn’t a time for pushing, but a time for appreciating everything that has come of your relationship.

Why should he marry you? Why should he take this step?

Because he loves you. And it’s that simple.

Take these steps forward, together. This is a journey as a team, not an individual. Reassure each other of your devotion; trust in each other’s affection.

 

 

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Chapter 6: Conclusion and Action Steps

 

Throughout this book you’ve learned many things about yourself, analyzed your partner, and thought about the possible futures that your relationship may hold.

The possibilities are endless, for you and your romantic endeavors, when you take different perspective into account. To refresh your memory, here are brief summaries of the knowledge gained throughout this book:

 

Chapter 1 – How Attraction Works for Men

 

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p<>{color:#000;}. Confidence is an important aspect of attraction. Love yourself, love your style- and he will too! Be proud of who you are, and show him your very best self.

 

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p<>{color:#000;}. Look your best, and in turn, feel your best. Showcasing your best self is not only good for yourself, but a plus for your significant other. Being comfortable in your own skin is attractive and intriguing.

 

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p<>{color:#000;}. Mona Lisa’s smile is mysterious and beautiful, but what’s important is her personality. Remember that you are so much more than a smile or a pretty picture- you are a woman with a lot to offer!

 

Quick Tips

 

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p<>{color:#000;}. Making the most of your natural beauty can be easy! Drinking water instead of soda can result in whiter teeth and a clearer complexion.

 

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p<>{color:#000;}. Don’t go to extremes to try and achieve “the look” that you think is attractive to men. Using a tanning bed increases your chances of getting skin cancer by 20%.

 

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p<>{color:#000;}. Going on a crazy diet to quickly lose weight doesn’t work in the long run. Try lots of different healthy foods, and introduce more of the ones you like into your diet.

 

Chapter 2 – How to Make Him Respect You

 

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p<>{color:#000;}. By respecting yourself, you demand the respect of others. Take pride in your appearance, interests, accomplishments, and goals. Make the best of your everyday self.

 

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p<>{color:#000;}. Push him to be a better person and partner every day. Support him in his endeavors, as well as helping him give you the utmost respect daily.

 

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p<>{color:#000;}. Appreciation can take many forms- giving gifts, physical touch, quality time together, words of affirmation, and acts of service. Discuss how you and your partner like to be appreciated, and implement those things into your daily life.

 

Quick Tips

 

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p<>{color:#000;}. Give yourself a pep talk every morning! Remind yourself how great you are and how much you deserve a wonderful person to spend your life with.

 

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p<>{color:#000;}. Remind your partner daily of how much you support him. When you respect and support his ideas and efforts, he will also respect the work and time that you put in to achieve your dreams.

 

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p<>{color:#000;}. Every night write down three things you accomplished or enjoyed that day. This will raise your self-esteem and make you much happier.

 

Chapter 3 – Why Do Men Lose Interest?

 

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p<>{color:#000;}. Whether it’s resistance to exclusivity or there’s another woman, let him take his time. Don’t rush the transition into a committed relationship, especially when he is unsure of his intentions.

 

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p<>{color:#000;}. Sometimes, the timing just isn’t right. Whether it’s an age gap, distance, or a difference in future goals, some differences are out of our control.

 

 

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p<>{color:#000;}. Unfortunately, sometimes the spark just isn’t there. Connections may not be made due to a difference in wants and needs. Making sure that everyone is being satisfied with the relationship is important.

 

Quick Tips

 

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p<>{color:#000;}. A relationship that has failed once already is twice as likely to end in a complete breakup. If your potential partner is not interested in what you have to offer, move on.

 

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p<>{color:#000;}. Try not to dwell on a breakup if you don’t know what went wrong. If you can’t get your mind off the breakup, spend your time doing things you enjoy with your friends.

 

Chapter 4 – How Commitment Works for Men?

 

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p<>{color:#000;}. He’s never met another woman like you. You’re special and wonderful, and he can’t wait to keep you around.

 

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p<>{color:#000;}. Whether you’re having a serious or silly conversation, you can share anything with each other.

 

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p<>{color:#000;}. When he’s with you, there’s no better feeling. You make him so happy through your support, kindness, and helpful nature.

 

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p<>{color:#000;}. He sees you smiling all the time. You’re always showing signs of affection, whether verbally or physically. He’s happy to have you, and you’re definitely happy to have him.

 

Quick Tips

 

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p<>{color:#000;}. Match his speed. When in a relationship, it can be hard not to rush ahead if your feelings are strong. Balance your brain and your heart when it comes to pursuing him.

 

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p<>{color:#000;}. Don’t be afraid to try something new! When you’ve been together for a while, it’s easy to fall into a pattern. Keep the fire strong by trying things that he is interested in or excited about.

 

Chapter 5 – How to Get Him to Propose

 

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p<>{color:#000;}. Engagement and marriage are big steps to take in a relationship. Assess your readiness for this commitment, as well as his. Take this step together when you’re both in it for the long haul.

 

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p<>{color:#000;}. Does he say he’ll make this commitment but continually fall through? Let him take his time to create words and actions that will last a lifetime. Reassure him of the bond you have and the lifetime of love you’ll share together.

 

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p<>{color:#000;}. Cold feet are normal. Communicate with each other about your fears in pursuing such a serious relationship. Come up with viable solutions and compromises to make everyone comfortable and happy.

 

Quick Tips

 

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p<>{color:#000;}. This is a process that you won’t want to rush. A marriage will last a lifetime, but engagements and boyfriend/girlfriend status are temporary. Enjoy this time together.

 

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p<>{color:#000;}. While distance can be difficult, there are many ways to stay in touch. Whether it’s video chatting, social media, or those late night phone calls, you’ll be able to stay connected.

 

 

Common Obstacles to Watch For

 

While you’re in pursuit of Mr. Right, remember that you’ll have to come across some Mr. Wrongs first. Sometimes these men are hard to pick out, but just be careful when it comes to the following situations:

 

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p<>{color:#000;}. If your friends and family do not like this man, this might be a red flag. Your friends and family members know you better than anyone else. They’ve seen you at your absolute best and your absolute worst. If they don’t get a good vibe from the person you are seeing, take some time to critically assess the dynamics between the two of you.

 

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p<>{color:#000;}. A partner who is only present when he needs something is not the kind of partner that you need in your life. You are present when he is in need of something (support, money, food etc) but he can’t come to your side when you are in need – red flag.

 

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p<>{color:#000;}. When your partner is not willing to support you in your goals, adventures, and endeavors, think long and hard if you will be happy in this relationship. A necessary piece of a successful relationship is being able to provide unwavering support to your partner in pursuit of his successes. Take yourself into account, and make sure you are with someone who will do the same.

 

Final Words

 

No real relationship is easy. You have to work hard for the ones that you love and work even harder to maintain and pursue a relationship with them that will last a lifetime. I hope that through this book, you have realized the necessary skills and patience that creating a long term relationship will take.

In addition, I hope it has been made clear that you are an integral part in any and all relationship functions.

Your wants, needs, and desires should be considered in every partnership that you might pursue. I wish you the best in your search for your forever partner!

 

Thanks so much!

Paul Clooney

 

 

 

 

 

 

Inside this FREE ebook you’ll discover:

 

 

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p<>{color:#000;}. How to make sure he sees you as a potential girlfriend, rather than just a potential one night stand.

 

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p<>{color:#000;}. The seemingly “normal” things you’re doing that will make him run the other way…

 

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p<>{color:#000;}. How to stay out of that long-term relationship rut and keep him coming back for more.

 

 

 

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Relationship Advice for Women: 5 Secrets to Make Him Believe You Truly Get Him

You're ready, but he's not taking the right steps to making a lasting promise and staying with you for the long haul. It’s understandable if you’re SICK AND TIRED of your man not wanting to commit! Whether that means a serious partnership or even marriage, it can be exhausting to find the right man, along with ensuring that he will be by your side for years to come. Harder than the movies make it seem, finding love and making it last is not always a fairytale. The following chapters will prepare you for SUCCESS in your love life endeavors, as well as solidifying yourself as the type of woman that men want in their life long term. Whether you want to be the girlfriend or wife of their dreams, don't hesitate! HERE IS A PREVIEW OF WHAT YOU'LL LEARN: Chapter 1: How Attraction Works For Men Chapter 2: How To Make Him Respect You Chapter 3: Why Men Lose Interest Chapter 4: How Commitment Works For Men Chapter 5: How To Get Him To Propose Chapter 6: Conclusion and Action Steps BONUS: Why Men Lose Interest and How to Be the ONLY Woman! Inside this FREE ebook you'll discover: - How to make sure he sees you as a potential girlfriend, rather than just a potential one night stand. - The seemingly "normal" things you're doing that will make him run the other way (HINT: These change depending on which stage your relationship is at...) - How to stay out of that long-term relationship rut and keep him coming back for more.

  • Author: Paul Clooney
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Relationship Advice for Women: 5 Secrets to Make Him Believe You Truly Get Him Relationship Advice for Women: 5 Secrets to Make Him Believe You Truly Get Him