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Parenting Rules: Good Parents, Great Kids! (+2nd Free Book): How to Connect With

 

[Parenting Rules:
GOOD PARENTS, GREAT KIDS!]

How to Connect with Your Kids and Raise Them to Become Responsible, Happy Adults

Jenifer & Allan N Michaels

Table of Contents

Introduction

Chapter 1: Start with Yourself

Chapter 2: Communicate with Your Child

Chapter 3: Teach Your Child Responsibility

Chapter 4: Teach Your Child about Discipline

Chapter 5: Connect with Your Child

Conclusion

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Introduction

First of all, we’d like to thank you and congratulate you for your interest in the book, “Parenting Rules: Good Parents, Great Kids!”

This book will teach you how to practice good parenting by effectively communicating and connecting with your children and by teaching your kids about responsibility and discipline.

Every responsible adult begins as a responsible child. And good children begin with good parents. While the definition of good parenting may differ from person to person, one thing has held true all throughout the ages: Kids learn by imitation. They may not always listen to what we say but they certainly pay attention to what we do. When your kids are still young, you’re a superstar in their eyes. So if anything, parenthood requires you to be on your best behavior.

There’s a wealth of information out there about how to be good parents by transforming your children’s behavior. However, what a parent really needs to focus on is how to develop himself/herself. Through this book, you’ll learn how understanding yourself better can help you become more loving and empathetic towards your child.

Teaching discipline and responsibility all rely on effective parent-child communication. Through these pages, you’ll learn about various communication techniques with examples. More than that, you’ll get a step-by-step guide on how to teach children of all ages how to assume and handle responsibility. This book will teach you not how to discipline your child but how to help your child discipline himself.

To a child, parents are meant to be figures that represent love, nurturing, and security. At the end of this book, you’ll find tips on how to connect with your children in a way that will enable you become attuned to their deeper emotional needs.

Thanks again for taking interest in this book, we hope you enjoy it!

~ Jenifer & Allan N Michaels

[] Chapter 1:[
**]Start with Yourself

The first thing you should understand is that good parenting begins with yourself. One of the things that good parents strive for is to become attuned with their children’s emotions. In order to do that, you should first look inward to understand yourself as a person and as a parent.


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p<>{color:#000;}. Most parents are unaware that their kids stir up repressed and unresolved emotions from their very own childhood. While most parents may deny this, a child’s innocence, freedom, and spirit can awaken past hurts and frustrations from one’s childhood. The more you avoid these feelings, the more you draw away from a close relationship with your child and the more you will feel uncomfortable about building a deep emotional connection. As a result, you will be unable to tune in to the things that your child is feeling and experiencing. How to fix this? Don’t run away from your childhood traumas. Face them. Make sense of them. And close that chapter so that you can begin a new one as a parent.


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p<>{color:#000;}. Your children are a reflection of yourself, bearing traits that they’ve inherited from you. That includes both the good and the bad. Another thing that most parents don’t realize is that they have a tendency to project their critical feelings about themselves to their kids. What they don’t see is that their contradictory attitude towards their children is merely an extension of their own internal conflicts. Why is this harmful? When you deny your own negative self-image and project it onto your child, he will begin to see himself through negative lenses. Therefore, the more self-aware you become, the more empathetic you will be towards your child.


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p<>{color:#000;}. There are several different ways of disciplining a child but most parents will inevitably act in ways that that their parents had. There will come a point when you’ll be horrified to realize that you opened your mouth and the words and the voice that came out were those of your parents’. Despite your best efforts, you may unavoidably echo how you’ve been brought up. This occurs especially at a time when your child undergoes the same developmental stage that you were in when you experienced that unpleasant conflict with your mother or father. Because you were of the same age back then, you tend to react as if your child is experiencing exactly what you’ve experienced. To become an effective parent, you need to isolate your child’s experiences from your own experiences as a child.


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p<>{color:#000;}. Another important thing to keep in mind is that children do not do as you say. They do as you do. More powerful than any form of disciplinary technique is your ability to become a good role model. You can set rules for good behavior but in the end, the natural process of identification and imitation will eclipse these guidelines. It is therefore upon you to make sure that every behavior that you engage in is worthy of being imitated by your kids.

In other words, if you really want your child to be a happy, responsible adult, then you need to learn how to be one first.

Chapter 2:[
**]Communicate with Your Child

Effective parent-child communication is a vital part of parenting. Keep in mind that the way you talk to your kids will let them know how to talk to other people. Bear in mind too that the earlier you use good communication techniques, the more effective they will be.

Connect.

When giving your child directions, strive to connect rather than to control. Sit or squat to his level and meet the child eye-to-eye instead of towering over him. When maintaining eye contact, avoid making it too intense or else the child will still feel that you are attempting to control him. Assume the same body language when you’re listening to what your kid has to say. Additionally, address your child by opening the request with his name.

Example:Pam, I need your ears.” or “Timmy, I need your eyes.”

Be brief.

See that glazed look in your child’s eyes? You’ve already lost his interest and your words are no longer being heard. To prevent the classic parent-deafness, stick to one, short sentence with one-syllable words. Learn from the way children speak with each other. The main directive should immediately be situated in the opening sentence. The longer you ramble, the more you will give your child the impression that you’re uncertain of what you want to say.

“Now, repeat what I just said.”

Ask your child to repeat your request. If he’s unable to do this, then consider rephrasing your direction because it might be too lengthy or too complicated for him to grasp.

“But why?”

To prevent power struggle, back your request with a reason. This reason should reflect that the action is for the child’s own benefit.

Example: “Finish your breakfast so you can start watching cartoons.”

Be positive.

For instance, instead of saying: “No shouting!” try saying: “Inside, we talk. Out in the playground, you may shout.”

“I want…”

Your instructions should always begin with “I want”. This is particularly effective on kids who have reached a stage where they are seeking their parents’ approval. This way, instead of just providing them with an order, you are giving them a reason to comply.

Example: Say: “I want you to stop running.” instead of: “Stop running.”

Use When and Then.

Using “when” indicates that you expect obedience from your child. Using “if”, on the other hand, implies that he has a choice whether to obey or to disobey.

Example: “When you finish your breakfast, then you can go out and play.”

Go to your child.

Going to your child’s room and telling him that it’s time for dinner is more effective than just shouting: “Come to the dining room! It’s time for dinner!” By actually approaching your child, you are delivering an added message that you are serious about the request and not just giving him an option.

Choices

Provide the child with a sense of autonomy by giving him choices even while getting him to do what you want.

Example: “Do you want to brush your teeth or put your toys back into the toy box first?”

Use developmentally appropriate lingo.

While communicating, it’s important to take into account your child’s level of understanding. Short and simple instructions are best for younger kids. It’s really silly to ask a three-year-old a question like: “Why did you do that?” Chances are your question will be met by a blank expression and a cute shrug. Even as an adult, you can’t manage to answer that question most of the time.

Example: “Jessica, let’s talk about what you just did.”

Good manners are not optional.

Teaching a child how to communicate in a socially correct manner should begin at home. You can teach your kid to say magic words like “please” at the early age of two. Make him feel that you expect him to be polite at all times. More than that, talk to him in the same way that you want him to talk to you and to others.

Use “I” instead of “You”.

The trouble with directives that begin with “you” is that they make the child feel threatened. “I” sentences, on the other hand, are non-reproachful.

Example: Avoid saying: “You should pick up your jacket.” Instead, say: “I need you to pick up your jacket.”

Furthermore, avoid asking a question when “no” is not really an option.

Example: Instead of saying: “Will you please clear the table?” try: “Clear the table, please.”

Write down reminders.

This is applicable for kids who can already read and especially for pre-teens who generally dislike being told what to do. A pencil and a piece of paper can help prevent you from sounding like a nagger. Add a little personal touch and maybe even a bit of humor.

Be the adult.

If you want to stop your child from shouting, respond softly and talk him down. Or else you’ll end up having a contest of who yells the loudest. When your kid is having an outburst, don’t go to his level. It’s times like these when you need to remind yourself that you’re the adult. Allow your child to release his emotions while interjecting supporting sentences like: “I understand.”

Settle him before you speak.

Giving instructions while your child is in the midst of a tantrum is a waste of time.

Use the “Complete the Thought” technique.

For example, instead of saying: “Don’t leave your stuff lying about.” try this: “Jenny, think of where you want to keep your scrapbooking materials.”

By allowing your child to think, your instruction will be imprinted more permanently into her brain.

Rules that Rhyme

Get your little ones to repeat rhyming rules which are easier for them to memorize.

Example:

“Finish your dinner or sit in the corner.”

“Don’t run. Falling is not fun.”

“Don’t fight or it’s nighty-night!”

Provide pleasant alternatives.

Example: “You can’t go to the playground today. But you can invite your friend over and play in the backyard.”

Fair Warning

Abrupt orders which catch them off guard are more likely to cause distress and non-compliance in children.

Example: Tell him in advance: “We’re going home soon, honey. Say bye-bye to your friends.”

Get the quiet kid to open up.

Some kids who were initially talkative can become quieter as they grow older. To get your child to open up, make use of well-chosen phrases. Initiate a conversation over a topic which interests your child. Make use of open-ended questions instead of ones that can be answered by yes or no.

Example: Instead of saying: “Did you have fun at school today?” (to which your child may only answer: “Yeah.” or “Uh-huh.”) start the conversation with something like: “So, what’s the most awesome thing that you did today?”

Utilize the phrases “When you”, “I feel”, and “Because.”

Example: “When you don’t finish your meals I feel worried because you might get hungry or sick.”

End of Discussion

Be clear to your child if an issue is no longer open for discussion. These are the times when you need to wear your I-mean-business face and tone.

Example: “I’ve made up my mind about the concert. Sorry.”

[] Chapter 3:[
**]Teach Your Child Responsibility

So your neighbor has a daughter who’s as neat as a pin. She places the dishes in the dishwasher without being told and waters the plants in the yard. Meanwhile, your son who is of the same age leaves his soccer stuff lying around the house and he can’t even make a sandwich on his own. And you wonder, “What did I do wrong?”

When you teach children about responsibility, you are arming them with skills that they can later use in life. Although it does make your job at home a bit easier, that’s not really the main goal. You teach your child how to be responsible early in life so that he can learn to be accountable for his actions as he grows up. Not only are you teaching him how to look after himself, you are also making him realize the value of work.

If you fail to provide your kids with responsibilities, they will develop a sense of entitlement and grow up expecting the world to do for them. Furthermore, as a parent, you should understand that responsibility is more than just accomplishing a task. It’s also about shaping your kid’s attitude. It’s about making him feel sense of pride for having a job and being able to do it well.

Start ’em young.

As with effective communication, the earlier you teach your child about responsibility, the better it will be for him. The time to teach responsibility may begin at the toddler stage when a child begins to express curiosity regarding your activities.

Another positive sign is when you observe that your child is at an age where he’s eager to please you. During the toilet training phase, once your little one begins to express his need for autonomy by saying things like “I can do it.”, allow him to perform simple tasks with some supervision (ex: putting on his shoes, placing his toys in the toy box, etc.) Allow him to do it on his own even when it takes time and help him only when he asks for it.

Invite your kids to help you.

Help your children develop a positive attitude towards housework. Don’t moan about the household chores. Instead, perform your tasks with a smile and ask your child to help you out. This way, he will not see household chores as a form of punishment or as a burden that you’re passing on to him. At the same time, he will feel like his help is valued. He’ll develop a sense of pride in the fact that he’s helping in maintaining his own home.

Not only will you be instilling important life skills in your children, you’ll also be teaching them the value of teamwork. It doesn’t matter whether it takes him hours to mow the lawn or if his presence makes doing the laundry an extra lengthy chore for you. What’s important is that someday, when he’s all grown up, he won’t need mommy to know that he should sort his light shirts from the dark ones.

A tip for parents: Make household work an excuse to spend more time with your kids.

Introduce the responsibility to your kid.

Example: Tell your five-year-old: “You’re a big girl now. I bet you can put away the dishes all by yourself.”

Show them the way.

In his early stages, demonstrate the performance of simple tasks while taking into consideration your child’s skill level. Make sure that the responsibilities that you give him are appropriate to his age. Then assign more responsibilities gradually. Utilize the word “responsibility” to refer to his tasks. This implies a sense of trust and makes him feel important and somewhat grown-up.

Examples:

When your preschooler says that he’s hungry, show him where he can get hold of the apples. Then show him how to wash one. The next time he wants a snack, he can get it on his own.

When your elementary schooler says that he wants a snack, take him with you to the kitchen and show him how to make a sandwich so that next time, he can make one on his own.

You can make responsibilities extra fun by celebrating “Make-Your-Own-Sandwich Day” during mealtimes. Or ask them to choose and arrange their own toppings during “Make-Your-Own-Pizza Nights”.

Praise your kids’ efforts.

Every parent should understand that it is more important to praise a child’s positive deeds than to point out his mistakes. When providing praise, be specific about what you liked about your child’s behavior.

Example:

“Thank you for helping me set the table.”

“You made your own bed. I’m so proud of you!”

Don’t wait to provide praise until he’s done doing the task. Acknowledge his effort while he is doing it to provide motivation. Brag about your child’s sense of responsibility from time to time and make sure that he overhears it. For younger kids, you can print a chore chart where you can stamp gold stars on the tasks that they’ve accomplished.

A warning: Shower your child with too much praises and eventually, they will lose their magic. Also, don’t give rewards for responsibilities. Or else, your child will grow up believing that they should always be given something in exchange for doing what needs to be done. Save the trips to the toy store for achievements that go beyond your kid’s daily responsibilities.

Manage your expectations.

Remember that patience is a huge prerequisite for parenting. Even after demonstrations, don’t expect your child to do an excellent job all the time. If he has done something incorrectly, don’t criticize his job or re-do his work. Instead, show him how to do it again. Afterwards, ask him to do it by himself.

Establish a routine.

The thing about kids is that they do better with order in their lives. While very young kids may not yet realize that certain tasks count as responsibilities, providing them with a healthy daily structure will instill in them a sense of ownership. Soon, you’ll notice that they’re doing these things without having to be told.

Example:

Your daughter must brush her teeth, put on her pijamas, and keep all her toys in the toy box before you read bedtime stories to her.

Note that the bedtime stories are not used as rewards. It’s simply a pleasant end result of getting the routine done.

A tip: Allow your child to perform tasks in any order that suits her as long as in the end, all of the tasks are completed. By doing this, you are allowing her to develop her own strategies for getting tasks done.

Introduce your child to choices and consequences.

Help your child become accountable for his own actions and decisions. Even at a young age, you can teach him one of the most important facts of life and that is: For every action, there is a consequence.

Example:

Your son packs his bag in a hurry and then forgets his homework. Don’t drive all the way to his school to give him his homework! Allow him to learn from his mistake. Let him realize the consequences. “I packed my bag in a hurry so I left my homework. As a consequence, I received a bad grade.” This way, it’s more likely that the lesson will stick with him.

So many parents don’t like to see their children suffer. As a result, they always clean up their kids’ mess. Remember, it’s better for your child to fail in class for not turning in that homework than for your child to fail in life because you brought him his homework. Keep in mind, however, that consequences are meant to teach lessons and not to embarrass children.

An essential part of teaching a child to be responsible is teaching him how to make good choices on his own.

Example:

“I chose to play videogames late last night instead of packing my schoolbag. As a consequence, I left my homework and got a bad grade.”

Another thing about consequences is that they have to be consistent and enforced immediately. When you tell a child that he has to clear up his stuff before he can watch a TV show, then stick to your word. It doesn’t matter if the TV show is already starting. He gets to watch it when he’s done picking up his stuff. As the child gets older, involve him in conversations that explain choices and consequences.

Example:

“I chose to pay my credit card bills before the due date. This way, I won’t have to pay the added interest charge.”

A lesson that the child will carry into his adult years is that everybody makes his choices every day and each person has to be responsible for each choice that he makes.

Teach your child how to plan for the future.

Help your child grow up into an organized adult by teaching him how to plan ahead. Make him understand the importance of preparing ahead of time. You can set up the stage for success by providing him a routine at an early stage.

Example:

Assign a place where he will put all the stuff that he needs to take to school. Then, let him know that it’s his responsibility to put his books, homework, school supplies, etc. in that place every night. Also, tell him that it’s his responsibility to stop by the front door before leaving for school to think whether he’s got everything that he needs.

Give him an alarm clock and explain to him his responsibility to wake up early in the morning. Enlighten him about the consequences of waking up late.

[] Chapter 4:[
**]Teach Your Child about Discipline

Disciplining your child is not about controlling him. Instead, it’s about teaching him how to control his own behavior. It’s not about punishing him either. Instead, it’s about setting clear boundaries and providing consequences so that eventually, he will learn how to discipline himself.

The secret is in helping your child form a solid sense of right and wrong. If he is able to differentiate good behavior from bad behavior, he’ll be aware of his actions. He’ll want to behave in a correct manner so that he can be a good member of the family and of the society and not just because he is afraid of being punished.

Some parents avoid disciplining their children because they don’t wish to create conflict. Meanwhile, some simply feel like they neither have the time nor the energy for it. The kids end up suffering for it in the future. Poorly disciplined kids grow up to be adults who lack self-control. They tend to have no respect for authority figures, even their parents. They may turn out to be selfish and they will lack the social skills that are needed to form healthy relationships such as empathy and patience. They often turn out to be unhappy individuals and they are also more prone to engaging in harmful behaviors.

Meanwhile, children who have known proper discipline will grow up to be self-sufficient, responsible, and self-confident. Because they are aware that they are accountable for their deeds, they are more likely to make smart choices in life. They often genuinely enjoy helping other people inside and outside of the home.


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p<>{color:#000;}. When disciplining a child, emphasize the value of respect. And the thing about respect is that it’s a two-way street. Make your child aware that it’s okay for him to express his emotions as long as he does so in a respectful way. Likewise, refrain from shouting at your child, criticizing him, or insulting him. Instead, speak to him calmly no matter how mad you are at the moment.


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p<>{color:#000;}. Avoid disciplining your child when you’re feeling angry. Talk to him after you’ve had the chance to cool down. Otherwise, you’ll end up saying some hurtful words that you don’t really mean. Such words can be damaging to a child’s self-esteem, not to mention to your relationship. Before you approach your child, know exactly what you’re going to say. Remember, you don’t necessarily have to be angry at your kid. You just need to make him feel that it’s his responsibility and therefore, it’s his problem.

Example:

When you’re unsure of how to deal with something at the moment, give yourself some time and say: “Well, that was a bad decision, buddy. I need some time to decide what I’m going to do about that.”


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p<>{color:#000;}. As previously mentioned, consistency is vital. Reprimanding your child for his bad behavior one day and then not bothering to correct him when he repeats it another day sends mixed signals. The result is that it puts your words into question.


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p<>{color:#000;}. Another thing that you need to be consistent about is maintaining the same degree of punishments for the same negative behavior. Your goal is to make your child understand what rules are and thus, they need to understand what to expect from you.


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p<>{color:#000;}. Refrain from arguing with your kid. The simpler your answer is, the clearer your point becomes.

Example: When your child says: “But this isn’t fair!” answer him with: “I know.”

Avoid explaining too much. As much as you want to discuss your child’s misbehavior in detail and why you are punishing him, lengthy explanations will cause him to lose track of the discussion and he will end up missing your point. Instead, point out his mistake, the consequence, and cite other scenarios that would have served as better choices.

Example:

“You went to your sister’s room and played with her stuff. That made her feel like you didn’t care about her feelings. You could’ve just asked her if you can stay in her room for a while.”


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p<>{color:#000;}. Find out the reason behind the negative behavior as well as factors in his environment that might’ve influenced his behavior.

Example:

Maybe your child is stressed out about a major life event like moving to a new school.

Check the TV shows that he’s watching. His favorite character might turn out to be a not-so-good influence after all.


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p<>{color:#000;}. Practice what you preach. You’ve made the rules so live by them, especially when you’re in front of your child. If your child sees you breaking one of your own rules, this can be confusing for him. So take the time to explain to your child why you had to do what you did. Explain the circumstances and admit that you could have dealt with the situation better. More importantly, tell your child how you should’ve approached the situation and how you are going to handle it differently the next time.

Chapter 5:[
**]Connect with Your Child

The capability of a parent to attune himself with his child is shown through his ability to respond to the kid’s emotional needs. When achieved, attunement can provide your child with a feeling of being understood and appreciated.

Temperament

There are many factors that prevent a parent from being attuned to his child. One is the difference between his and the child’s temperament. Each child is born possessing a particular personality. While some kids are easy-going, others tend to be challenging. There are some children who take time to warm up. Meanwhile, there are kids who have mixed temperaments.

In the end, what’s important is that you are able to adjust to your child’s personality. This makes him feel a sense of security and he will learn to feel comfortable with his own identity.

Quality Time vs. Quantity Time

Another factor that hinders attunement is time. Some parents justify their lack of time for their kids through establishing rare quality time where they do a lot of fun stuff together. But what you really need to become attuned to your child is quantity time and this means spending a great deal of regular time with them (doing household chores, eating dinner together every night, watching TV shows together, etc.).

Spending real quality moments together allows you to build trust and formulate your own love language even without words. Talk to your kids about their day, read to them, and tell stories to each other.

Touch

Touch is instant language. Know the difference between holding an infant in a loving way as opposed to a carrying him in functional way. Rub your young one’s back while he’s sleeping. Hug him a lot. Kiss him goodnight. As he grows older, touch can be in the form of high-fives. This is how you teach your child that their future relationships should provide them with a sense of security and nurturing.

This can be a huge challenge for parents who are not used to touching. Furthermore, it is necessary to determine which types of touch your child feels comfortable with and keep in mind that this tends to change as he gets older.

Rituals

Maintaining family rituals are necessary in nurturing togetherness. These rituals can be as simple as ordering pizza on Friday night and watching a movie as a family. You can set up family meetings where each member of the family has an equal opportunity to make a suggestion for the next family outing.

Persistence

It is important for your child to see you remaining persistent even in times of crisis. Teach your child the value of resilience by staying true to your words and to your values even during highly stressful moments. The same thing applies to when a child tries to move away from your affection. Instead of giving up, provide him with untiring support.

By doing this, you are sending him a message that you will not give up on him when times get tough. You may not know it but through your persistence, you’re making your child feel that he will be safe and that he’ll always have someone to turn to.

More Ways to Connect


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p<>{color:#000;}. Laugh together. If you have the right attitude, it makes it so much easier to neutralize power struggles and teach life lessons.


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p<>{color:#000;}. Apologize. Know when you’ve messed up and say you’re sorry. By doing this, you are teaching your child the value of honesty, accountability, and fairness.


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p<>{color:#000;}. Say “I love you.” A lot. Send a random text message or a recorded message to your child to let him know that he’s always in your thoughts. For younger kids, you can leave notes inside their lunchboxes or book bags.


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p<>{color:#000;}. Set up a schedule for conversations. Make time to listen to school dramas and chat with your child about anything that interests him. Turn off the TV or put down the newspaper when he wants to talk about something. Be polite and attentive. Refrain from interrupting your child mid-sentence.


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p<>{color:#000;}. Another thing that you can do is to write a journal so that you can share with your younger kids what you did all the time that you were away at work. Write it in simple terms that they’ll understand.

Example: “Today, I helped my boss come up with clever ideas to save money.”


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p<>{color:#000;}. When your little one is feeling anxious about you leaving for work, create handprints of each other using paint, glue, glitter, etc. Let your little one hold on to your handprint so that when he needs to, he can hold mommy’s/daddy’s hand even when you’re away.


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p<>{color:#000;}. Another thing that you can do for your little one is to draw a map that shows your home and your office. This way, you can show your child that mommy and daddy aren’t that far away from him.


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p<>{color:#000;}. For older kids, schedule dates like meeting each other after school at the ice cream parlor or for a slice of pizza.


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p<>{color:#000;}. Been away on a business trip? Bring home a cool souvenir for your kid. When buying presents, it doesn’t necessarily have to be expensive. You just need to know what your kid is into. This will show him that you know who he is and what he likes and that you care enough to find out.


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p<>{color:#000;}. If you have several kids, learn to accept each one’s uniqueness. One child may require a different disciplinary approach from his sibling. One kid may be more vocal and more affectionate while it may take longer for his/her sibling to open up. Whatever you do, avoid comparing your kids to each other or to other children. Otherwise, they’ll end up developing inferiority complexes which they may carry through adulthood.


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p<>{color:#000;}. Lastly, give yourself a break. Parenting isn’t easy so learn from your mistakes and move on. Forgive yourself. And for his sake, teach your child to do the same.

Conclusion

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p<>{color:#000;}. Comprehend what moves children’s sentiment.

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p<>{color:#000;}. Anticipate their every tantrum.

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p<>{color:#000;}. Appreciate them as wonderful gifts and blessings.

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p<>{color:#000;}. Understand what your kids need or like.

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p<>{color:#000;}. Address all their challenges and emotions.

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“Being a parent can both be fun and easy!”

Becoming an effective parent is a big task. Parents are expected to be fair, just, and always right. They are supposed to be caring and loving at all times. Moreover, it is always assumed that any parent would put their kids’ welfare over their own, whatever the cost.

While it is true that new parents would suddenly develop a fatherly or motherly instinct right after the birth of their first child, it is not always right to let everything rely purely on instincts alone. There is such a thing as smart parenting, and it is supposed to be understood and internalized.

“Your children’s needs changes over time.”

Do not assume for a moment that your first-born’s needs are the same as your third or fourth child. Consider their age gap; and then try to analyze the things that kids used to do then and what things influence the children of today. You will then understand that effective parenting is an ongoing learning process. And parents can learn a lot from their kids, too.

“You have to become a smart parent!”

Know the exact ways that any responsible parent would do in every given situation. Mold your children in a very precise but loving way towards the path they should take – the one that is right and good.

Then you can say that you have successfully played your part as a parent!

All children need encouragement and praise as they grow up. It makes them strive to do things better the next time around. It also shows them that what they do is being appreciated and admired by the very people who matter most to them – the parents!

Discipline must be carried out. It is a trait so important that it should be the cornerstone of parenthood. In fact, the hardest part of being a parent is that you must carry out discipline as you relay love and affection. Indeed, being a parent requires some skills!

“No doubt that clueless parents stop at nothing to become better at their missions!”

Because your children’s future is in your hands, you should do everything under your power to give them only the best in the world. This does not only relate to material things. Values, virtues, knowledge, and principles have to be inculcated and taught to your children considerably.

And because the crucial job of parents is highly acknowledged, a report was prepared with the sole intention of teaching every aspiring parent on how to raise children the smart and effective way, so that these kids would have better chances of having a happy and successful future.

SMART PARENTING: Raising Happy And Responsible Children in the 21st Century is a must-read for all parents who want to raise success-bound kids.

This report is designed for parents of the new century. It is packed with all the necessary information that parents of today will surely need. It is updated with the current ideas and studies that pertain to parenting and child psychology.

This exciting report will bring out the best parent in you. It also tackles children’s behavior from a psychological viewpoint. This will enable you to understand your children more and know why they engage in the things that they do.

SMART PARENTING: Raising Happy And Responsible Children in the 21st Century will teach readers:

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p<>{color:#000;}. What the children of the 21st century are like in general.

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p<>{color:#000;}. How to increase your chances of raising highly successful kids.

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p<>{color:#000;}. What encouragement, praises, and positive reinforcement do to children.

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p<>{color:#000;}. The things a parent should avoid so as not to spoil their kids.

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p<>{color:#000;}. How children can be subjected to unnecessary pressure by demanding parents.

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p<>{color:#000;}. The negative effects of unreasonable demands by parents to their children.

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p<>{color:#000;}. How to know if you are a demanding parent.

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p<>{color:#000;}. How to teach the value of obedience, sincerity, order, and justice to kids.

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p<>{color:#000;}. The best way to talk to your children.

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p<>{color:#000;}. How to build your children’s self-esteem.

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p<>{color:#000;}. How to form values in your kids and instill good behavior in them.

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p<>{color:#000;}. Why the time for play and recreation is important for children’s growing years.

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p<>{color:#000;}. How simple acts of affection create positive responses from children.

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p<>{color:#000;}. The magic of touch and hugging.

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p<>{color:#000;}. Why parenting is such a challenge.

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p<>{color:#000;}. …And a whole lot more!

In SMART PARENTING: Raising Happy And Responsible Children in the 21st Century, you will enjoy and cherish being a parent, no matter how challenging the task may seem.

This report will clearly show you the step-by-step process of converting yourself into the greatest parent you can be to your kids. It will transform the taxing job of being a parent into a whole new ballgame. Raising kids will go from challenging and straining, to becoming fun and exciting!

“You’ll become so likeable that your kid’s friends might wish you were their parent too!”

There’s no need for any trial and error stages with your children. You can’t afford to do that! With this report, you’ll be a knowledgeable parent even before any of your kids are born!

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