by Den Warren © 2017
On about any job it seems that there is always someone who is extremely difficult to work around. There are those who have explosive tempers, or non-stop chatter, arrogant narcissists, or some other glaring fault that is detrimental to the success of the team. As bad as they seem, people like this can still sometimes be dealt with if the extreme situation arises.
We all have some kind of fault, but we should have an idea of how well we work with others and if we are out of the norm. Normal everyday faults are not the topic of this essay.
What we are talking about here is another entirely different class of difficult person. We are looking at the insidious, manipulative evil ones who have an off the chart sense of entitlement. I am referring to those who are very lazy; don’t follow the rules; yet they always seem to get away with their slacking. See if you can recognize some more of the traits in people you know. They don’t really stand for anything important and will not support any coworkers. I am talking about those who take long breaks, extra breaks, surf the net or swipe at their phones for hours while at work, and then lie about their work if they know it won’t be caught. If they would ever be held accountable for their work habits they would be dismissed right away. Yet, they always get away with it. Why? How can something so wrong always be ignored?
These low-energy insidious coworkers have developed a system that works for them. They are typically very “nice”. They control others with their niceness. They know that you won’t turn them in because they are nice to you, even though you may be doing a chunk of their work for them.
Before I say anything else, let me say that “nice” is not the same thing as “good”. Unfortunately, a lot of the political correctness today is just some confusion between nice and good. Someone may say, “You are not very nice. You are a hater,” when in fact, you have their best interest at heart. Many think that if you don’t agree with them, you are a “hater”.
Yet, despite the faux niceness, they will often find ways to make you feel bad, maybe by telling some “joke” about you. They have to put you down, because they know their contributions are comparatively worthless, and you may be a threat to the false image of greatness they are trying to project. They know they will never accomplish anything, but are too lazy to change, and they want to bring others around them down to their level. They will be happy if you stumble and fall, figuratively and literally.
These insidious ones are the “golden child yes man” to the boss. The boss loves them. The insidious coworker will negligently drop everything or maybe leave it for you to do, just to do the one high profile thing that will get them the praise they seek from the boss. The boss generally can’t see through their intellectual dishonesty because they don’t want to. Therefore, the insidious ones know the boss will stick up for them if there should be an issue between you and the insidious coworker. You wonder when the boss will wake up and see them for what they are, but they never do. In fact, the insidious ones gravitate to those bosses who make decisions based upon politics rather than merit. This situation further secures the insidious coworker’s place to maintain their habits to the detriment of the organization and their coworkers. If anything, this horrible person will probably get promoted before they get fired.
Insidious leeches are masters of manipulation because they always find a way to lie out of any accusation. If you call them out they will turn on you. They will claim they are the victim because of your harsh words and you are an abusive liar. If it is your word against them, you will usually not prevail because they are so adept at making up the kind of story the boss chooses to believe. They will be “nice” to everyone around you so your acquaintances would never agree with you when you claim Insidious Joe is the fault of the conflicts. That is why they insert themselves into conversations and do anything they can to become nauseatingly endearing to everyone.
Have you ever worked with an insidious coworker like what is described above? If you have been in the workforce for very long there is a good chance that you have.
Working around these kinds of people are not good for you physically or mentally. Their nasty veiled comments toward you, and the frustration that they cause you will relentlessly eat at you. If you are always emotionally upset and on edge at work, this will physically wear on you. This could in fact, kill you. So it is definitely not good if you will work around them for a long time. So what can you do about it?
Unless you are willing to butt heads with them despite the warnings given here; or in the unlikely event that you can prove damages in court, probably nothing. Stay on your job only if you are willing to put up with their evil machinations. Otherwise, leave. The politically-driven boss and insidious Joe deserve each other. Just be aware that if you leave, you could end up in another situation somewhere else with insidious Jane instead.
But I contend that the insidious ones are not the winners in the end. Why? Didn’t they force you to do all the work or force you out of the Company? Yes, but whoever you think is the ultimate real winner and real loser depends upon your worldview.
When you get to the end of your working days, you will want to know in your own mind that you dealt with others in a good way. You were truly good. But that is not all.
Do you believe that the God who created you takes interest in the subtleties of communication and dealings with each other? Do you believe that we will all be judged for our actions and nothing will be hidden from Him? I contend that He will. Here are some examples of what the God of the Christian Bible thinks:
12Wisdom will save you from the ways of wicked men,
p. from men whose words are perverse,
^13 ^who have left the straight paths
p. to walk in dark ways,
^14 ^who delight in doing wrong
p. and rejoice in the perverseness of evil,
^15 ^whose paths are crooked
p. and who are devious in their ways.
^12 ^A troublemaker and a villain,
p. who goes about with a corrupt mouth,
^13 ^ who winks maliciously with his eye,
p. signals with his feet
p. and motions with his fingers,
^14 ^ who plots evil with deceit in his heart—
p. he always stirs up conflict.
^15 ^Therefore disaster will overtake him in an instant;
p. he will suddenly be destroyed—without remedy.
^7 ^Whoever corrects a mocker invites insults;
p. whoever rebukes the wicked incurs abuse.
^8 ^Do not rebuke mockers or they will hate you;
p. rebuke the wise and they will love you.
^9 ^Instruct the wise and they will be wiser still;
p. teach the righteous and they will add to their learning.
^23 ^A fool finds pleasure in wicked schemes,
p. but a person of understanding delights in wisdom.
^24 ^What the wicked dread will overtake them;
p. what the righteous desire will be granted.
^25 ^When the storm has swept by, the wicked are gone,
p. but the righteous stand firm forever.
^18 ^A wicked person earns deceptive wages,
p. but the one who sows righteousness reaps a sure reward.
^19 ^Truly the righteous attain life,
p. but whoever pursues evil finds death.
^20 ^The Lord detests those whose hearts are perverse,
p. but he delights in those whose ways are blameless.
^21 ^Be sure of this: The wicked will not go unpunished,
p. but those who are righteous will go free.
That is just a sampling of the assurance the Christian can gain from the Bible. You can keep reading on your own and get peace for your soul. But above all make sure that you are set right in God’s eyes.
Are those passages from Proverbs really from God? You may want to believe it, but you can’t. If you lack the faith, pray for it. But you must first become a Christian to be righteous in God’s eyes and so He can hear your prayers. We are all sinners, and need Jesus. To find out more, check out Divine Communication, and other articles by Den Warren.
Cover Image: Kommiczar from Metahuman Wars, by Den Warren