In 6 simple steps!
P R E F A C E
Like you, I too wanted to be happy. Everybody wants to, but
very few really live their life with joy. Most people don’t
even know what happiness is, but they are in search of it. I
was looking for joy and read book after book; each one
giving me a formula that was not very different from the
other. But somehow, it was not something practical that I
could put into action and would guarantee me happiness. So
many authors, so many books, all great books that made me
feel good, but left me thirsty for true happiness!
After reading books on happiness by many successful
authors and philosophers, I asked myself, “How can I be
happy? What is happiness? Is there a way that can guarantee
happiness?” I even set out on a retreat, leaving the world
behind to introspect with all the possible research material
that I could carry with me. My research material included
Dalai Lama’s The Art Of Happiness, J. P. Vaswani’s _Secrets _
of Health and Happiness and several other books, articles,
audio books and DVDs. I armed myself with all the possible
ammunition on happiness I could find to start my research.
And then the ‘aha moment’ dawned in me and I discovered
how to be happy. So I titled my findings as _’I Wanna Be _
W ho doesn’t want to be happy? Everybody wants to, but look
around and you will find people in a race to find something
that will give them happiness. People are confused between
pleasures and everlasting joy. They don’t even know what
true happiness means, though they feel it and want it. When I
found a way to be happy, I realized that I had discovered a
simple secret; a formula, which anybody who truly wanted
to be happy could use to dance with joy for the rest of their
lives. My script is not complicated. In fact, it is so simple,
that one might wonder – could such simplicity lead us to
such a profound destination called happiness? Yes, it can!
Whether you are someone pursuing happiness or one who is
quite content but wanting to be happier, or someone deeply
sunk in sorrow and misery, this book will unlock the doors to
Different people find themselves in different circumstances
at different stages of their lives.
Ÿ Some just feel they are plain unlucky and can’t be happy.
Ÿ Some are surrounded by people who just make them
Ÿ Some are suffering from diseases that create pain and
makes them feel hopeless.
Ÿ Some are so unhappy that they can’t even smile.
Ÿ Some are overburdened with problems and challenges
that they push happiness away.
Ÿ Some have just slipped into sorrow after a long episode of
joy that disappeared into thin air.
Ÿ Some are happy at this point, but fear that they are going
to lose their joy.
Ÿ Some are happy this moment and unhappy the next
moment, and life is usually a yo-yo between joy and
And then, there are others who are neither happy nor
unhappy, but are still chasing happiness.
Different people are in different states of being and there
may be thousands of people who may not fit into the above
descriptions. But one thing is for sure – _everybody wants to _
be happy and the good news is that it is not difficult to be
I have discovered the magic of happiness and I consider
myself to be the happiest man on earth today. You too can be
happy, if you program your mind using the _’I Wanna Be _
_Happy’ _ techniques mentioned in my book. Read this book
with sincerity and put the principles described in it into
action. Your life then will be transformed and unhappiness
will be a thing of the past. Misery and sorrow will not be on
your daily agenda, if only you start each day with the
commitment [_’I wanna be happy!’ _]
C O N T E N T S
Chapter 1: What Is Happiness?
Chapter 2: The 6 Steps To Happiness
Chapter 3: The 1st Step – Desire To Be Happy
Chapter 4: The 2nd Step – Discover What Makes You Happy
Chapter 5: The 3rd Step – Do It Now! Pull Your Happiness Triggers! 24
Chapter 6: The 4th Step – Beware Of Joy Stealers
Chapter 7: The 5th Step – Bounce Back With Faith And Hope
Chapter 8: The Final Step – Be Happy Always! It’s A Choice
[*What is happiness? *]
Happiness is an emotion –
a strong feeling that makes us feel good
*and brings a smile on our face. *
While the question is very simple, the answer is profound.
Though the question is one, the answers are many. This is
because happiness is different for different people. But what is
Happiness is an emotion, a strong feeling that makes one
enjoy and feel good. It is a feeling that makes one’s heart dance
and eyes twinkle. Happiness creates excitement and builds
positive energy. It makes us smile, laugh and creates cheer.
So, while different people may define their happiness in
different words, the emotion that is born in all, is the same. It is
a strong feeling of joy, pleasure, contentment and fulfillment.
Different things make different people happy.
A millionaire could be happy making his next million.
A teacher may find happiness in the examination results of
A singer is joyous when the audience applauds.
Politicians become happy when they win an election.
Since different things make different people happy, this
cannot be generalized. I may find happiness in solitude, while
you may find it in the buzzing excitement of a city. And this
may change with time. So what makes me happy today may
not make me happy tomorrow. So clearly, people become
happy with different things and at different points of time in
It is a myth that ONLY money makes people happy. Surely,
money gives pleasure, but pleasure need not create
everlasting joy. Not all rich people are happy and not all poor
people unhappy. Though some people have a few material
possessions, they are content and live a life filled with joy
and fulfillment. *Happiness does not depend on what you *
*have. It depends on how you feel. You may have *
*everything and yet be unhappy or you may have nothing *
*and be happy. * So what is Happiness then?
I am Happy today – truly Happy! I have shut down my
business and live my life doing humanitarian, spiritual and
inspirational work. Although I have ended my commercial
life chasing millions, I have found true joy and happiness in
what I do now. This is due to my current aspirations which
give me joy, bliss and contentment. The happiness I derive
by doing what I do now is fulfilling. It is everlasting joy!
This, I discovered, is true happiness.
Happiness is not just about momentary pleasures. One may
be happy eating a chocolate. But that is just momentary. The
pleasure soon dies as time flies. True happiness is a feeling
that lasts for a long period. If I view a pleasure as a little lake
in my life, I would view true happiness as an endless ocean.
There could be islands of unhappiness, but these would
dissolve in the ocean of joy.
Material pleasures, of course, make us happy, but do they
create unending pleasure? They can make us happy for the
moment, but they fail to create fulfillment or grant us the
peace of mind that takes us to the peak of the happiness
mountain. Therefore, what is happiness? It is being able to
do things that create joy and bliss which are not temporary.
True happiness is living a life of satisfaction, contentment,
joy and peace. It brings a sense of fulfillment in whatever
Are you happy? Are you truly content with what you do and
how you feel? Do you wake up every morning looking
forward to life? Does whatever you do make your eyes
twinkle? Does your work make your heart dance? Does the
‘feel-good factor’ last most of your day, your week, your
month, your year and your life or are you struggling through
life, not feeling good about what you are doing? Are you
dissatisfied with your career? Are you unhappy about life?
What is the state of your mind? Are you peaceful with those
around you or is your life in turmoil? Reflection on these
situations will indicate whether you are in a state of
Happiness or Unhappiness.
Though it is possible for others to share their emotion or
feeling of happiness with you, understand that only you can
feel your own happiness, since it is uniquely personal and
exclusively yours. Only you can decide whether you are
happy or not. Yes, like any other emotion, the energy that
flows out of you visibly indicates how you feel. Besides, it is
not very difficult to make out whether somebody is happy or
Suppose you see a person smiling, dancing and cheerfully
walking by, would you consider such a person to be
unhappy? On the contrary, if you see a person with a frown,
spiteful, agitated, irritated, angry and upset, would you
consider such a person to be happy? So, happiness is a state
of mind which reveals itself through one’s behavior and
Are you truly happy? Do you too want to discover the 6
simple steps that will guarantee happiness for the rest of
Remember, it’s a choice unlike what most people say feel or
believe. They might say that they are doomed by bad luck or
that their life is meant to be full of unhappiness and misery,
but I have discovered that happiness is a choice. Yes, you can
choose to be happy all the time, if only you discover the 6
simple steps that will give you everlasting joy.
*As you start your happiness journey, you will find *
[*pleasures, joy, bliss and fulfillment along the way. *]Before
you encounter them, understand how each will contribute to
your being happy.
[*Pleasures *]are little spurts of happiness that come from doing
little things. You enjoy eating an ice cream, going for a
movie or playing a game of golf. These don’t last for long.
They are temporary, but they make us happy. As long as
these pleasures have no side effects, they are fine and must
be welcomed in the happiness journey.
[*Joy *]is a little deeper and a little stronger. It is something that
you aspire, dream of and then it happens. It is a wish that has
come true. It is more than just a little pleasure that comes
from a little treat. It lasts longer and gives you more
happiness than pleasures would. You are waiting for
Christmas, preparing for it, then it happens and you are so
excited – that is joy. You are planning a cruise and after a
month, you are finally sailing – that is joy. While these give
you lot of joy, the joy is not perpetual. As time passes, the
fragrance of this joy diminishes with other attractions and
distractions of life.
Bliss is extreme pleasure and joy. It gives a feeling of
“Wow!”. It is those pleasures that give you tremendous
happiness and those joys that make you dance. Bliss lies on
the top of the happiness mountain – the peak. You want to
meet your favourite movie star; it is more like a dream. If it is
not just meeting, but you get to spend a whole day with your
star, your joy is overflowing. You are elated, excited, thrilled
beyond your wildest expectation. That is bliss! Bliss also has
another side of extreme joy. Bliss comes at the start of
fulfillment, doing things that go deep within your heart and
soul and pull a cord. Bliss is deeply internalised. The effect
of bliss, unless like a pleasure or joy lasts much longer. Bliss
can be recalled easily and revisited in a flash of a moment.
For example, music can make your heart dance – It gives you
pleasure, it gives you joy; but most of all, music makes you
blissful. It leads you to tranquillity. It makes you feel
intoxicated. To many, meeting their spiritual master gives
bliss instantly. The happiness that flows out of a blissful
experience is like a river that keeps flowing or a blanket of
fog that envelops one. The effect of bliss lasts much longer
and the thought of blissful joy is enough to transport one into
[*Fulfillment *]is the nirvana or moksha or the ‘ultimate
destination’ of Happiness. It is state
of being ever blissful.
You don’t arrive there as it is not a destination, but you
transcend to this peak. The one who has fulfillment
understands what the little pleasures are. Such an individual
does not feel the lack of pleasure in its absence and enjoys it
when it is present, but never focuses on it. fulfillment is
finding pleasure in everything one does and so pleasure
exists at all times. Pleasure merges into joy because every
experience creates happiness. fulfillment is a feeling of
everlasting and perpetual happiness. There is bliss in all one
does because one’s thoughts, feelings, actions and attitude
are programmed to be happy. fulfillment supersedes the
negative emotions that create unhappiness. It focuses on
blissful moments that give true joy that lasts on and on.
fulfillment is deep contentment in the heart. It is desire that
does not lead to disappointment, for it is accompanied by
acceptance and surrender. As it suggests, when one is
fulfilled, one is full and filled with pleasure, joy and bliss.
There is no space for sorrow to enter and one evolves into a
state of mystical happiness, cheer, enthusiasm and peace
that surpasses the common pleasures on earth.
On the happiness journey, you must encounter all of these
and transcend from pleasures to joy, from joy to bliss and
from bliss to fulfillment. At first, material possessions will
make you happy. But as you climb from peak to peak, you
will find joy without prosperity, bliss without possessions
and fulfillment emerging from deep within your heart and
Pleasures are little spurts of
happiness that come from
*doing little things. *
a little deeper
*and a little stronger. *
Bliss is extreme
*pleasure and joy. *
Fulfillment is the nirvana
*or moksh of happiness. *
This is a state of being
*ever blissful. *
In my quest for happiness, I discovered that anybody could
be happy, if only they knew what happiness is and then went
about achieving it systematically. Happiness is as simple as
making a cup of tea, but even making a cup of tea involves a
recipe or a process. If one does not follow the process or
steps, it would be impossible to prepare a good cup of tea.
Likewise, it is the same with happiness.
Anybody can be happy. You don’t have to be the richest
person on earth to be happy. For all you know, the richest
person on earth may also be the unhappiest that ever lived.
Of course, money can give you pleasures, but money cannot
directly buy you happiness. While the lack of money can
result in not having material possessions which may make us
dissatisfied, it is not necessarily true that poverty is
guaranteed to make you unhappy. In this materialistic world,
it is pragmatic and important to have a decent earning. But,
one must be aware that material prosperity is not directly
proportionate to happiness. So move on without worrying
about how much money you have. Whatever be your
material possessions or earnings or wealth, you can still be
As long as you have a deep aspiration to be happy, you can be
happy. If you don’t want to be happy, then you may have all
the money in the world, and yet remain unhappy. So the 1st
Step towards happiness is to want it.
Once you wanna be happy, the next step is to know what
makes you happy. _If you don’t know what will make you _
[_happy, how can you ever be happy? _] Every happiness seeker
must learn this 2nd Step in the journey to happiness. Once
you desire happiness and know exactly what will make you
happy, then you are progressing in your journey towards
happiness and need to move on to the 3rd step.
The 3rd Step is having the courage to do what it takes to be
happy. It is not enough to just want happiness and know what
will make you happy. If you do not take action, happiness
will continue to remain a distant dream.
Halfway through, one must analyze if the process is working
and if the goal is half achieved. Surely, there will be some
bottlenecks and problems in your journey that will try to
hold you back from your dream of being happy. You must
confront and defeat them to progress in the path to
happiness. Discover this in the 4th Step.
While it is simple for anyone to follow these 4 steps and
reach closer to the peak of happiness, there may be a few
unfortunate ones who are deep in sorrow as if the quicksand
of misery is holding them back from their aspiration of
happiness. Well, for them the 5th Step is the most important
step that will reveal, how they can escape from the prison of
unhappiness and how they can rejuvenate their lives to
create new hope for joy. Yes, it is possible, but before
attempting the first 4 steps, this group needs to visit the 5th
step and then start the journey. The reason I insist on step
number 5 is because many of us are entangled in this slot and
we need to get out of it. Therefore, it is very important for
this step to be part of the 6 steps of the happiness journey.
People in this step are in a different state of mind. They are
deeply buried in sorrow. Their life is surrounded by misery.
They wish to be happy, but can they find happiness? Is there
hope, even though they seem to be deeply immersed in
unhappiness? Yes, anybody can be happy, but they must first
learn to bounce back to life. Once they do, they can follow
the steps that will guarantee happiness and transform their
And then finally, we arrive at the Sixth Step. It is easy to be
happy occasionally, but how do you remain happy all the
time? This is the magic we discover in the sixth step where
each of us can decide how we want our life to be. Happiness
need not be a flavor of the month. It is something that can be
So far, I have only given you a small glimpse of the journey
to happiness; it is not the journey itself. You must read each
chapter to understand each step and then put it into action.
Once you do, happiness is guaranteed. It cannot escape you,
if you sincerely adapt your life to these six steps.
The moment you stop following the process to find
happiness, you may sink into sorrow. The choice is yours! If
you don’t like the fruit you are growing, you must change the
seeds that you are sowing. And for this, you must have the
courage to change. Only then can you be truly happy!
Happiness is the most important thing in life. Almost
everything that people do in their lives is done to make them
happy. They make money so that material prosperity gives
them joy. They work hard to build name and fame so that the
popularity keeps them excited and happy. They chase lofty
dreams and accomplish achievements so that it gives them a
sense of fulfillment and brings them happiness.
If only people knew that there is a shortcut to happiness
which they could easily discover, and it comprised of six
simple steps that would guarantee joy; then they would
escape a complicated life and live simply but happily for the
rest of their lives. Happiness is not a distant dream, if only
we know what it means and how we can achieve it. Let us
start the journey to discover the 6 steps towards everlasting
joy, one by one.
*Be Happy *
[*Always! s *]
[*It’ a *]
*Bounce Back *
*With aith *
*Beware Of *
*Beware Joy *
*Pull our *
[*Happiness riggers! *]
*Discover What *
*Makes ou *
*Desire o *
*T Be *
THE 1 STEP
DESIRE TO BE HAPPY
Do you truly want to be happy, or are you lost in the turmoil of
life, doing things that really don’t matter? Have you thought of
happiness? There are people who keep doing what they are
doing and continue achieving what they are achieving.
Happiness is not a priority for them, so it escapes them. But
there are some, who stop and ask, “Why am I doing what I am
doing? Why is it that I don’t have a sense of satisfaction from
what I am doing?” And this makes them ponder further. Many
of them introspect and then create in them the passion of
wanting to be happy. Finding a source of joy and happiness is
far more important to them now, than doing what they have
been doing. They have started the journey to happiness. They
have taken the first step to happiness because they DESIRE to
Unfortunately, though most people in this world actually want
to be happy, they are too caught up in what they are doing, that
they forget happiness. Life escapes them and at the fag end of it,
they look back and realize that they were never happy! They
were just busy accomplishing their goals, and the pleasures that
followed one after the other because their achievements, kept
them happy for a little while. Finally, they realize that they were
just temporary pleasures, which did not lead to happiness.
So, before life escapes you, it is important to stop and analyze
what will give you true joy forever. Of course, we all become
happy momentarily with little trinkets that life throws at us. But
this is not true joy. In fact, these distract us from the true
happiness of life.
If you wanna be happy, the first step is to be passionate about
wanting happiness and to place it above everything else.
Those who are on the journey need to reprioritize their lives
by doing what makes them truly happy, by escaping from the
maze of life that traps and consumes them. Yes, most of us
get so consumed by life that we lose the desire to be happy.
We are busy, but what are we busy with? Soon, we realize
that it was a big mistake being busy with what did not matter.
What should have mattered the most was happiness, and that
was never a priority! Those who realize this are most
fortunate. They stop and tell themselves, “I wanna be
happy.” They make changes in their lives. They chart a new
course that will bring them joy, bliss and happiness. Those
who truly want to be happy must eliminate all the ‘ifs’ and
‘buts’ from their lives. They ought to make a decision to be
happy today, no matter what. There is no tomorrow. They
make a decision to be happy today, anyhow! On their
journey to happiness, they burn all the exit routes so that they
don’t give themselves any options for turning back, only to
be consumed by life.
If you wanna be happy, make happiness a priority. More
important than anything else is happiness. Keep telling
yourself: “I wanna be happy.” Put this slogan up everywhere
you go and on everything that you see. Everything that you
do must have one objective – Happiness. Then, you have
surely started the journey towards everlasting joy.
The moment you embark on the happiness journey, there
will be many to discourage you or question you on the
soundness of your intention and action. To them, happiness
as a goal is weird! They are so busy doing so many important
things, that happiness is never a priority. While you
transform, there will be many roadblocks, chains and
magnets that will try to hold you back and stop you. But if
you have started the journey in earnest, then there is nothing
that can hold you back.
It is time to move on to the next step because you have now
become someone who wants to be truly happy. You are
obsessed about happiness and passionate about it. Like me,
nothing else matters to you too. You just desire be happy.
The second step is to find out what makes you happy.
“I wanna be
If you want happiness for an
*hour, take a nap. *
*If you want happiness for a day, *
*go for a picnic. *
If you want happiness for a
*month, get married. *
If you want happiness for a
*lifetime, keep helping others. *
THE 2 STEP
DISCOVER WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY
You have started on the happiness journey, and you have
made up your mind that you wanna be happy. Your desire is
strong. It’s a passion; it’s an obsession. You have now moved
to the next step – Discover what makes you Happy.
One actually has to delve into the past to find out what really
gave one joy so that one may discover what will make one
truly happy. While trying to discover what will make you
happy, you cannot forget the past, nor can you ignore the
present, for things have changed. You must also keep the
future in perspective as to where your desires for tomorrow
lie. Your list of things that made you happy must first come
from the past, and that comes through reflection and
introspection. Then, add that list to what currently gives you
joy and bliss. Once done, you can get presumptive and start
assuming what will give you true joy in the future.
You make the list to differentiate between the small
pleasures of life, and those things that give you true joy.
Small pleasures will last for a few moments, but there are
some joys that are everlasting. When you have an ice cream
or a good meal, it will give you pleasure for a few moments.
But probably buying a new home will give you true joy that
will last much longer. A hobby, a relationship, will fall into a
category that will probably give you eternal joy. Some
people find joy in music, some in romance, and some in
spiritual and humanitarian endeavors. Others find bliss in
pets, material possessions, physical relationships and even
solitude. You don’t have to worry about what makes others
happy. Dancing, talking to people, rejoicing in the beauty of
nature and shopping are some things that may bring
happiness to some. For others, it may just be the job that they
love doing. Each of the above might be more specific for
you. It could be enjoying a game of Golf, or dancing Salsa,
or strolling in the beach or playing with a Golden Retriever.
Remember, this is ‘your own’ happiness list. It does not
matter what others feel about this. You have to discover what
makes You happy.
So start with the past and write out that list – ‘what actually
made you happy’. The first step is to make a list.
[*What made you happy in the past? *]
(Use introspection and reflection)
[ H – Happy J – Joy B – Bliss F – Fulfillment*]
Review all those memories of joy. It was not just material
achievements that gave you happiness; it was more often the
finer things like emotions and feelings that gave you true
happiness in life. Take your time, but list the greatest joys of
Once you have finished, fill out one more table (TABLE 2).
‘The greatest joys of the present’. Include whatever gives
you extreme joy. It could be anything; your job, your
hobbies, your relationships, the people you meet, the way
you spend your time, your recreation, your home or your
Greatest joys of the present
H / J / B / F
[ H – Happy J – Joy B – Bliss F – Fulfillment*]
work place. Analyze every bit of your present, to discover
your present joys.
Once through, peep into the future. Put on your imagination
hat and visualize those things that in reality will make you
happy in the months and years to come. This is not a wish
list, but rather a list of those simple things that will truly
*What will make you happy in the *
[*future – IMAGINE! *]
[ H – Happy J – Joy B – Bliss F – Fulfillment*]
make you happy based on your past and present and as you
would like your future to be.
Now, you have compiled three lists of what makes you
happy. The next step is to grade the Tables 1 to 4.
Against each item in the table, choose one of the following:
1. H – if this gives you a lot of Happiness
2. J – if the happiness is extreme Joy
3. B – if the happiness envelops you in a state of Bliss
4. F – if the happiness is everlasting and leads you to
You may be surprised at your grading. Many truths will
surface from your past, present and future aspirations. Once
you have graded your list, it’s time to eliminate and cut down
the list to 10 things that will make you the happiest. You have
nearly completed the discovery on what makes you happy.
The final step is to try and prioritize these 10 things. Number
them from 1 to 10 based on the amount of happiness you
derive from each of them. You now have the final list to
reflect upon. Look at it and be sure that you have narrowed
down and identified your happiness list. If you do not
discover what will make you happy, then you can never be
happy. You may be passionate, but without focus, your
passion will disintegrate. Sure, this list might change
gradually as time goes by, but one can modify it. But, doing
the list with a three dimensional perspective of the past,
present and future will eliminate the risk of a total makeover.
This is your happiness list and you need to make a final
review before putting your stamp on it. So look at it one last
time, word it out perfectly and there you are!
Bingo! You have discovered what makes you happy!
By now, you feel it is your passion that is adding excitement
to your happiness journey. So far, you have finished only
two steps – you desire to be happy and you have discovered
what makes you happy. Now, it’s time to move on to the next
A word of caution – whatever forms your happiness list, you
are going to broadcast it, publicize it and make it known.
Therefore, don’t put anything in that list which is unethical or
unfair or anything that you have to be ashamed about. After
all, you must be proud about what makes you happy and if
there is something negative, it is time for review and
correction, for nothing negative can ever lead you to
*TABLE 4 *
[*YOUR MOST VALUABLE TREASURE – THE HAPPINESS LIST *]
TOP 10 THINGS THAT
1 to 10
(based on past, present and future)
THE 3 STEP
[*DO IT NOW! *]
[*PULL YOUR HAPPINESS TRIGGERS! *]
Wow! You have your happiness list in your hands. You have
the recipe for joy and bliss.
Is it enough to make you happy? Of course not!
It’s the 3rd step that is truly going to give you joy. The third
step is, ‘Do it now. Pull your happiness triggers’. Based on
your discovery, you now have a happiness list. Doing these
things will surely give you happiness. But, just looking at the
list is not enough. You must do it. For instance, music gives
me tremendous joy. I know it and I have experienced it, but I
have not gone to a concert in months. I haven’t taken the time
to listen to my favorite music for weeks. How can I be
happy? I know that music makes me happy. Now to be
happy, I must press the button since music to my ears is sugar
to my soul. Music makes my heart dance, so I must pull this
trigger of happiness as often as I can.
I call them triggers because it is not enough to load a gun
with bullets. To hit the target, you need to pull the trigger.
There are many people who truly want to be happy and they
know exactly what makes them happy, but unfortunately
they do just the opposite. Happiness is a distant dream, an
illusion and a destination they always yearn to reach. If only,
we pull the happiness triggers and do the things that give us
joy, our lives will be transformed. Happiness will no longer
be a destination. It will become the journey itself. If we
intelligently make our happiness list, we can have joy and
bliss everyday in our lives by pulling the happiness triggers
with passion. Of course, there will be blockages and
problems that may stop us. But we must be committed to
doing what makes us happy.
Happiness is a commitment and with half the journey
completed, one must keep one’s passion and persistence
alive. Put your happiness list everywhere. Put it on your
laptop, in your mobile phone, in your purse, at your office, in
your home and even in your toilet. First you make an effort to
create the happiness list. Once done, the happiness list will
push you to get into action. These are your personal
But there are some happiness triggers which are universal.
These are common triggers that you may want to add to your
list to make you happy. If the triggers you have chosen are
unrealistic or secondary, you can reconstruct your list,
reviewing the universal happiness triggers. These universal
happiness triggers are guaranteed to give you joy, bliss and
happiness. After all, happiness is a simple matter and we can
control our feelings, by choosing positive emotions that will
trigger positive attitude, thoughts and habit. These positive
emotions are sure to generate happy feelings. Some of the
Universal happiness triggers which follow will surely work
for you too and will trigger happiness in your life.
Happiness Trigger 1
Make Others Happy
Compassion is sure to trigger happiness. When you care for
others and take action by making them happy, you are sure to
create joy for yourself. Happiness shared is happiness
doubled, just like sorrow shared is sorrow halved. When you
make others happy, you automatically become happy. It is a
natural human tendency and is born from either being
generous and magnanimous or from compassion. Dada J. P.
Vaswani says, “Happiness has no permanent address, but it
always dwells with those who live for others.”Yes indeed,
the hand that gives the rose, cannot but escape without
retaining a little of the fragrance.
Do you want to be happy – then do it now! Pull this
happiness trigger. Go and make someone happy and you will
be happy immediately. It may be an employee, a friend, a
family member or a complete stranger. It’s very easy to make
someone happy. A smile, a word of appreciation, some kind
of help or even a chocolate can make someone happy. That is
all that it takes to generate happiness and the moment you do
it, you will be happy too. It is a sure way to perpetual bliss
has no permanent address,
but it always dwells with those
who live for others.
~ Dada J.P. Vaswani
Happiness Trigger 2
We must realize that 10% of life is what happens to us and
90% of it depends on our reactions. Often, somebody close
to us says something harsh, unfair and unreasonable. Can we
control their actions? No, we can’t! But we can react
Positively! We can choose a Positive attitude. Instead we
choose to react negatively and lose the Joy in our life. Our
negative emotions don’t stop there. We spoil the present
moment and pass this on to other people too. We take it with
us through the streets and to our work place. Our colleagues,
customers and associates feel the negative attitude because
we are oozing with negative energy. Later, when we meet
friends, we are still negative.
What created this huge amount of negative energy?
Stop and reflect!
A small trigger made us react negatively. If we are positive,
we would not react this way. We would be careful and pull a
positive trigger, thereby reacting positively.
While we cannot control others’ actions, we can surely
control our reactions, because they are our reactions. It is a
universal law that those who react positively are happy.
Those who live with a negative attitude will always attract
unpleasantness, misery and sorrow. Imagine living a life
with love, hope, faith, confidence, forgiveness and
compassion; how can you be unhappy because you are
reacting with positive energy all the time? Instead, if you
live with anger, hate, worry, cynicism, indifference, fear and
jealousy, these negative emotions will trigger enough poison
to make your life miserable and keep it that way.
So if you wanna be happy, pull this happiness trigger and
don’t delay; do it now. React positively. Choose positive
emotions. Eliminate the negative energy completely and
you are sure to be happy.
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We cannot direct
But, we can adjust
We cannot control
other people’s actions,
but we can control
our own reactions.
Happiness Trigger 3
Count Your Blessings
This trigger is guaranteed to make you happy. So do it
now; count your blessings. And how does one do this? Just
look around and be grateful for all you have as compared to
others. It is very easy to count our troubles and most of us do
it. We are always making a list of what we don’t have rather
than counting what we have. I love these words that I read
“I had the blues, because I had no shoes
_Until upon the street, I found a man _
[_who had no feet.” _]
In fact, there is this beautiful hymn, ‘Count your blessings’
Count your blessings
Name them one by one
Count your blessings
See what God has done
When upon life’s journey
you are tempest tossed
When you are discouraged
Thinking all is lost
Count your many blessings
Name them one by one
And it will surprise you
What the Lord has done
Are you ever burdened
with a load of care
Does the work seem heavy
you are called to bear
Count your many blessings
Every doubt will fly
And you will be singing
As the days go by
Count your blessings
Name them one by one
Count your blessings
See what God has done
Count your blessings
Name them one by one
Count your many blessings
See what God has done
When you count your blessings and are grateful for what you
have, you immediately become happy. Of course, there are
tough times. Everyone has them. _A problem free life is an _
_illusion and does not exist. _ But, just because we have
problems, there is no need to be unhappy.
What does this trigger ‘count your blessings’ do? When you
pull this trigger, it changes your focus from criticism to
appreciation, from ungratefulness to thankfulness, from
cynicism to cheerfulness and from greed to contentment. So
do it now. Pull this trigger and start counting your blessings.
You have two eyes, two hands and two feet. Many don’t have
these. Are you grateful for what you have? Do you count
your blessings? I always count my blessings and it gives me
tremendous happiness, beyond what material pleasures can
give and I become overjoyed. So I keep pulling this trigger.
Why don’t you try it, do it now and you too will find joy.
I had the blues
_because I had no shoes, _
Until upon the street
I found a man
_who had no feet. _
_Count your Blessings _
_and Be Happy. _
Happiness Trigger 4
Program Your Thoughts And Actions
This is a happiness trigger that works for many. Try it. It may
work for you. Program your thoughts and actions through
positive energy power. Many people think that they cannot
control their thoughts and therefore their feelings. Sure, we
cannot control thoughts, but we can definitely influence
them. This can happen, if we program our thoughts, feelings
and actions with a power called ‘positive energy’. If we keep
adding positive emotions to our lives, we are sure to
influence our attitudes, thoughts and habits to be positive.
Every positive emotion launched into our lives will trigger
happiness. For instance, love is sure to trigger bliss, just as
hope is guaranteed to build positive energy.
All these positive emotions like optimism, courage,
confidence, tranquility, compassion, enthusiasm and humor
are positive ammunition that we can program our life with.
We can invite these into our lives and by doing so, we will
trigger positive feelings that will generate joy and
happiness. Sometimes, a great way to program happiness is
to just choose happy actions like smiling, joking, dancing or
singing. These will pep up the positive energy that is needed
to program our life to joy. Do you really want to be happy?
Then pull this happiness trigger and you will be surprised to
see what is in store for you.
*I accept only those *
people, who contribute to
*my happiness. *
Happiness Trigger 5
Manage Problems Happily
Many people are unhappy because they have problems. I have
problems and I am sure you do too. In fact, every living being
has problems. The word ‘problem’ is born from the word
‘probolo,’ which indicates something that is thrown before us.
Thus a problem thrown in front of us is like a challenge. The
way we handle it will decide how our life will be. If we
manage problems happily, we will not lose our joy while
dealing with them. However, if we allow problems to trouble
us or agitate and make us react negatively, we have lost our
joy and bliss for the moment.
Sometimes a problem cannot be solved. It just has to be
managed. Either way, we must learn to pull this trigger and
manage problems happily. This means that we must not let the
problems manage us; rather we must take charge of the
problems. The way I manage problems is that, I accept them
with a game playing attitude. I think of it as fun and solve the
problem, and remind myself that every problem has to pass.
No problem will ever kill me! And finally if it does, well then,
so what, either way, life is temporary. So why worry so much
about it. I find that with a positive attitude, I am able to deal
with problems in a much better way than I would when
worrying or being tensed about them. When I worry about a
problem, it robs me of the ability to think clearly. It also robs
my smile which is the most important treasure I would hate to
lose. So now when a problem comes to me, I first smile. Then
I welcome the problem as if I was anticipating it and talk to
my problem. In this humorous way, I find that half my
problems are solved and the other half gets managed without
me losing my happiness. Pull this trigger today, not tomorrow.
Happiness Trigger 6
Use Hope To Cope And Be Happy
I have often pulled this trigger and have learnt from others
that this trigger is like a rope. _A rope called hope with which _
_we can cope with all the dope that life throws at us. _ A lot of
muck that we face makes us feel hopeless as if we have
reached the end, _but with hope, the end will turn out to be a _
bend and our scars will be turned into stars.
Hope creates joy because it changes our negative feelings to
positive ones. It creates optimism from pessimism and it
gives us power. The hopeless one thinks that the night is
dark, but hope reminds one that it is always the darkest
before dawn and soon the sun will rise.
Without hope, we are lost in sorrow. Hope identifies signals
that give us joy, like the singing of the birds before the break
of dawn. Hope is a positive energy that is guaranteed to give
joy and peace. Do you live with hope? If you do, then it must
be one of your happiness triggers. If you don’t, then pull the
rope called hope. Do it now, for this will make you happy
forever and ever.
Learn to live with HOPE: Have Only Positive Expectations!
This trigger will ensure you live happily every day.
Happiness Trigger 7
Walk Away From Unhappy Situations
I love this trigger and I have seen many people using this to
be happy. At times, we are amongst people who make us
unhappy, in the midst of situations that create sorrow and we
just remain there. Why do we do that? For instance, we are
invited to go with friends for a movie that is sure to break our
heart and make us unhappy. We even go to the theatre, but
soon realize that the movie is not good. Should we force
ourselves to watch it or can we walk out of the theatre? Of
course, we can opt for the latter! Of course, we can! Why
pour sorrow into our mug of life and be unhappy.
At times, when somebody is watching a TV program that is
negative or the family is discussing a negative topic, you
don’t need to participate in such a negative event. You can
gracefully excuse yourself. We must remind ourselves that
some situations may not be under our control, but where we
are and what we do is in our hands. We can choose to walk
away from unhappy situations, but when we don’t, we permit
happiness to dissolve and be lost. Therefore, we must pull
this trigger and move out before it is too late. In my life, I
have made it a habit not to accept anything that is negative
whether it is people, thoughts or circumstances that rob me
of my happiness. I just pull this trigger and it is so easy. I just
walk away from unhappy situations. Try it and it will result
in you being happy.
If someone is trying to make you unhappy, just say:
[*“Sorry I cannot be unhappy. *]
My mind is programmed
[* to be happy always!”” *]
Happiness Trigger 8
Surround Yourself With Happy People
To be happy, we must pull this trigger. We must surround
ourselves with positive people; people who are full of love,
faith, hope, cheer, enthusiasm, energy, forgiveness and
understanding. We are sure to pick up positive vibrations
from such people, and that will make us happy.
This is quite different from walking away from unhappy
people or situations. That will only move us from being
negative to neutral but to be happy we need to enter a
When I want to be happy, I often meet happy people who are
so enthusiastic that I am sure I will end up being happy too.
There are some blessed people who vibrate positive energy
all the time, and we must try and surround ourselves with
such people always. To be happy, pull this trigger
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Happiness Trigger 9
Ignore The Insignificant
This trigger is important for those who worry a lot. They let the
small stuff of life affect them and their happiness. They get into
every detail and each detail creates pain. After all, life is a
journey that we must all enjoy before we depart. When we lose
our joy to trivial things, we may find that we win little battles at
first, but eventually, we end up losing the big war itself. What is
the use of fussing over every small, insignificant issue and
losing our peace of mind? Of what use is it to address every
tiny, meaningless issue, but in the bargain, lose our peace of
Our colleagues sometimes don’t do what they are supposed to
do. Sure, they should have done it right. But by getting into the
details, we can only reprimand them and in the bargain, lose
our happiness. If it is significant, we must correct them. But
more often than not, most of the things that grab our attention
are truly insignificant and we sweat over small stuff. To realize
the importance of this trigger, look back into the past and
analyze how much energy you wasted, how much joy you lost
while settling the silly issues. In hindsight, was it worth it?
Make a commitment to stop now. If it is a habit, start changing
it and don’t react to insignificant matters ever again. Each time
you conquer this temptation, you will be blessed with joy.
Finally, very few things in life really matter and the person who
understands this is blessed. One must ignore the insignificant
and focus on happiness and joy rather than worrying on every
silly matter knowing that worry is sure to kill happiness. If you
pull this trigger and start ignoring insignificant things, you
have started your journey towards joy and bliss.
Happiness Trigger 10
Reverse Your Hurts
All of us get hurt in life. That is life! Friends too hurt us,
knowingly and sometimes unknowingly and we feel
unhappy. But we must realize that being hurt directly
corrodes our joy. So, how do we deal with hurts? Like Dr.
Robert Schuller said [_“Do not curse your hurts, do not nurse _]
_your hurts, do not rehearse your hurts, instead reverse your _
[_hurts.” _] Yes, there is no point in repeatedly cursing the hurt
or reminding ourselves of it by nursing and rehearsing it, but
the challenge is how you reverse it. The best way to reverse
the hurt is neither by expression nor by suppression but
rather by forgiveness. When you pull the trigger with
forgiveness, your sorrow will turn to joy and your
unhappiness to happiness.
Every day, our near and dear ones may do small and big
things that create irritation and hurt. The more we rehearse
these, the more we are sure of becoming unhappy, because
these will create feelings of sorrow. And why choose sorrow
if we learn the trigger of reversing our hurts through
forgiveness? We are doing ourselves a bigger favor than to
the ones we forgive, because we are gifting happiness to
ourselves. Of what use is it to repeat and rehearse negative
thoughts and feelings? They will grow bigger and bigger and
blast unhappiness into our lives. Is it not simpler and more
intelligent to just pull this trigger and reverse the hurts?
Forgive and be happy. Try it now.
I am going to be happy today,
even though the skies are
cloudy and grey.
No matter what comes my way…
I am going to be happy today.
Happiness Trigger 11
Use Positive Self-Suggestions
A great way to trigger happiness is to use positive self-
suggestions as often as you can. Those who actively do it
know the power and benefit of it. Some people wake up
every morning with positive self-suggestions like: “Today is
going to be a great day.” or “I feel great today.” or “God
walks with me today, so I will be happy.” or “I am going to
make today a beautiful day.”
These self-suggestions act as autosuggestions or automatic
triggers that inject positive energy into our thoughts and
feelings and it really works! Some people use these
autosuggestions as screen savers on their computer screens
or as wall paper on their mobile phone. There is no end to
creativity here. Some have posters put up in their offices and
homes while some put it in their cars and restrooms.
Whenever you have the chance of displaying or projecting a
self-suggestion, don’t miss the opportunity. It works! It will
trigger happiness in your life. It’s time for you to pull this
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Happiness Trigger 12
Many people pull crazy triggers that give them joy.
However, it doesn’t matter what the trigger is as long as by
doing it, you become happy. Some people become truly
happy with their pets. Unfortunately, if the pet dies, they
don’t get another pet for years. They live in a kind of sorrow
or rather in the absence of joy, till they finally realize that
they need a pet. The moment they get a new pet, their life is
filled with happiness. What stopped them all these years? Do
you have a pet? Maybe you can pull this trigger to bring you
joy but you don’t.
Some people truly become happy with kids around them, be
it either their own or others’ kids. But for some reason, their
lifestyle becomes such that there are no kids around. They
lose the joy that comes from kids. We are all made in such a
way that the child in us never dies. This works for some and
doesn’t for others, but you could check if this is a trigger that
can bring joy in your life. It sure does in mine. Playing with
kids gives me tremendous joy.
Another sure way to happiness is to travel. Travel to your
favorite destination. It works beautifully for me. Whenever I
want to be really happy, I just plan a trip to one of my natural
havens – a beach, a mountain or a beautiful lake.
Do you want to be happy? Then maybe, you need to create
crazy triggers like pets, travel, kids or something else that is
unique to you but is sure to make you happy.
Happiness Trigger 13
Connect To The Universal Power
Are you a believer? If you are, then you will probably relate
to this trigger better. Those who live with faith and believe
that there is a power that gave them life can pull this trigger to
be happy. It doesn’t matter which religion you belong to. But
if you believe in God, then you are fortunate to have this
trigger available to you. Those who pull this trigger connect
with God, the universal power and become happy. When you
connect with the spiritual power, you build faith and faith
creates Full Assurance In The Heart. Faith leads to peace, joy
and tranquility and this builds the happiness in our lives.
There are those who live as atheists. To them, there is no
Creator or God, and they are thus unable to pray and find
happiness through this trigger. For the sake of being happy at
least, it makes sense to connect to the universal power, so as
to draw the energy that creates this joy. If you haven’t tried it,
it’s worth a try. The presence of a spiritual connection gives
us courage and confidence leading to happiness. It’s a trigger
you can pull now, whoever you are and where ever you may
be. It costs nothing and if it works, it’s a big treasure. So why
not try it now?
Happiness Trigger 14
Love What You Do
Or Do What You Love
Many people go to a job that makes them miserable. They work
eight hours a day, five days a week and hate what they do. How
can they be happy? To them, there is a simple prescription to joy.
Love your job or Leave your job. For if you don’t love your job,
not only will you be unhappy, you will never be successful. Then
why drag through something in life that has no meaning. Why
not rather do what you love and be Happy?
There are so many opportunities today that you can craft out and
do whatever excites you and makes you happy. You don’t have to
do something; you can choose to do what you like. If you choose
a job that excites you, it is no more a job and thus it will make you
happy and give you joy. So don’t continue doing something you
hate. Quit. Do it now. You would be doing your employer a favor
But what if you are in a situation where you can’t do what you
want to do. Then the least you can do is try to enjoy what you are
doing. Yes, if you can’t do what you love, then try to love what
you do. If you do, you would be happy and this is the most
important factor. Whatever be the case, learn this trigger and
implement it. Never do what you don’t love, because you can
never be happy. If you have no choice, then start enjoying what
you are doing. Find a way to make your work exciting. Make it
fun and not only will you get it done, but you will also get to
enjoy life much more and be happy.
Love your job
[*Leave your job! *]
Happiness Trigger 15
Stop And Change
Many people just keep on doing what they are doing and
they complain and whine about their happiness. It is strange
but true. If you don’t like whatever you are doing, why not
stop and change. You may be in a relationship that is making
you miserable. Why continue? Why not stop and change?
Whatever is giving you unhappiness is not compulsory most
of the time. You can make changes, but you must have the
courage to stop. So stop now and pull this trigger. Stop and
change whatever is causing you misery. Find out what it is
that will create joy. Trigger happiness in your life. If there is
a relationship you must get into, do it now. If there is a
relationship you have to end, end it now. If there are friends
who are making you unhappy, you must stop and talk to
them and not continue to live miserably. It may just be a
situation at home or office that is troubling you so stop and
Each of us might have different things that hold us back from
happiness that we need to stop and change. I know a person
who was in a bad relationship for years. Every day he would
complain and cry about the relationship he was in. But he
continued till one fine day he decided this must stop. He
confronted the situation and it changed forever. Very often,
relationships can give us tremendous happiness or
unhappiness. It is very important that we evaluate our
relationships and ensure we are in positive ones. Review this
trigger. Is there something that you must stop and change to
give you happiness?
If there is, then do it now.
Happiness Trigger 16
Refuse To Be Unhappy
How can someone make you unhappy without your
permission? After all, being happy or unhappy is a feeling or
a behavior that is born out of our reactions. We cannot
control people’s actions, but we can control our reactions.
People may try to hurt us, but we can refuse to be unhappy,
because unhappiness is a choice that comes from our
reaction. Do you wanna be happy? Then this is an important
trigger you must pull all the time – refuse to be unhappy.
Whatever be the circumstance in life, we can choose to be
happy and refuse to be unhappy. Do you pull this trigger in
life or do you find yourself unhappy against your wishes?
Whenever you feel unhappy again due to others actions, stop
and tell yourself, “I refuse to be unhappy” and change your
reaction from that of unhappiness to happiness..
be h appy,
refuse to react
[*Are you hurt? *]
To be happy,
don’t curse your hurts,
don’t nurse your hurts,
don’t rehearse your hurts.
Just reverse your hurts.
Happiness Trigger 17
Have you tried this trigger? It is magical and it works
wonders, both for yourself and for the one who receives your
smile. It’s ironical that though it costs nothing, people do not
want to smile. What happens when you smile at somebody?
They smile in return and both you and that person become
happy. Although it is such a simple and effective trigger, it is
not used in most situations in life. However, since you have
decided that you want to be happy, it is a great trigger to
adopt. Keep this trigger loaded and ready always. When you
meet the next person, just smile and see how much warmth it
radiates. Not only will it make you happy, it will make others
happy too and this in turn will give you joy. While there are
some people who are always smiling, some others have not
learned this art at all.
When you make smiling a habit, you are encompassed with
happiness since you emit happy vibes to others as well as
receive happy vibes in return. Have you made smiling a
habit? If not, pull this trigger and start today. Smile and you
will see and enjoy the magic it brings. Challenge yourself to
smile all the time and you will find yourself happy always.
Happiness Trigger 18
Essential Daily Triggers
Apart from these triggers, there are essential triggers that we
cannot ignore. If we don’t pull these triggers, we may end up
in a soup of unhappiness.
Taking care of our health is one such trigger. If we are
careless and do not take care of our health, we may end up in
pain and suffering which will create sorrow. Therefore, as an
essential daily trigger, we must take care of our bodies and if
we have a problem, we must go to a doctor. Ignoring a rotten
tooth for example, may lead to a complicated root canal
surgery that will surely give us pain and unhappiness.
Sometimes, just food can affect our happiness. Certain type
of food makes us happy, but certain others pull us down and
make us uncomfortable and unhappy. We must identify what
kind of food nourishes us and what can rob our smiles away.
If we are committed to happiness, we must learn to monitor
and control our diet so that we are happy all the time.
Another essential daily trigger is the type of thoughts we
think. Sometimes negative thoughts enter our mind and
create unhappiness. If we are conscious about joy, we can fix
a filter and stop these thoughts from sinking into us. As they
appear, we can re-direct them away, so that they don’t enter
our domain to make us feel unhappy.
There are many essential daily triggers that together form a
Another one is peace. Many things rob our peace of mind
and lead us to unhappiness. Once we become conscious of
what robs us of our peace of mind, we will proactively
choose those things that give us peace. There are many more
that can be added to this list. Essentially in our daily lives, we
must proactively accept and do whatever leads us to
Be generous in pulling the universal happiness
triggers as well as those of your own.
You now have a list of happiness triggers that are universal
as well as those from your own happiness list. Pulling these
triggers is a sure way of bringing joy in your life. But just like
the trigger of a gun that needs to be pulled to release the
bullets, these triggers too must be pulled into action. Surely,
your happiness list has assured triggers and some of these
universal triggers will work for you. Together, they are
guaranteed to make you happy.
The next time you are feeling down and miserable, stop and
pull these happiness triggers and you will see happiness
coming in and transforming your present condition. Be
lavish in using these triggers, for the more you pull
happiness triggers, the more you will experience joy and
THE 4 STEP
BEWARE OF JOY STEALERS
Beware! You have just climbed three important steps on the
ladder to joy and happiness. You not only have a strong
burning desire, but have also discovered what will make you
happy. You want to pull the happiness triggers that will
trigger your happiness. But now, it’s time to be careful.
Commonly, we have read signs that say, ‘Beware of dogs’
everywhere we go. Fortunately, dogs rarely harm us. There
are poisons which are more harmful that you must beware
of. I call them “Joy Stealers”. They are the thieves that rob us
of our most valued possessions – joy and happiness. They
are strong negative emotions that poison our minds and
devastate us. Some of them are anger, jealousy, fear, guilt,
temptation, worry, revenge, hate and doubt. These poisons
enter our lives and without our slightest knowledge, walk
away with our bliss. You must beware of all the joy stealers.
This is because we work hard to build a passion for
happiness and then persistently discover what makes us
happy and powerfully pull each trigger to create happiness.
But, the poison of negative energy can nullify all our
positive efforts when it enters our lives. And therefore, we
must remember, Step 4 – Beware of Joy Stealers. We must
keep them away. We must consciously eliminate these
negative emotions from our thoughts and attitude.
Whenever they appear, we must shoot them down ruthlessly.
Let us analyze a few of the joy stealers.
1. ANGER: Anger is a dangerous terrorist that starts as a
spark, but burns out our entire emotional strength. You may
be the happiest person on earth, but the moment anger enters
your life, it flares up and brings out the worst in you. You lose
control and explode, not knowing what you speak. The force
of anger is such that it can create irreparable damage. It is a
strong negative poison that erupts because of various
reasons. However, it is a reaction and can be controlled. If
we do not burn anger, it will burn us and destroy our joy and
peace. Normally, when this joy stealer enters our lives, we
try to suppress it, but it will surface again. Sometimes we try
to express it. But it doesn’t end there; it only flares up worse
than before. The only way to conquer anger is through
forgiveness which is a positive emotion that can nullify
anger. Beware of this joy stealer. Take charge of it before it
consumes you, and if it ever does, be ready to forgive and
forget so that the anger subsides and happiness is restored.
2. JEALOUSY: Jealousy is another fire that can burn us. We
may be living a life of joy and bliss but suddenly and
foolishly, we lose our happiness because we become jealous
of others. Jealousy is thus a joy stealer. The moment it enters
our lives, it walks out with our bliss. It is a strong negative
poison that can steal our joy. I had a friend who was very
happy because he bought a new Mercedes Benz. We went for
a test drive and he was excited and full of joy with his new
car. Suddenly his neighbor passed us by in his new BMW.
My friend became upset because he was jealous of his
neighbor’s BMW and all his joy disappeared. Jealousy stole
his happiness. Just think about it. Should we let such a joy
stealer take away our joy? We must beware of jealousy and
when this ugly poison surfaces, we must talk ourselves into
being content with what we have. We must learn to be
grateful and satisfied. Peace will be restored if we are
intelligent enough to let jealousy pass by, rather than give it
place in our hearts. If we do, it will enter forcefully and rob
us of all our happiness.
Happiness does not
come when we have
more of something.
In fact, greed steals
3. FEAR: Fear is dangerous, for it can paralyze. The acronym
for FEAR is ‘False Expectations Appearing Real.’ Yes, fears
may be false, but this joy stealer is an expert in exaggerating
dangers and building strong negative emotions that will steal
our happiness. Beware of fear; for once it enters our lives, our
peace of mind exits. We must learn to live our lives with
courage and confidence – the positive emotions that can
conquer fear. When fear appears, we must consciously attack
it and make it disappear.
4. GUILT: All of us, sometime or the other, experience the
emotion called guilt in life. When we do something wrong,
we feel guilty and this guilt steals our happiness. But why
should we feel guilty? Nobody is perfect and when we err as
human beings, we must make amends. Therefore, instead of
letting guilt corrode our soul, we must proactively and
positively accept our mistakes and try to make good in place
of the wrong done. This way, we remain positive. On the
contrary, if we live with guilt, we harbor a strong negative
poison that will make us unhappy. This joy stealer can walk
away with all our joy and bliss. Therefore when, guilt
appears, we must be honest and sincere, and with humility
accept our wrong doings. We have to try our best to do good,
thus eliminating the negative poison. Never feel guilty.
Learn to deal with guilt if ever it shows up again.
5. TEMPTATION: Many of us get tempted to do something
ethically wrong. Sometimes, we do these actions to be happy,
not realizing that we can never be happy with unethical
actions. Some young children steal something that they
would like to have, but when they realize that their
temptation led them to robbing, they feel miserable. We must
hold back from temptation or any negative emotion that will
create unethical happiness. Even though we may have
temporary joy, this will emit lot of negative fumes which will
suffocate our happiness. The short term joy is so
insignificant when compared to the long time misery that
temptation creates. Therefore, we must not give into
temptations, as they are joy stealers dressed up as happiness
triggers. They trigger unhappiness and not joy in the long
How do we deal with temptation? We must learn to evaluate
and differentiate temptation from the true happiness triggers
and choose to pull those triggers that will genuinely make us
happy and stay away from temptation.
6. WORRY: It is a negative poison and a primary joy stealer
because it eliminates the ability to think with reason and
brings along with it fear. When worry occupies our minds, it
starts consuming our happiness. It can be viewed as a
monster that feeds on joy and bliss. We may be perfectly
normal, happy people, but when worry occupies us, it starts
eating our peace of mind and troubles us like a parasite
robbing us of all joy. Just like any other negative poison, its
vicious fumes occupy our peaceful and tranquil minds,
making them unstable. Since it comes along with fear, it
threatens and destabilizes our very being. For those who
have experienced worry, it is not difficult to comprehend the
damage that it causes. When worry enters, we must not give
it place. We must confront it with positive emotions like
faith, courage, calmness and tranquility. If it is blocked from
entering, we can be happy, but once it enters, it destroys.
Therefore, we must be wary of it.
7. REVENGE: Revenge is another joy stealer. It is so
powerful that it can create more momentum than any
positive emotion. Normally when somebody harms or hurts
us, our natural reaction is to set the score even. We are not
used to forgiving and so, we let the negative emotion called
revenge take charge of our hearts and minds. At that point of
time, we don’t realize it. While it is natural to want revenge, it
will steal our joy. Besides, whatever we may get by revenge
will be far more inconsequential compared to the damage
that revenge causes. Think about it; when somebody harms
us, we create negative poison within us that robs our peace
and tranquility. Then, we act negatively to make good and
temporarily get some satisfaction out of revenge. But is that
true joy? On the contrary, once revenge is taken, we feel
even more miserable having behaved with such negative
poison. The right approach is to beware of revenge and not
let it build a foundation in our hearts. Let us eliminate this
joy stealer, for it may come in pretending to bring us
satisfaction, but leaves with all the joy and happiness that
once belonged to us.
8. HATE: It is another deadly poison, for it burns up our heart
– a place where love is born, and from where joy and
happiness vibrates. It is most unfortunate that some people
are overcome by hate, because with hate in command, they
are incapable of being happy. Therefore we must be very
careful of this joy stealer and not let even signs of it get close
to us. By principle, I don’t hate anybody even if I dislike
them; I nullify that feeling rather than letting it grow into
hate, knowing that if hate appears, then happiness will
disappear. Those who live with hate in any form are
incapable of being truly happy. Such is the power of this
negative poison. Therefore, beware of hate and the only
thing you should hate is hate itself.
9. DOUBT: Doubt is the opposite of faith. The moment you
doubt, you have no faith and therefore this negative emotion
can be devastating. It is a trickster that comes to play
mischief into a normally positive, happy mind. Doubt is
negative and it can never have a positive consequence. In
fact, like the other joy stealers, its goal is to rob us of our
happiness. Therefore, we must be wary of doubt and
confront it with faith, when it appears in order to eliminate it.
The moment we allow doubt to enter our lives, it starts its
tricks by eating up faith and confidence, and slowly steals
our peace and bliss. It must be encountered and eliminated,
for in doing so we will be peaceful and happy.
*These are some of the joy stealers that can *
*steal our happiness. *
There may be many more. But whatever be the joy stealer,
we must not make space for these negative poisons in our
life. We must ruthlessly and unconditionally eliminate them
so that they are completely distanced and eliminated from
We protect ourselves from the burning sun, from pouring
rain and from dangerous waters by using lotions, umbrellas
and life guards. But, we don’t protect ourselves from the
dangers of unhappiness. Imagine you are walking in a park
and come across a dangerous insect. What would you do
instinctively? You would either try to kill it, hit it or move
away. Yet when it comes to unhappiness, we don’t take the
We must be wary of these negative poisons knowing that our
first 3 steps may be destroyed in a moment if we do not adopt
the 4th step to happiness. While we are busy pulling
happiness triggers, let us not ignore the joy stealers and
protect ourselves from them. Both are equally important in
creating the bliss that we seek.
How can I be happy?
I am sinking in sorrow.
if you learn to bounce back.
THE 5 STEP
BOUNCE BACK WITH FAITH AND HOPE
While writing about the happiness journey and formulating
steps that guarantee happiness, it becomes essential to cover
a possible situation, where one’s life has been captured by
unhappiness and sorrow. Is there still hope? Can such people
still turn around and be happy?
People in deep sorrow, often sneer at the thought that they
can always be happy. To them happiness is a thing of the
past, it’s gone forever never to return. They regret and
rehearse. They think and curse. They have lost the hope of
being happy ever again.
To them, this is the recommended trigger to happiness. They
have to bounce back; they have to SNAP OUT of sorrow.
They have to escape from misery. They have to eliminate
unhappiness and this happens when they decide to bounce
back with FAITH and HOPE. They will then cope with the
tragedy of life and reverse it.
The two key pillars to help one bounce back are: faith and
hope. Without these two, you cannot escape from sorrow
that has taken charge of your life. It has virtually strangled
you emotionally; it has paralyzed and ruined you. But you
can still bounce back. The negative influence in such a
situation is very strong and one has to snap out of it with the
faith that they can be happy again and with the hope that they
can eliminate sorrow altogether. Once these two pillars are
strongly laid, then the seeker of happiness can start the
journey by desiring to be happy.
A normal aspirant can desire happiness even without faith
and hope, as there are no negative influences. But for one
who is imprisoned by sorrow, there is a necessity for faith
and hope to help them bounce back. The aspirant must not
just desire to be happy, but discover what made them happy.
Happiness can be restored by pulling the happiness triggers
and making an effort not to permit any more joy stealers to
enter. The problem that this aspirant will face is this: since
sorrow has taken charge, every effort to be happy will be
encountered by a resistance with negative energy. Thus, one
has to take the same steps (1, 2, 3 and 4), but with an extra
dose of faith and hope that will help them bounce back. Faith
will build a foundation that will eliminate fear and doubt.
Hope will create positive expectations that make way for
joy. These two will form the two pillars on which happiness
can be rebuilt.
Many people are in such a state of unhappiness in their lives,
that they are not able to start the happiness journey. Then
there are others, who even though they have started the
happiness journey, are unable to proceed as sorrow has
captured them back. To all such aspirants, happiness is just
one more step away. They need to bounce back from
unhappiness by believing that they can be happy again and
hoping that their lives can once again be full of bliss. With
this belief and hope, create a desire for happiness.
Discover your happiness list and then do it; and pull the
happiness triggers. Don’t let anymore sorrow enter. Beware
of joy stealers and with the positive energy that you are
armed with, eliminate the negative poison. You will slowly
start feeling the bliss and the joy from this journey. If you are
committed and passionate, nothing can stop you. With faith
and hope, you will be able to bounce back.
Faith and hope -
will help you Bounce Back!
They are the 2
2 magical pil ars
that will prevent unhappiness
from taking charge of your life.
BE HAPPY ALWAYS! IT’S A CHOICE
Be Happy Always! It’s a choice. You have reached the last
step of the happiness journey. The challenge now is to be
happy always. You have been enjoying the positive
vibrations that came from pulling the happiness triggers.
You have a clear map. You are passionate and truly desire to
be happy. You know what is going to make you happy and
you know what you must do. You are also aware of the joy
stealers. You are all set. You must now choose to be happy.
The challenge however, is to be happy always. It is not
enough to have intermittent spells of happiness. Happiness
must be continuous and in abundance and this is possible if
you have clearly understood the 6 steps.
Remember, happiness does not depend on material
possessions. You may not have everything, but you can still
be happy if you know how to pull the happiness triggers as
well as know what gives you happiness. Doing so, you are
moving one step closer in the journey of joy.
The key to being happy always is to fill your life with
positive energy that will trigger happiness in your life. If you
make positive energy a part of your daily lifestyle, you will
build a positive attitude, and a life full of positive thoughts,
feelings, actions and habits.These will trigger joy into your
life and you can be happy always. But, if you are not careful
and let negative emotions take charge, then your journey
may be attacked by sorrow and unhappiness. Unless you
Happiness is a choice.
You may have everything and
yet be unhappy.
You may have nothing and
still be happy!
You need to choose to be happy!
bounce back, you will sink into misery. The choice is yours.
Nothing in this world is more important than being happy. It
is our most valued possession that has no price tag. All the
money in the world cannot be exchanged for joy and one
must value one’s moments of happiness. One must treasure
happiness and work hard towards being happy always. After
all, it is a choice and happiness cannot escape one who is
passionate and persistent in its pursuit.
Don’t forget the steps to happiness and remember that
happiness is the journey and not the destination. Keep your
list of happy priorities handy and whenever you feel low,
pull one of those triggers and raise your happiness levels.
Don’t delay pulling any of the universal triggers that can give
you joy instantly and beware of any joy stealers that may
come, and eliminate them immediately. Happiness can’t
escape you. It can be yours forever, provided you follow the
Before we end, I would like to share the story of Mr. Cheer.
To maintain anonymity, his name has been changed, but I
cannot forget the impact he had on me by being cheerful and
happy at all times. It may not be wrong to say that I was
largely inspired by him to be happy always.
Mr. Cheer was not at all wealthy, but he was the happiest
man I knew. He was always cheerful and smiling. Every day,
he would go around serving suffering humanity in various
orphanages, destitute homes, hospitals and hospices. He
visited the poorest of the poor to bring a smile on their face,
giving them a packet of biscuit, a fruit or a meal. With his
own warm hands, he served them with a radiant smile. He
would say, “Be cheerful.” to everyone that he met.
Mr. Cheer did not have expensive cars or possessions, nor
did he own much property or have material wealth. But he
was the richest in joy and happiness. His life is a testimony
that one can be happy without money and material wealth.
Mr. Cheer had a clear purpose – to serve the poor and make
them happy. To those he served, he was like a Santa Claus,
but one that came every week without fail giving away
goodies. Such was his life. He did this for many years. One
day, he was diagnosed with cancer. His schedule did not
change and he continued to visit the charitable homes and
institutions, but his condition deteriorated. His suffering
increased and as time passed he became bedridden. All
through his illness, for as long as he could, he continued his
visits with a smile and his trademark cheer.
I went to visit him when his disease seemed to be defeating
him. Even in his deepest and most painful state, he was
cheerful. He had no regret, no complaints, not even
questions as to why he had to suffer with cancer. He still
greeted me cheerfully and although, he was in his deathbed,
he was cheerful. His attitude made my heart stop for a
moment, as it made a deep impact on my life. I knew him for
decades, but no words can express the respect I had for him
for living his philosophy of being cheerful at all times and
making others happy.
A few weeks later, he died, leaving behind a vacuum of
emptiness in all those whom he touched. No more would
they be able to see this happy old man on his weekly rounds.
the journey itself….
not the Destination!
Mr. Cheer made a tremendous impact on me. He taught me
that you don’t have to be rich to be happy. He showed me that
if we do what is dear to our heart, we could be joyous. He
also revealed his secret: that making others happy was the
simplest secret to bliss and fulfillment. I recall what a glow
he had on his face! Though his needs were simple and he
lived a simple but happy life, he had amassed a great treasure
of cheerfulness, enthusiasm, joy and bliss. He carried a
begging bowl for anyone to donate to the suffering humanity
he cared for. He was not shy to do this, for it gave him joy.
What an inspiration Mr. Cheer has been!
People like Mr. Cheer who live exemplary lives made me
realize what true joy is. I have myself experienced this
fulfillment and know that it does not come from gold and
diamonds, cheque books and property, airplanes and motor
cars. Yes, all these pleasures are great, but at the end of the
day when the head hits the pillow, if you are not truly happy,
all these have little meaning.
Thus at the age of 40, I stepped out of an active materialistic
world. I realized that life was more than just making
millions, more than adding zeros to the wealth we possessed,
more than building a bank full of assets and material
possessions. I stopped all that and decided to spend my life
doing what made me happy – humanitarian, spiritual and
inspirational work. I transformed and rejuvenated my life
and the last few years have given me more joy than all the
decades that preceded them.
The joy that comes from giving, the love from inspiring
others and the satisfaction from serving and sharing is
Sometimes, I am viewed as a maverick, but it has not
changed my decision to transcend from a world of wealth to
a life of bliss. Rather than creating pleasure from the things
money can buy, I now, enjoy fulfillment from things that
money can’t buy. While I do agree that money is important to
live well, to make a meaningful difference, I have concluded
that money is not everything. Happiness is a choice. It is a
state of mind and anyone can be happy if only they discover
its true meaning and then walk towards it.
The greatest challenge is not choosing to be happy now, but
choosing to be happy always. The best thing to do is to keep
this book beside you at all times, to remind yourself that you
wanna be happy always. Happiness is guaranteed if you pull
happiness triggers and stay away from joy stealers. If you
make up your mind to be happy, no one can steal the joy from
your heart and the smile from your face.
God, grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot
change, the courage to change the
things I can, and the wisdom to
know the difference!
Learn the art of
being happy always!
You don’t have to be a millionaire
to be happy. Anybody can be happy!
You too can be happy now and always.
HAPPINESS IS A CHOICE.
We can choose to be happy or unhappy.
Some people have everything yet they
are unhappy, whereas some have
nothing yet they are happy.
So, what is happiness?
HAPPINESS is an emotion, a strong feeling
that makes one enjoy and feel good. It is a
feeling that makes one’s heart dance and
eyes twinkle. Happiness creates
excitement and builds positive energy. It
makes us smile, laugh and creates cheer.
*Happiness is a journey, *
*not a destination. *
*The journey consists of 6 steps. *
[*- wanting to be happy. *]
[*Second step – knowing what makes one happy. *]
[*- doing what gives one happiness. *]
[*- staying away from misery. *]
[*- being able to bounce back with *]
*faith and hope. *
[*- being able to choose happiness *]
[*It is that simple! *]
THE 1 STEP: DESIRE TO BE HAPPY
Unless you are passionate about
being happy and living joyously, how
can you ever be happy? The first step
is that you must have a burning desire
and a strong aspiration to be happy.
Once you have that, you will have
started on the happiness journey.
[*THE 2 STEP: *]
DISCOVER WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY
How can you be happy, if you don’t
know what makes you happy? So
introspect and find out what made you
happy in the past. Analyze what is
making you happy today and imagine
what will make you happy tomorrow.
Will this create your magical happy list?
Do you have your happy list ready now?
If yes, go on to the next step.
[*THE 3 STEP: *]
[*DO IT NOW! DO IT, TAKE ACTION!!! *]
You already know what makes you
happy. Now, it’s time to pull the
happiness triggers. Happiness is just an
intention away and will be yours with
action. Let nothing stop you from
pulling the happiness triggers. Be
happy and move to the next step.
THE 4 STEP: BEWARE
You are busy pulling happiness triggers.
It’s great you are happy! But wait just a
minute, beware of joy stealers. These
thieves silently enter into your life and
make you unhappy. Beware of the joy
stealers like anger, hate, worry, revenge,
jealousy and temptation. Don’t let them
in because if you do, happiness will go
THE 5 STEP: BOUNCE BACK
At times, you are deep in sorrow and
cannot pull the happiness triggers as you
are stuck in misery and sunk in despair. Is
there a way out? Yes, you must learn to
bounce back. Take help of the two pillars
– Faith and Hope. You can then bounce
back, rejuvenate and live a transformed
life of joy.
THE FINAL STEP:
Be happy always. Happiness is not
momentary. It is a way of life and if you
wanna be happy always, you must learn
to choose happiness in all that you do. By
pulling happiness triggers and staying
away from joy stealers, it is possible to be
happy all the time. Start now; live with joy
and bliss today and every day.
*MY HAPPINESS COMMITMENT *
Today, I promise that I shall
be Happy all the time. I am
making a personal
commitment and vow that I
shall not let JOY STEALERS like anger,
jealousy, greed and guilt rob me of my
I will not let unhappiness take
command of my life.
I will bounce back with FAITH and
HOPE. I will TRIGGER HAPPINESS all the
time, by doing things that will make me
happy, as often as I can.
I will SMILE and BE HAPPY today, and
everyday of my Life!
*Writing a book is not easy. I realized that after spending *
[*hours, days, weeks and months on my first book – I Wanna *]
*Be Happy. And I want to say here that it is not just my effort *
*that has gone into this book. If it was not for the dozens of *
*books I have read on happiness and the numerous talks and *
*inspirational sessions I have attended, this book would not *
*be possible. *
*I acknowledge with gratitude all those who have inspired *
*me in creating this book. *
*The editorial team including Pushpa, Anuradha and *
*Sushumna and the design team including Anu, Sona and *
*Sasikala have helped me put this book together. This book *
*would not have been possible without them. *
[*Various friends and well-wishers have given me interesting *]
*and stimulating feedback which has been incorporated *
*into this second edition. I am grateful for their valuable *
[*Finally, I don’t believe that this is my work at all. *]
*Inspiration and thoughts come to us from a greater Power. *
*I bow down in surrender to that source of power as I *
*humbly present this book to one and all. *
The whole world is searching for happiness.
Who doesn’t want to be happy?
Everyone wants to be happy. It’s only that we don’t
know how to remain in that state of happiness always!
You may have everything and still be unhappy or you
may have nothing but still be very happy because
happiness does not depend on what you have.
Happiness is how you feel.
I Wanna Be Happy is a simple book that will help you
discover joy in six simple steps. It will teach you to find
out what makes you happy. It will then show you how to
move in that direction and eliminate joy stealers, so that
you can be happy for the rest of your life.
Do you want to be happy? Then invest an hour or two.
Read, believe and practice the contents of this book.
And soon, sorrow will be a thing of the past and you will
be dancing in joy for the rest of your life.
Happiness is guaranteed…if only, you want to be happy!
[_“I have found a way to be truly happy! _]
Now I want to share this secret of happiness through
_this book. I hope it will lead you to a life full of joy, _
[_bliss, happiness and fulfillment.” _]
All proceeds from this book, will be contributed to the RVM HUMANITARIAN FOUNDATION