How to love yourself
50 ways to improve self-esteem
How to love yourself. 50 ways to improve self-esteem. Copyright © 2016 by Anastasia Zaloga. All Rights Reserved.
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INSTEAD OF INTRODUCTION
THE STORY OF EMILY
TIP 1. DIARY
TIP 2. GIRL
TIP 3. REGRETS LIVE HERE NO LONGER
TIP 4. BRACELET
TIP 5. BAD MOM
TIP 6. YOU ARE YOUR BABY
TIP 7. TRASH
THE STORY OF EMMA
TIP 8. ALTAR OF MY OWN
TIP 9. I THANK MYSELF
TIP 10. MAGIC TIME
TIP 11. I LOVE YOU
TIP 12. WINNER REVOLT
TIP 13. I DESERVE RESPECT
TIP 14. ESCAPE FROM IMPERFECTION
TIP 15. DON’T SAVE ON YOURSELF
TIP 16. MIRROR MIRROR ON THE WALL
TIP 17. LADY AND DRAGONS
TIP 18. IF I LOVED MYSELF
TIP 19. YOU WHO LOVES YOURSELF
TIP 20. I’M SMART!
TIP 21. MAGICAL WORDS
TIP 22. I WANT IT!
TIP 23. I LOVE
TIP 24. PERFECT DATE
TIP 25. NEW HORIZONS
TIP 26. LADDER OF SUCCESS
THE STORY OF OLIVIA
TIP 27. IT NEEDS YOUR LOVE
TIP 28. MY BODY MASTERPIECE
TIP 29. THEY DESERVE YOUR ATTENTION
TIP 30. YOUR BODY NEEDS
TIP 31. ODE TO YOUR BODY
TIP 32. GET READY
TIP 33. I WRITE TO YOU, WHAT ELSE?
TIP 34. NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU
TIP 35. BEAUTY THERAPY
TIP 36. JOURNAL OF A SUCCESSFUL WOMAN
TIP 37. STAR
TIP 38. LOOK AROUND
THE STORY OF CHARLOTTE
TIP 39. CHOOSE YOUR SURROUNDING
TIP 40. INTERVIEW
TIP 41. MY PRICE IS HIGH
TIP 42. SETTING YOUR BOUNDARIES
TIP 43. ABOUT YOU
TIP 44. THE WIND OF LOVE
TIP 45. THEY AREN’T RIGHT
TIP 46. YOU’RE NOT A PIG
TIP 47. I SAY «NO»
TIP 48. THE SEA OF COMPLIMENTS
THE STORY OF ELIZABETH
TIP 49. YOU DESERVE
TIP 50. MARKETING APPROACH
THE STORY OF ASHLEY
Why do I have a right to write about self-love and to teach how to love yourself? During the last 5 years I have been organizing trainings on this topic. And I see in real life what exactly changes one’s attitude towards themselves from hatred to love.
This book was created rather simply. I took my course and started picking the most effective exercises, the ones that really worked and gave stable results.
In this study guide you will not find some boring medical and psychological research or statistics. Why have it at all? I think that your goal is to start loving yourself, but not to accumulate useless information.
The self-love theme came to me by accident. However, I must confess that not all “accidents” are accidental.A year before I started dealing directly with it, I had learned about a training with the same name and thought: “How silly. Who would be interested in this topic? Do you really need to learn how to love yourself?”
Then I found some self-love related practices, and having seen other people’s results, I realized how important and vast this subject was!There are stories of my actual clients in the pages of this book. They are real even though I changed all the names.
I would even say that in the hierarchy of psychological topics, this is number one, or at the least, number two behind the idea of resentment clearing.
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If you don’t love yourself, you’re not satisfied with yourself and the results of your life up to that point. When you compare yourself with someone else over and over, you feel disappointed. When you criticize your every action, you’re always unhappy. Your reflection in the mirror doesn’t create positive feelings, but rather becomes another source of negativity.
Sometimes you may truly believe that you are the biggest loser ever. You often ignore your own needs and desires. You lack love. If you’re single, you strive to attract your soul mate and hope that with his coming you will feel loved. At the same time, you think that there may be no one who could love you.
If you have a partner, his love is not enough. You live with a feeling of not being loved, appreciated, or respected enough. You blame yourself constantly for any mistakes that have happened in your past. “How could I have screwed things up so much?!” – you angrily think. Not loving yourself is not only an internal and invisible process, but it affects your life, too.
How does low self-esteem affect your relationships? Well, your partner behaves in such a way that he is not afraid of losing you. He may promise (and quickly forget), he may insult you, cheat on you, and still pretend that all is fine. He may even hit you. This behavior doesn’t cause any active resistance from your side though.
Of course, you may complain about him but most likely, you tend to tolerate the behavior. Your self-esteem is too low and his dignity is too high. In this case you’re afraid to lose “your tormentor” and you live with the dead-end belief that you will meet no one better.
People with low self-esteem are prone to explicit and implicit jealousy attacks. With a certain periodicity you’ll be jealous of your partner’s past relationships, casual small talks, and his colleagues. Coming up with a reason for suspicion is not a big deal for you, you’re good at this. Stupid jealousy is what hinders the healthy relationships.
As for the girls who are not in relationships, the low self-esteem is not less destructive. It may be hard to believe that there will be a man who can fall in love with you with all his heart!
Sometimes a girl doesn’t allow relationships with a man to develop, believing that he is too good for her. With similar actions (or inactions) you simply push a new boyfriend away “give” him a more worthy, in your opinion, woman.
Lack of self-love pushes you to conquer the men. You don’t believe that the members of the opposite sex may be interested in you. Therefore, as soon as you meet an attractive man, you start to run after him and show an excessive interest. This most likely will lead to nothing and may scare this man.
Your low self-esteem may also affect your career success. Sometimes, you may be afraid of sharing your own opinion and thus block any opportunities. You seem to be no one special, and therefore, your results have little or no value. This is why you choose to sit quietly and not stick out! If you created something, you would definitely be showered with a wave of criticism!
Lack of self-love makes you less demanding in regards to income as well. This is why you may work in a low paying job and earn less than you serve. Your life strategy is to tolerate poor working conditions and a bad attitude of your manager.
Your self-esteem cannot but affect your quality of life. It’s enough to look around and note the conditions in which you live. You may put an equals sign between self-love and everything that surrounds you. After all, your surroundings are just a reflection of your inner self-attitude.
Female low self-esteem also has an effect on male success. If, in a woman’s opinion, she is nothing special, then she is moderate in her demands as well. When such a woman meets a man for whom, “it’s also fine”, then they have only a small chance to succeed as a couple.
Increase your self-esteem and your life will improve. On the next page you will find a questionnaire to determine your self-esteem level.There will be a test. Take it – the results will let you understand how much self-love is lacking in your life.
This questionnaire is designed to determine your self-esteem and self-love level. Please read all the sentences and tick those which apply to you:
You don’t like your reflection in the mirror, you are not happy with the way you look.
Sometimes you compare yourself with others and you’re getting disappointed.
You criticize yourself and your behavior regularly, and you blame yourself for failures.
You think that nobody loves you and nobody will love you in the future.
You are sued to saving on yourself and you give up on your own needs.
You think that you have no special achievements and there’s nothing for you to be proud of.
People behave disrespectfully towards you.
You have a job you don’t like. You work hard but earn less.
Your living conditions are poor, and quality of life is low.
Sometimes you’re jealous of your partner and are afraid of losing him and being alone.
Please count the number of ticks you’ve made and compare it with the descriptions below:
9 – 10
Your biggest enemy is yourself. You dislike absolutely everything: your work, your surroundings, and your appearance. Hating yourself is a feeling that stops you from moving forward. Sometimes you think that the whole world is against you, no one love you and understands you.
Your key need is being love and warmed up by someone. Instead, other people behave worse towards you than you deserve. Your regularly compare yourself with others and once again verify that everything in your life is bad.
You feel like a loser, you have a feeling that everything and everyone is against you and there’s no escape. You blame yourself for all the mistakes you’ve made and you can’t forgive yourself for them. You’re highly recommended to read this book from cover to cover and complete every exercise! It’s impossible to keep things as they are!
7 – 8
Sometimes you’re very picky. No matter how much you try, you cannot accept yourself for who you are. Unfortunately, you experience self-aggression. You don’t acknowledge your achievements and perceive them as a matter of course. However, you find it difficult to refuse others, even when you don’t want to fulfill their requests.
Your attitude towards yourself is based on a non-constructive criticism, which may lead to the fact that sometimes you feel useless. You lack the understanding and awareness of your own uniqueness. You always do what you don’t like: you have a job you dislike and you communicate with unpleasant people.
A persons past in the foundation on which his/her present is being built. However, your basement is shaky, as you cannot let your past go. This book will definitely be helpful for you! If you follow our suggestions, your life will change for sure!
4 – 6
Your relationships with yourself are most likely affected by other people and some external circumstances. Self-love is directly linked to your achievements. “I love myself when I succeed at something”. Sometimes looking in the mirror, you find yourself attractive. At the same time, you can be dissatisfied with something in your appearance.
You are considered as a reasonably successful person, but your self-expectations are too high. Sometimes you criticize yourself too much and don’t notice the best parts of yourself. We advise that you apply some of the tips described in this book.
2 – 3
Sometimes you can be unhappy with yourself, but you don’t dive into self-criticism completely. You know about your weaknesses but don’t concentrate on them too much. Your reflection in the mirror often appeals to you. People treat you respectfully.
You reject any attempts of people to “trample on your soul”. You objectively evaluate yourself and compare yourself only to you. You notice all your small achievements and leave your failures in the past.
You tend to reduce conversations with troublesome people. You try not to get angry over the small things, and you take failures in stride. You can call yourself a friend. This book can be useful for you, and can finally bring your relationship with yourself to the proper level.
0 – 1
We congratulate you! You are a rare exception! You definitely like yourself and enjoy your life. You consider yourself an interesting and attractive lady. Men often turn their heads looking at you. People around you love and respect you. You feel like a special person and you have a job you love.
You are the creator in your life and you live on your own terms. There’re lots of achievements in your life and there’s something of which you can be really proud. You’re equally comfortable either being alone or spending time hanging out with others. You have a self-sufficient and integrated personality, and you are grateful for what exists in your life.
You don’t care what others think of you because you believe in yourself and you own your worth. Sometimes you feel so much for yourself! You should still read this book carefully and choose some interesting exercises to do though. You will get a lot of fun out of them!
You have taken the test and that let you learn a little more about yourself. It is necessary to take this test again after you have done the exercises from this book.
Perhaps, there is a rare person who is aware of and capable of admitting that they don’t love themselves. I tend to believe though that everyone agrees that they love themselves and can love others. The Bible says: “Love others as you love yourself”. Firstly, you need to learn how to love yourself. Only then can you really learn how to love, respect and understand others.
There was a speech during my high school graduation ceremony where a teacher having tried to say something nice about everyone, described me as “trouble free”. Only later did I realize the awkwardness of this phrase. I’ve spent a long life and have had my share of failed relationships, and I am in fact now a single mother to my daughter.
At the age of 35 I was tired of what was going on in my life and I started visiting a psychologist. It is very important to meet someone who can find the proper words to say and who can awaken your mind and soul. I didn’t love myself. It led me to not only a failed marriage, with endless affairs, but also led to me letting a man hit me.
My whole life I was afraid of offending others. I tried to be available for everyone else and to be the first person to offer support to others. Of course this is not a bad thing, but often times I felt uncomfortable and I was offended that no one came to rescue me as I felt I did for others. It was a life full of dissatisfaction and disappointment.
At the age of 40 I started to get to know myself. It turned out that I’d never really thought about what I liked and what brought me joy. I learned to say, “no”. I met a wonderful man. I still don’t like to offend people. My previous life helped me to understand people and my current life, and I can accept them without forgetting about myself too.
Today I build all the relationships based on self-love. It’s easier to think of my job as just a job, and to stop the selfish behavior of my teenage kid. My life has filled up with color. I accept my mood swings and know how to deal with them. Now, I am sure that I know, understand, and accept myself. I love myself!
Now, when you’ve realized the importance and necessity of self-love, it’s time to discover this topic deeper.Hereinafter you will find a program that consists of 50 ways to increase your self-esteem. It is designed for 4 weeks. Every week has its own goal. Simply follow the recommendations. Flip the page – it is time to start working on yourself.
In order to achieve the highest, final and irrevocable result, it is now necessary to focus on it. This can be achieved by writing a journal. Write down everything daily. Which exercises you have completed, how your self-image is changing and any interesting thoughts that come to your head, as well as any unexpected and pleasant outcomes.
Follow this recommendation for a month, and you’ll be pleasantly surprised by the changes in your life. Good luck on your journey to a new life!
AUTHOR’S NOTE: Buy a notebook for your self-observation journal.
The first week is dedicated to a preliminary evaluation of your attitude toward yourself, resentment clearing and changing of your habitual behavior in regard to yourself. This first week may be not easy. I don’t believe that you can start loving yourself in one moment. You have lived with self-rejection for 20, 30, 40, 50 years. That is why you will have to work hard on self-love.
Take a sheet of paper, a pen and a pair of scissors. In the middle of the sheet draw a girl (or a boy, if you’re a man who is reading this book) and write down, “this is me”. In the space around this small figure, write down everything that you think about yourself, your talents, and your body.
First, it’s very important to get rid of all the negativity. Look at what surrounds you. Think of your thoughts as magnetic, and ask yourself, “What kind of situations do I attract?”
To advance this tool, please cut a paper into four small pieces (not more) and write down every negative self-belief on each of them. As soon as you have a pile of the small notes, take them one by one, crumple them into a ball, and put them under your shirt.
What a feeling! This is what you do every day – you hurt yourself with your criticism and discontent. Spend a little time with the balls under your shirt, 3 – 4 hours and then throw them away. This exercise will also force you to treat yourself more carefully than before.
Maybe in the past you made some mistakes and you still feel guilty about it. Maybe you are still mad at yourself, you still criticize and blame yourself. Grievances against yourself – one of the reasons why you do not have self-love. It’s time to get rid of it. You will need several blank sheets of paper, a pen, handkerchiefs and a glass of water.
Think of a situation, which still makes you angry, and work through it using the following method.
1. When it happened, I felt…
Describe all of your feelings and emotions at that moment. Do not hold back, breathe deeply, if you want to cry, cry. If you feel angry, express it by beating a pillow.
2. Write down everything that you think about yourself; express all the negative feelings and emotions. Do not restrain yourself, express everything that you’ve been carrying inside and that prevents you from living a happy life.
3. When it happened, I decided about myself, about life, about people…
Such traumatic situations usually build walls and block us from anything in the future. Perhaps, you have decided that you are a bad girl who must be punished; this is why something bigger and better is not for you. Cry, if you need to.
4. Look at the situation from the position of your past; evaluate your motives, reasons for your behavior. Could you have acted differently? Look at yourself as a usual person, imperfect, and someone who is wrong from time to time.
5. Forgive yourself for the fact that for a long time you accused yourself and did not give yourself a chance to live in peace.
6. Write down what you are grateful for and why you love yourself.
When you complete this exercise, you can hug and even kiss, saying: “I am a smart girl!”
AUTHOR’S NOTE: Being resentful at yourself is one of the obstacles on the way to self-love. If you don’t work through your resentments it will be impossible to accept yourself. Have a very responsible approach to this exercise. I have all the faith in you, you will cope with it!
People with low self-esteem and lack of self-love often criticize themselves without a reason. Sometimes we don’t notice that we are used to it.
To do this exercise you will need a bracelet, which you can easily put on and take off yourself. Or, you can use any ring. You will need to put a bracelet (or a ring) on and completely focus on your thoughts. Once you hear your inner voice, which starts yelling at you, your task is to stop the negativity and you need to take it (bracelet or ring) off of one hand and put it on the other one.
This exercise aims to raise your self-awareness and shutdown your inner critic. The first time you do this exercise you will, most likely, change your bracelet frequently. But this is how you will turn your negative inner voice off! And to think, you’ve lived with it for years and years. Normally it takes up to 7 days to achieve this goal.
AUTHOR’S NOTE: In my opinion, self-love is a mental habit. You are just used to reacting to yourself in a certain way. This method will let you get rid of your usual attitude toward yourself. Many of my clients say that this exercise is the most effective one.
Your mother may have criticized you and that has contributed to your disliking yourself. You may not realize it, but your mom’s or dad’s voice still sounds in your head. With rare exceptions, mature people treat themselves as they were treated in their childhood by their parents.
It is time to banish a “bad mom” pattern out of your head. Here are her main features:
1. She scolds, criticizes and gets angry at you with or without reason.
2. She turns away from you when you did not meet her expectations and failed at something.
3. She notes your shortcomings and focuses on your weaknesses.
Your task is to change her habitual behavior. A scenario you took from your childhood hinders your ability to love yourself. First of all, you need to stop your inappropriate behavior. And replace it with a healthy and adequate one.
This is how you turn into your “good mom”. Here is what she does:
1. She accepts her kid as he/she is, even if he/she doesn’t meet her expectations.
2. She praises even small successes and encourages. She provides positive feedback, “Well, you have succeed at that, and now what do you want next? What else can you do differently?”
3. She emphasizes the strengths of the kid, the best of him/her.
Your task is to give enough love to yourself, to give everything that you’ve lacked in your childhood. It’s never too late to have a happy childhood!
AUTHOR’S NOTE: Our attitude toward ourselves is mainly affected by our parents. It is their words and actions that form how we perceive ourselves. You can probably still hear your mom’s or dad’s voice in your head. Just like your parents you demand big achievements from yourself and criticize yourself for failures. This exercise will let you become “a good mom” for yourself.
Start taking care of yourself, your health, your body and your nutrition. Imagine that you are your baby and your mom at the same time. When you bring a kitty at home, you don’t have such warm feelings at first. You feed it, take care of it and have regular check-ups. But after some time it becomes a true family member, without it you can’t imagine your life anymore.
So, start taking care of yourself and your self-love will grow, too.
Create the files on your computer and name them: “I do not like myself” and “My weaknesses.” In the first one include everything what you do not like about yourself, in the second one list your shortcomings. Save the files, and then move them to trash. The computer will ask you: “Are you sure you want to move the file “I do not like myself” into the recycle bin? Answer «Yes».
Do the same with the file “My weaknesses». Then go to the basket and click “Empty recycle bin.” Confirm your decision by clicking on the button “YES».
RESULTS OF THE WEEK: The first week has come to an end, you have already covered an important part of your journey. I promise that the second week will be much more pleasant. Describe in your diary your feelings and thoughts about the work you have accomplished. And be sure to thank yourself for the changes you have started.
I always felt like an ugly duckling, but everyone said to me: “What a lovely girl.” In response, I just hid from them. Being married with three children and loving them to death, I realized that I lacked something inside of me. Now I realize that I lacked self-love. And this caused all my problems.
Having joined Anastasia’s program, I started to grow this seed of self-love. Personally, I have had a lot of problems: I could not accept myself for who I am, I did not like my reflection in the mirror. Though, I have to admit, that still having given birth to three children, I have a great body, I am tall, I have long legs and big brown eyes. But then I thought that I was still that ugly duckling.
Probably, like all mothers, I was thinking only of my children and I was my last priority. At that time my feelings were disgusting, I do not even know how to convey it in words. Perhaps this was a feeling when you existed and at the same time you didn’t. I cried in the pillow all night long. I admit that the beginning was the most difficult, but the results exceeded all my expectations.
Yes, I can only say this: it’s necessary and important to love yourself. Self-love is a catalyst of your success in all spheres of life. Whoever you are, – a wife, mother, successful woman, or a housewife doesn’t matter if you do not love yourself. Believe me, I took this way, I know. Now I have a day that I dedicate only to me. And now I have a feeling of lightness and joy inside, these butterflies. I want to live, to create, and to love!
We are starting to work hard on your self-esteem. There is a very intense week ahead of you – twice as many tasks than what you had last week. But all of them are very pleasant. Some tasks will take 15 minutes to accomplish, others will require a little more time.
In a stationery store buy a large sheet of A1 size drawing paper and crayons. Print a photo which you feel good about. (with you in it) Carefully glue your photo in the center of the sheet, pour a cup of tea, grab some cookies, and let’s dig in.
Think about what you like about yourself: your strong character, big and small achievements, or your beautiful body. Write it all down using crayons or markers of different colors. Surround your photo with positive thoughts and feelings.
Hang the paper on a wall which you often pass by. Over time, you will be able to fill the entire sheet.
People around you and the things they do are a mere reflection of your attitude towards yourself. When was the last time you said words of gratitude to yourself? Do you think that you don’t deserve these words? This thought is groundless.
Surely, there are achievements in your life and you have overcome many difficulties. Write a letter of gratitude to yourself. You do not have to be remarkable to earn your own love to yourself. You deserve it only because you exist. Start with a phrase “I am thankful to myself for…”
Make a gratitude journal and every evening write down at least 3 things for which you thank yourself. What can you praise yourself about? Perhaps, you did something great, or you treated yourself with adoration, or decide not to be upset because of some small stuff. Cultivate a habit to be grateful to yourself. Let it become your daily routine.
If you’re keen on the esoteric and if you like to meditate, you will like this exercise. This meditation is better to do before going to sleep. Close your eyes and repeat it over and over again: “I am unconditionally loved”. If you want, you can associate this affirmation of love with any favorable image.
Look in the mirror and say to yourself: “I love you.” At this point, do not focus on your shortcomings. You can enhance this exercise with an additional phrase: “I love you. You’re the best “, or “I love you. You are the most beautiful». Complete this exercise daily for 5 minutes.
From that moment on, passing by all mirrors, say to yourself: “I love you”.
Remember all your achievements, starting from your early ages. Perhaps you were good at studying, and you had only A’s in school, or you received a prestigious degree, or you gave birth to two wonderful children. Write down everything that you consider as your big and small victories. In everyone’s life there is space for success, and you are not an exception. Be sure to write a list of at least 30 achievements, and your attitude toward yourself will necessarily change.
You will realize that you are not that bad as you used to think, and a “loser” is definitely not your name, you are a winner!
Remember and write down all the meaningful obstacles and challenges which you managed to overcome in your life. There’s definitely something for which you can be proud. Perhaps, there were challenging circumstances, but you were able to handle them. Be proud of yourself!
Allow yourself to be imperfect, allow yourself to make mistakes. From now on, as soon as you feel that you haven’t met your expectations, instead of criticizing yourself, say: “I allow myself to be imperfect. And I love myself the way I am». Complete this exercise for a week and you will no longer be engaged in unnecessary self-reflection.
If you are prone to save on yourself and to spend money on your children, or business, but you have forgotten when it was a last time when you spent some on yourself, start doing it. Spend at least a little every day. A woman who loves herself cannot save on herself. But I want to warn you – do not take debts and spend on your credit card in order to prove the power of self-love.
Spend only the amount of money that you can afford. Let it be small, but regular treatments.
Self-love does not imply a comparison of yourself with anyone. However, to improve your self-esteem, you can break this rule. Take a closer look at the people around you, especially women. Try to find at least 15 points, where you are better than anyone else.
You may have a great relationship with your parents or a beautiful face, you know a foreign language, you have long hair, a good education, you have traveled, or you are a great mom. At the beginning of the “resurrection from the ashes of your self-esteem,” you can use this technique.
In the future, it should be considered as taboo, as each person is unique, as is his or her life, too. Everyone is good at something, and it is very difficult to “win” everywhere.
Write down 30 compliments you’d like to hear about yourself. For example:
“Mademoiselle, there’s something mysteriously beautiful about you, and I cannot take my eyes off of you …”
“You have an aristocratic face, it needs to be sculpted.”
“Which dragon do I need to kill, to be worthy of such princess?»
“Excuse me, but what modeling agency do you represent?»
“If nature has ever created any perfect form, it’s yours!»
If you have any difficulties with this exercise, look for compliments on the Internet. Armed with a list of fine weighty phrases, stand in front of a mirror and looking in your eyes, start saying them to yourself. You may feel uncomfortable or it will make you laugh, but just keep doing it. Repeat this exercise daily. For such a beautiful woman like you compliments are never enough!
Imagine the life of a woman who loves herself. Imagine how she behaves herself, how she communicates with others, how she lives her life and what she would never do, no matter what circumstances she found herself in. And now imagine that this woman is you. How would your life change, if you loved yourself? Please make an action list with the sentences starting with “If I loved myself…”
For example, “If I loved myself, I’d never work on the weekends (I wouldn’t allow people to criticize me, I would stop skimping on myself, I would let this relationship go, etc)”. Your action list should consist of at least 30 points. Start living as if you love yourself already. And once you do, you will wake up in the morning with a sense of self-love.
AUTHOR’S NOTE: Approach this task very diligently. Everything you are going to write down is meant to make your life better and should be systematically implemented.
This is an exercise for anyone who likes the esoteric and likes dreaming. Sit back and imagine your future in which you love yourself.
Answer these questions:
What do I see when I already love myself?
What do I feel when I already love myself?
How do I look, when I love myself?
What do I do when I already love myself?
It is important to create an image of a self-loved woman.
Gradually this image will enter your life.
To get rid of the painful thoughts of your imperfection, complete the following exercise. For example, if you think you are stupid, ask yourself these four simple questions:
1. Is it true?
2. Do you know for sure? If you are stupid, then certainly, at school you had a lot of D’s, and you cannot really do anything. Or is there something that you are actually good at?
3. What do you do that shows that you believe in this thought? Remember how you behave when you think that you are stupid. For example, hesitate to express your thoughts aloud.
4. Who would you be if you knew it was not true? Surely you would not be afraid to defend your position in the dispute, to be more confident, start working on a career or apply for college.
Then make a sentence to the opposite, for example, tell yourself: “I’m smart!” Find three examples that confirm it. For example, you wrote excellent essays at school, read a difficult book and understood it or you could remember by heart the names of the all the countries’ capitals. Doing this exercise, you will come to the understanding that you are not nearly as stupid as you are used to thinking.
If you like the esoteric, affirmations are at your disposal. Use any of them by repeating them daily for 5 minutes. For the best results make it your morning ritual. Here they are:
I unconditionally love myself.
I am happy with who I am.
I accept myself completely with all of my heart.
I am aware of all my strengths and talents.
I attract loving people into my life. They reflect who I am.
Start listening to yourself. If you are used to forgetting your needs and desires, then it is time to act exactly the opposite. For a week become a naughty little girl. Often ask yourself the question: “What do I want now? What are my needs?”.
Of course, indulging your weaknesses should only be within reasonable limits. Allow yourself to be capricious, and even stomp your foot, saying: «I want it!»
You will need a few sheets of paper and a pen. It’s time to get to know yourself better. Write down 30 activities that you like to do. It can be anything from spending time with particular people to cooking or eating, or to your hobbies and even traveling. Write down everything that comes to your mind, don’t try to analyze it!
Having written 30 activities, write down 30 more, and 30 more. It would be great if you had a collection of 100 activities. “The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach,” and the way to a woman’s heart is through what she likes. And now implement on a daily basis in your life at least one of them.
The more you invest in yourself, the more you love yourself. We love what we care about, and what we pay attention to.
Just imagine your perfect date. Where would it be? How would you decide that it went perfect? What would you like to do? Once you truly enjoy your vision, I am suggesting that you have your perfect date with yourself. Yes, exactly! No need to wonder. A woman needs to learn how to have fun with herself.
And remember that the outer world is just a reflection of your self-image. Enjoy your time as you want. Perhaps, you will take yourself out to a restaurant. Or, you will sing yourself a romantic song, bring a huge rose bouquet, or even have a quiet and romantic dinner at home.
This exercise aims to improve your relationship with yourself. Not everyone, unfortunately, can say that they are in a deep and loving relationship with themselves. It’s time to create this sacred space!
It is stupid to demand success in areas which you do not have the capabilities. Hence, develop what you’re good at. Each person has natural talents and unique abilities. Opening something new in yourself, or doing something that you’ve never tried before, and you will marvel at yourself regularly, and your self-esteem will grow. Teach yourself, and you will have new opportunities to love yourself even more.
If you have a strong belief that you are a loser and success is not your thing, then start to move towards your goals. Celebrate your success every day, answering the same question: “What have I done today better than yesterday?” Be sure to complete this exercise, especially if the “loser label” does not allow you to live peacefully. It is important to start changing your attitude towards yourself. Upgrade your self-image with the help of achievements in two to three small projects.
Having succeeded in one thing, even a small thing, it’ll be much easier to implement larger projects. Start a new evening ritual – to write down every day 3 achievements of yours that day. The scale of these achievements does not matter.
RESULTS OF THE WEEK: This past week was really intense. I bet in the last 7 days you have felt love for yourself several times. Congratulations! You are half way through. However, there are new discoveries ahead of you. I believe in you! Well done!
Self-love has changed my life! I’m so happy for my curiosity and for having met Anastasia. Earlier I’d had no clue how important and necessary self-love is for everyone. Self-love affects every area of life: your life quality, people who surround you, work, career, home, finances, and your relationships.
Before I looked at other people, how they lived, what they did, and I could not understand why they were so happy and satisfied, and I, who was such a responsible and good girl, was unhappy. Before self-love, my life was like a submarine. In which direction did it move through the life?
Now I do not even want to remember. I often changed jobs, almost every year or two. Although I became a very good specialist, I did not understand this. My low level of self-love would not let me see who I was and for what I was worthy. There has always been something I didn’t like, and I always wanted to achieve something different.
Thanks to self-love, I changed my job as an accountant and became a florist. I always dreamt about it. And though it was not easy, I am glad that I have had such a great result, and I fulfilled my dream. Now I have learnt how to build harmonious relationships with others, and I am so happy about it. I do first what I like, what I want. But earlier it was so hard for me to separate my desires from the desires of my relatives, but their needs are not mine!
I am a completely different person, and I have “my own” desires and dreams! Previously, I tried to be like everyone, instead of being myself. I did not understand how great it is! Even when I looked at my own pictures, I did not like how I looked there.
I could tell very little about myself, I considered myself uninteresting and very ordinary. I was sure that I had nothing to tell, I did not see in myself anything unique. Now I’ve fully embraced my uniqueness. I am a charming and beautiful girl with a great body, beautiful legs, and a calm character. And at the same time I am quite active, cheerful, feminine, sympathetic, caring and kind. For me it is a great discovery.
And it’s amazing that I’ve met interesting people, it is very inspiring and encouraging. I would like to further develop myself and fulfill my dreams. Yet there was a discovery for me, that I had precisely the feminine qualities which are so necessary for us in life in order to feel and to be a woman. Simply, they were trapped, forgotten as unnecessary.
Everyone starts this dialogue with themselves when they are ready, and it’s never too late to love yourself! Cherish yourself, listen to yourself and make your desires come into reality!
This new week we are going to dedicate to acceptance of your appearance and body in general. I can say with certainty: “Acceptance of your outer shell has nothing to do with your physique.” You can be absolutely stunning but still see a lot of imperfections in yourself. Or you can be far from looking like a model but be very satisfied with your reflection in a mirror.
What do you think of your body? For your convenience, write your every thought down. Now imagine that your body is your only home, which you cannot replace. Or, it is your neighbor who never moves out, even if they annoy you. In your opinion, how comfortable is it for your body to live with a negative self-image? Is it going to meet your needs and desires such as a goal to lose weight? Or, perhaps, it’s often sick because no one loves and accepts it?
It needs your love, but it has no clue how to get it. Think about it!
Write a list of your body parts which you do not like for some reason. You might even avoid looking at them, and often hide them or cover them up. Describe them with love, as if it were your main masterpiece. «Oh, my wonderful legs, you’re so perfectly made as if you were created by a great sculptor. You are incredibly slim and fast, I look at you and think how beautiful you are».
A little bit of imagination and children’s humor will help you look at the unfavorable part of your body differently. It will be even better if your legs will be lovingly described by your partner. It’s always a pleasure to hear compliments from somebody else!
Begin to care about that part of your body that you currently do not like. Buy a scented cream for your unloved legs and chest, spoil yourself more often with a manicure for your “ugly” fingernails. The more we invest in something, the more we love it. Begin to take care of your rejected body parts, they deserve your attention.
Write down a list of 10 ways how you can bring joy into your body. The matter of self-love and accepting yourself applies not only to our mental, but also directly to our body. What has your body been waiting for? What makes it feel joy and pleasure? Massage? Spa treatments? Sauna experience? Physical activities?
Try to imagine that your body is an individual with its needs and desires, and try to hear its voice.
Using the word list below you will need to write an ode about your body. It can be prose, or it can be verse. Perhaps your partner will write an ode to your body.
You can choose any of the options below:
1. Tenderness. 2. Flame. 3. Night. 4. Tale. 5. Beauty. 6. Dream. 7. Sleep. 8. Velvet. 9. Beauty. 10. Flower. 11 The only one. 12. River.
The second option:
1. Waterfall. 2. Spark. 3. Sky. 4. Muse. 5. Bliss. 6. Captivated. 7. Lust. 8. Silk. 9. Sun. 10. Magic. 11. Ocean. 12. Treasure.
The third option:
1. Magic. 2. Queen. 3. Soft. 4. Joy. 5. The long-awaited. 6. Volcano. 7. Wave. 8. Sunset. 9. Award. 10. Dreams. 11. Wondrous. 12. Abyss.
The fourth option:
1. Desire. 2. Whirlpool. 3. Sweetness. 4. Freedom. 5. Sea. 6. Bliss. 7. Silk. 8. Surf. 9. Queen. 10. Gift. 11. Rainbow. 12. Lightning.
1. Alluring. 2. The one. 3. Star. 4. Magic. 5. Ocean. 6. Shine. 7. Rose. 8. Ray. 9. Excellent. 10. Love. 11. Madness. 12. Universe.
You can choose any words from the offered lists, if desired. Having written the ode to your body you will change your attitude for the better.
Try to change your style. Sometimes, there are objective reasons for not accepting your body. Perhaps, for some reason you have given up on yourself and do not pay enough attention to yourself. Weight loss, hiring a stylist, a new haircut and a dress will inevitably lead to an increase in your self-esteem.
Sometimes it’s easier than you think. All you need to do is to invest in yourself.
Write a letter to your body as if it were a completely separate entity. Express your feelings of gratitude, share how well in your opinion your body serves you in your life. Some women are not satisfied with the condition of their breasts after giving birth and breastfeeding, they do not even want to look at them. But does your body deserve this attitude?
Thank to breastfeeding, your kids have a healthy immune system. Also, breastfeeding has a positive effect on the formation of a psychologically healthy person. Think about it. Or take, for example, the legs. Do you think that they are thin and not straight, or full and straight as columns? And someone doesn’t have them at all, or perhaps they cannot use them to move…
Your body deserves gratitude, doesn’t it?
Sometimes people associate the causes of their failures with some traits of character, or parts of the body. For example: “If it weren’t for my nose, I would get married” or “If it wasn’t this extra weight, I would find a better job». It is not the parts of your body, fallen into disfavor that have caused the lack of any results in your life.
And try to imagine that your nose is perfect, and you finally have gained the ideal weight. How would you behave in this situation?
Make a professional photo shoot. People are not always able to objectively assess their appearance. It would be useful to see yourself from the outside. Pick 2-3 styles, go get your make-up done by a professional and hire a hairdresser. A professional photo-shoot is comparable to the results with a psychologist visit.
Photo-shoot is your beauty therapy!
Make a diary of a successful woman in which you will write down all the compliments received from men. This exercise will be helpful if you think that men do not notice you. You may have been for a long time an “ugly duckling” and missed the moment when you turned into a beautiful swan. Therefore, it is important to understand: you are beautiful and men like you.
Conduct a revision of your wardrobe; look closely at what is hanging in your closet. You can arrange a home fashion show and reevaluate everything. Keep only those clothes which you like yourself in, the ones that make you feel like a «star”.
Get rid of the rest without regret.
Begin to notice the beautiful traits of people. Try to find something beautiful in everyone: beautiful eyes, hair, or shoes, etc. “Beauty is in the eye of the beholder”. It is possible that you are tuned too critically towards you appearance and that of others. When you begin to notice the beauty around yourself, you will begin to notice the beauty in yourself, too.
RESULTS OF THE WEEK:Congratulations on the completion of the third week. If you are reading these words, you really do have your game face on. Otherwise you would have fallen out of the race already. I want to believe that you have started treating your body with more love. Your body will return the compliment.
For a few years I was in a deep depression. Despite the fact that external circumstances were good, there was a deep black hole in my heart, nothing made me happy. I was always surrounded by men, but I had no relationships – it seemed I would love no one and never get married. I already had a daughter, so the minimum plan was accomplished. I also had problems with finances.
Once, on one of the dull autumn days, as usual, sitting like a zombie in front of a laptop and surfing Facebook, I stumbled upon a record, something like «How to love yourself». I followed a link, signed up and then forgot about it. But there was something speaking to me – “this is what you need!” And I started to look for the link, an online class had already finished, and the recording was posted on the page. When I started to listen to it, you will not believe but all my insides responded to every word which the host Anastasia Zaloga uttered.
It was like thoughts were raging in my mind. My thoughts were organizing and acquiring a verbal form. And, most importantly, I finally heard the real answer to my question HOW! How to love myself! I was born again at that moment – there was so much energy in me! Then I joined her program. With utmost diligence I have done everything that Anastasia said, and my life began to change.
With every day my energy and desire to live, to work on myself and to create something began to rise. I went on a journey called “Self-Love.” Today I can say with a certainty: “I am a wonderful woman!” I am happy, self-confident, full of love and confident in the world. I can give love and feel comfortable receiving the gifts from the Universe more than ever before.
I am full of energy to share my creativity and make it come true. I met my life partner. I am happily married. Now I am a loving and caring wife, and, of course, loved by my spouse. I improved my relationships with my child, and I am proud to say “I am a good mother!” I have graduated from the University with honors. We have improved our living conditions.
With each passing day my wealth status gets better. My relationships with parents have become so warm, and my partner and I are expecting a baby. My life became so interesting; I sing when I wash the dishes, there’s a spring in my step and in my soul. When I thought, “It’s over”, it turned out that “Everything was just beginning!” If you love yourself, then you love the whole world!
There is the 4th final week ahead of you. For the last three weeks we have been directing our efforts to ourselves and didn’t interact with the world around. However, external circumstances, people and events affect our self-esteem. The new week will have a motto “Love of myself and those who surround me”.
Avoid people who lower your self-esteem and contribute to the development of an inferiority complex. There may be some people around you who criticize you regularly, say that you won’t succeed, insult you, and compare you with someone else. Here’s the question: Why do they need you? Do you really think that next to them you will feel like a queen?
There are two solutions to this problem: either to stop any interactions with them, if possible, or reduce it to a minimum. If you have to deal with such a person, let him/her know that you are not happy with his/her words and actions. Tell him/her about it straight: “I don’t like what you’re doing. Do not do this again, please».
Everyone has their own boundaries of what is permitted, their own value system. Perhaps, this kind of interaction with people for them is acceptable. Therefore, they believe that for others it is normal, too. And as long as you do not explain to them that they cannot behave this way, it will continue to reduce your self-esteem.
AUTHOR’S NOTE: You are a master of your life. Your goal is to create an atmosphere that would raise your self-esteem and not lower it.
Interview your others who are close to you about yourself.
Ask them to answer the following questions:
What would you lose if you’d never met me?
What do you like in me? / Why do you like me?
What makes me unique?
What are my strengths and talents?
You can ask these questions in person, or in another way. The answers will surprise you for sure.
You could be a qualified professional in your field but not appreciating yourself. At the same time your less professional colleagues make a lot more money. Analyze the cost of services in your field of work.
If you are not confident that you are professional, somebody else’s opinion will help. Talk to people you meet in business surroundings. Ask them: “What do you think about me as a specialist in my field?”
If the majority of them give positive characteristics, it is time to raise your price. Write down your monthly income or the cost of your service. And now multiply this number by 10.
Standing in front of a mirror and looking yourself in the eye, say: “I am a professional in the field of (your professional vocation), my work costs (your income times 10) a month (or one-time service).” For example: “I am a fashion designer, creating a dress costs 100 dollars (old price was 10 dollars).”
To begin with, you yourself need to believe in your higher price. This way it will be easier to persuade others. Your fear to raise prices for your work won’t just disappear, but even the courage to raise your prices 1.5-3 times will be an excellent result.
Everyone has certain limits of what is permitted, and what is allowed or not allowed to do in relation to him/her. However, not all people are able to defend their boundaries and respect the boundaries of others. First of all, you need to clearly define your boundaries. Create your Treatment Code (rules that regulate how people will treat you).
For example, you don’t allow others to use foul language when you’re by their side, you don’t like when others take your belongings or money without asking, when someone flirts with your husband or comes to your house uninvited. Try to recall the events of your life that have troubled you and made you think: “How come? Is it not clear that this cannot be done?»
Often people with low self-esteem are afraid to express their opinions and just pretend that nothing happened. While inside they are boiling with anger and ready to “strangle” trespassers. Understanding the boundaries differs and it depends on the education and experience. Therefore, create your own rules. If people do not respect them, tell them about it.
A list of 20 rules will become an excellent tool for understanding your boundaries.
Stop making excuses when you are praised, or denying your accomplishments, when you receive compliments. The psychology of people with low self-esteem is that when they hear something good about themselves, they immediately reject it. They do not believe what they are hear. They think that others want to take an advantage of them, so they deliberately flatter.
In their mindset the only truth is an underestimated opinion of themselves and they consider an acknowledgement as a lie. Therefore, when they are criticized and humiliated, it is perceived as a true opinion. When low self-esteem is supported from the outside, the person remains in the comfort zone. This zone looks more like a torture chamber, but this prison is of your own making. And what if all of a sudden you love yourself, will there be something wrong?!
No, of course not! Accept compliments, they are justified, and you have rightfully deserved them.
Invite your 3-4 friends or girlfriends and offer to them to complete this interesting exercise. Each of you has something that you would like to hear from your beloved ones: parents, partners and children. Write everything down on a sheet of paper, you can even share your expectations with your friends and make the list together. Blindfold one of you and sit somewhere comfortable.
Then everyone will come and say to her words that she’d like to hear. Of course, this exercise can not completely satisfy your need for love from others.
For this exercise you will need a few small sheets of paper, a pen and a trash can. In your life there must be those people who have lowered your self-esteem. Think of all the things that you have heard from them: you are ugly, stupid, or incompetent. Try to remember all the phrases you’ve been told.
Write each one down on a separate sheet of paper, crumple and throw it in the trash. To enhance this exercise you can verbalize what you want, and scold your abusers. It’s time to get rid of anything bad that you have heard about yourself.
If you tend to use unflattering nicknames for yourself, even jokingly, stop doing it. Do not call yourself a “bungler”, “fool”, “pig”, or «sheep”. Self-love is made up of little things. You deserve more pleasant nicknames. Come up with positive replacements.
Start saying «no» to these offers and requests which don’t follow your true desires. Perhaps, you have experienced it already: you said “yes” in situations where you didn’t want to agree at all! Then you blamed yourself and regretted your decisions.
Maybe, you are afraid of offending someone, or you look for somebody’s acceptance and love? If you practice saying “no” to anything you don’t like at least for a couple of days, it will let you get rid of the good girl image and make other people consider your opinions.
Be true to yourself. Start listening to your inner voice and pay attention to your real needs. Don’t be afraid to say no to somebody if you want to do something in a different way.
Buy a journal or notebook, stick your most successful pictures inside, invite your girlfriend and go on the hunt for compliments. Your task is to collect at least 50 compliments about yourself. You can approach any strangers and ask them for help with this exercise. Or do something much easier: tell to your friends through social networks about this exercise and ask for their help.
After 50 great compliments your self-esteem can not be the same. This exercise will allow you to take a fresh look at yourself; you will be more confident and will finally see your real beauty.
RESULTS OF THE WEEK: The 4th week has come to an end. And it means that we are finishing the main part of work. I am very proud of you and you can also be proud of yourself. I am sure that in the past month your attitude toward yourself has changed for the better. In your copy book write a letter of gratitude to yourself for this month of work. Remember the important moments on your way to self-love.
2012 was a difficult year for me. In February I married, in June I left my husband, and we got divorced in September. It was a great sorrow. Now, when I remember it, I cannot even imagine how I, a fragile girl at the age of 23, could have recovered from it. I cried all day and night. I did not eat anything. In the morning I woke up and thought: “Why wake up? It’s just another day of all the same…”
I could not believe it happened to me. I hated all men. But worse was the fact that I became ashamed of myself. After all, I was a “divorcee”. Since childhood I strived for success in all areas. For me a marriage was another step up. My partner was a great choice. Having divorced, I felt that I slid down the stairs of success. It was a blow.
My ex-husband has created some complexes in me. He said: “I am the king and god, you’re living by my side, be happy that I am so good to you. And you are really nothing». At first I listened to him, and then I was over it and left him. First of all, I dealt with my disappointments, because I felt their heaviness with my whole body.
Step by step I began to “come alive”, think less about my divorce and worry less. My first steps to self-love were inept and clumsy. Finally, I found my mission, and this is also with the help of Anastasia. After all, when you like what you do and are well paid for it then you start to appreciate, respect and love yourself.
Now I’m married to a wonderful man whom I’ve known for 9 years. He was afraid of a serious long distance relationship. And after another of Anastasia’s programs my man realized that he couldn’t live without me and moved to be with me from another country. I have my own business – an entertainment agency. I can afford shopping for expensive clothes and jewelry. I have my family who loves me very much.
And I’ve got my self-love and it’s great! I like this feeling of satisfaction from myself. Love yourself! It’s amazing!
You are about to do a couple of final exercises that were not a part of any of the previous weeks. I sincerely believe that they will be pleasant for you.
TIP 49. YOU DESERVE
Stop underestimating your expectations and desires. If you do not consider yourself worthy of something in your life, it will never happen. Write down a list of at least 30 sentences staring with “I am worthy …”. You can write whatever you want, you are the only limit. Begin to implement the mentioned actions in the list, and your relationship with yourself will again undergo a change for the better.
Now when you know about yourself a bit more, it’s time to introduce yourself. Imagine yourself as a talented marketer who seeks to sell a new product, and create a unique proposition. You already have a list of your accomplishments, talents, and strengths. It’s time to shape them. Your task is to promote yourself, for example:
“This gorgeous girl, Grace, has a prestigious, high degree, she is young and sexy, and she is a wife and mother of two children. She cooks so well, true culinary delights have come out of her hands. This lady is dances amazingly and she is a master of small talk. She is frequently asked for advice. Grace draws and photographs perfectly and her paintings and photos adorn her house. The warm atmosphere in her home was entirely her own doing».
When we see the ads on TV or visit the store, no one speaks about the disadvantages of any product. After the shop assistant’s presentation we understand that we cannot live without such a desired object. A couple of minutes later we run to the checkout and fill up our credit card, making a much needed purchase. Describe yourself as a product that you’d like to buy.
To do this, you already have the basics – a list of your talents and virtues.
So many things prevent us from loving ourselves – our complexes, resentments, and other people. All this accumulates. And you drive yourself into a corner thinking, “I’m bad». I used to think, how can people give ME compliments? I thought that people only tried to flatter me. If I failed, I got angry with myself and my mood fell. I had problems at work, and when I would quit, it was never pretty.
I started to think ”Why am I so worthless? How come? How am I going to live?” I ended up going nowhere in life. My life has changed and will no longer be the same. Since the autumn of 2012 I’ve been starting another life. My attitude towards myself, my family, work and society has changed. I found a job I like. Self-love is the base of everything. It is a platform on which everything is built. Anastasia has a unique method, which I’ve never met before.
I knew what I needed and how I could achieve it, but did not understand why I would not succeed. Anastasia said casually: “Maybe it is caused by a lack of self-love?” Then I started to complete all the tasks and realized that my life began to change the way I wanted. After a study of self-love, I pulled myself together and at one point realized that I wanted a better life.
I always had problems with a support system. No one will support you all day and night long – 24/7, 365 days a year. You are your own support. I completed all the exercises of the program. For 30 days, I kept a diary. I became a more open and confident person. Now, every morning starts with saying: “I love myself!” I did not think how important it is, how it charges you and prepares you for the day.
I am aware of my weaknesses, but I do not reproach myself for them. I just say that I will work on them. I will never say, “You’re bad, I will stop loving you because of your downsides». The most important thing is to accept yourself for who you are and be grateful for the fact that you are who you are. Self-love needs support. I take care of myself and listen to myself. Anastasia said, “Try to treat yourself as a caring mom.” It’s so cool!
I started to give myself gifts. It is very important for a person to understand who you are and what you want, and now I have understood this. I became confident in myself and my abilities. Everything’s going to be how I want. Criticism of others doesn’t hurt me any longer, I know who I am. How you treat yourself is also how you’ll treat your husband, relatives, and friends.
If you love yourself, your attitude will spread to the rest of your life. You will start to love life and everything around you. Everything you want will definitely come true. Your life depends on you only. You build it yourself. In your life you are your main asset. You have to understand that you are a unique person, there’s no-one like you. You can polish yourself endlessly. In essence we are all diamonds; you just need to discover it in yourself.
I am thanking you for this month. You have completed a colossal work. Self-love – the best thing that could have happened to you.So you’ve read the book until the end, and (as an author I still cherish this dream) completed all the exercises. So, you will meet with the irreversible changes in your life. Always remember that the outer world (life, people, and circumstances) is only a reflection of your inner reality. Your life changes depend only on you.
There’s no magic tool to change your life overnight. However, you can become your own magician, and begin to build life on your own terms.If you have read through the book and made no effort to implement anything described here into your life, do not be surprised that there are no results, start reading the book again. Those who took advantage of the proposed recommendations, I heartily congratulate you.
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How to love yourself
A 30-day program for a new life
I have a little present for you – a self-love diary. When my clients finish training, I try to create an atmosphere of support for them in order to reinforce their results. One of the tools is this bonus that you have received.You already have a notebook where you did the exercises.
Use the remaining pages to continue your work. Thereinafter you will find questions for everyday monitoring. Write these questions in your notebook. Every evening answer these questions in writing. This simple system will let you strengthen your results and make self-love irreversible in your life.
How often did you take your bracelet off of one hand and put it on the other one today?
How is the application of the idea “If I loved myself…” going?
From the list “I love…” today I did… (hands on exercise #4)
Did you manage to be “a good mom” for yourself?
Today I am grateful to myself for:
My achievements today:
Today I liked in myself:
Did you say that you loved yourself looking in a mirror?
What did you feel during everyday meditation “I am unconditionally loved?»
Did you manage to care for the unloved parts of your body?
Your impressions of this day. How is your attitude towards yourself changing? What do you feel?
See you soon!
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