Happiness is the Best Immune Booster
Published by Zarrine Flores at Shakespir
Copyright 2016 Zarrine Flores
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Table of Contents
Chapter 1 – How to be unhappy
Chapter 2 – How to be happy
Chapter 3 – Why happiness matters
Chapter 4 – Spreading happiness
About the Author
Chapter 1 – How to be unhappy
There are many reasons for unhappiness: health problems, financial difficulties, personal crisis, loss of a loved one, etc. Sadly, although life is now easier that it was a hundred years ago, we are generally less content than people who lived back then, although they had much less in terms of material possessions, the life was shorter and the work harder.
So why are we so unhappy today? Is it because we expect happiness as our birthright? Have we become too unrealistic in our search for bliss? Or could it be that something vital is missing in our lives and we try to fill that emptiness by hoarding material wealth, in search of which we waste time, energy and health?
The answer to this question is complex and difficult, but I think that the growing discontent with life boils down to a few simple facts.
- People no longer feel they belong – to a community, company or family.
Church used to be able to give a sense of community, but now members are dropping out in such numbers that many churches may have to close down or think of alternative ways of working with their congregations.
In search for work, we move around a lot and there’s no longer such a thing as company loyalty. And it works both ways – employer will only keep you as long as he can use you, and you will only stay until you’ve found a better-paid job. It’s every man for himself.
Everyone’s so busy, no one has time to stay in touch with family, let alone former neighbours or school friends, or maintain true friendships. We now know a lot of people, but they are usually just acquaintances, business partners or Facebook contacts.
Life in the fast lane does not allow us to stop and put down roots, nor do the people seem to want to do that. It’s as if globalization is turning everyone not into citizens of the world, as they would have us believe, but into people without a sense of belonging. And without a feeling that you are a part of something, loneliness gets deeper, depression is much more likely, we become more vulnerable at times of crisis and it becomes more difficult to find meaning in life.
- There’s too much negativity.
Times are not easy. News we get these days is usually bad. When you add to that that we are daily bombarded by often indiscriminate information from hundreds of TV channels, newspapers, magazines and internet, you realize that Ayurveda claim that we are what we read and watch, has a deeper meaning. What we watch we think about, and what we think about, we eventually turn into. That’s because such things (scenes, news, sounds) are drawn into our energy field and attract like to it.
The world is pretty messy at the moment. Slow economic growth, migrant crisis that threatens to reshape the world, global pollution, population explosion, climate change, natural catastrophies, international conflicts – the media thrive on bad news. One does need to be well-informed, but the state of the world is such that reading daily newspapers is becoming something to avoid.
However, there’s an even easier way of becoming unhappy, and that’s being around negative people, for unhappiness, just like happiness, is contagious.
Grumpy people who are “angry with life”, make it difficult for anyone in their vicinity to feel comfortable, let alone happy. This is not only because negativity is “catching”, but also because around so much bitterness and suppressed anger, one’s personal electromagnetic field of energy that extends all around the body and serves as a kind of a “shield”, protecting us from negative “attacks“ which we all encounter from time to time, is easily penetrated. These attacks on our ego may come as open hostility, or as sarcastic remarks that have a put-down effect. In other words, if someone repeatedly says things that insult or embarrass you, they are obviously, sometimes unknowingly, trying to undermine you or “put you in your place”.
We often don’t understand why we feel uncomfortable around certain people and force ourselves (or are forced by society) to be more sympathetic, kind and accepting of them. However, on this one, trust your instinct. Stay away from those who drain you of energy or in whose company you feel ill-at-ease, even if you’re not sure why.
- More and more people live in concrete jungles although everyone knows that the lack of natural light and greenery is directly linked to our sense of wellbeing, so much so, that hospitals now try to have their windows face a park or any kind of green space. Experience has shown that recovery is faster if there is even minimal visual contact with natural environment. It is believed that exposure to natural scenes, even just paintings or photos of landscape, refocuses the attention of patients, reducing stress and hastening healing.
The world has never been this crowded and people no longer have space to be. As more and more people move into cities, in some parts of the world the overcrowding is becoming a serious problem. Fortunately, awareness of the effect that green spaces have on our physical and even more on our mental health is growing and authorities and many employers try to incorporate green features into the environment.
We also absorb a lot of negativity from EMFs (electro-magnetic frequencies) which are all around us. The reason they are so dangerous is that they are invisible and not easily recognized as unsafe, but they definitely interfere with our immune system. The main sources of EMFs are electric appliances, IT equipment, microwave ovens, power lines, wireless communication, and particularly laptops. In other words, everything we surround ourselves with and things we no longer can live without.
EMF radiation contributes to increased stress levels and if we can’t live without these appliances, or if we can’t get ourselves to use them wisely (unplugging them when not in use, not carrying them too close to our body, etc) we should at least try to decontaminate ourselves by being outdoors as often and, for as long, as possible.
- Staying in the job you hate.
In a grim economic situation people are unlikely to leave a job, even if they are unhappy, but we should also consider the emotional price of staying in a job we are not appreciated in or where we know we’d reached the plateau. By quitting when we know, or feel, that no amount of hard work will bring a promotion, we are preventing unnecessary stress and maybe even a burnout, that remaining with an ungrateful employer, or in an environment that’s undermining our self-respect, could bring.
- Staying in a dead-end relationship.
So many people force themselves to remain in relationships that they know have no future. There are many reasons couples stick to a loveless life – fear of loneliness, being financially dependent, children, prevailing attitude in society, etc. Divorce is never easy, especially if there are children, but a loveless, miserable marriage is the worst thing you can do to yourself. Although it seems most women struggle financially after a divorce, at least you are giving yourself a chance to be happy again.
- Growing chaos in the world.
Despite all the technological advancement we face constant threat of total annihilation from nuclear warfare. If you add to that spreading poverty, crime and violence, and general breakdown of society, it’s obvious why it’s not easy feeling happy these days.
Most depressing of all is that people seem to matter less and less. Countries seems not to be run by elected governments, but rather by big corporations, media moguls, trade organizations and bankers. That’s why it’s not surprising that popular discontent has grown and trust in governments has declined, as the world becomes more violent, more unjust and more dangerous.
However, although it may not seem so at first, the key to our happiness is in our hands. No matter how disempowered, poor, lonely or vulnerable we may feel at times, we always have a choice in life, and the trick is to choose well.
For many people life is not a bed of roses, but as Caroline Myss so beautifully put it: ”The trick of happiness in life is to learn to row the boat you’ve been given”.
Chapter 2 – How to be happy
For a start, find what “turns you on” and then do it as often as you can. Doing things we enjoy or being with people we feel good around, makes a big difference in our life because we recharge our batteries that way.
Try to live the life that suits you. We are all different and not everyone is physically, mentally or emotionally cut to be successful. But then, what is success? Everyone decides for themselves.
Choose a career that match your personality, or even better, do something you feel passionate about. Don’t work yourself into the ground just to be rich. There’s nothing wrong with money, and we know it’s impossible to live without it, but a job should also give us pleasure. Some jobs do bring a lot of money, but it usually comes at a price. Prolonged stress and busy lifestyle eventually kill all the joy and energy we might have initially put in our career.
Life is not easy. Never has been. Still, there is so much to be grateful for. Why, then, do people moan so much?
Many people believe they have nothing to be grateful for, although they can quickly come up with a long list of things they are NOT happy with. On days when I feel low, I always encourage myself to think of a few things I should be grateful for on that particular day. At first, it was hard to think of even a single thing, but, once I trained myself to look at life from a different angle, my gratitude list became much longer than my “sadness” list.
We all have something to be grateful for, although it often doesn’t seem so. Don’t wait to lose it to become aware of it.
To be grateful, deep down, you have to be content with yourself. Try this:
1. Choose what you read and watch; if you can’t give up watching TV, reduce TV time to two hours a day.
2. Stay away from people who, for whatever reason, make you feel uncomfortable.
3. Spend as much time outdoors as you can.
4. Don’t neglect yourself, adopt a healthy lifestyle.
5. Take up a hobby.
6. Quit the job you hate.
7. Do yourself a favour and get out of a dead-end relationship.
8. Try to figure out what you want in life; it’s never too late to start.
9. Get out and try to meet like-minded people.
10. Count your blessings
Chapter 3 – Why happiness matters
Happy people seem to know the trick of finding meaning in life. Having a positive attitude, they convey a sense of fulfillment and satisfaction, and a strong belief that eventually, everything will turn out well. Scientific research confirm that positive thoughts can even initiate such changes in a body that strengthen the immune system and even decrease pain.
Because their immune system is strong, their health is usually good and they heal easily in case of an illness. They also seem to be less affected by everyday stressors, which is why they seem to be generally healthier than others. It’s not that they are not under stress, everyone is, it’s how they react to it that makes the difference.
Happy people are good company. And, being nice to be around, they are much less likely to be lonely. This is important because we know that stress and loneliness affect our immune system and our ability to fight disease.
So, it’s pretty obvious that the way we see the world could affect everything from our risk of heart disease to progression of conditions such as autoimmune disorders or even cancer. Therefore, it really pays to try and be positive, relaxed and cheerful.
Chapter 4 – Spreading happiness
Happiness is all about positive attitude and gratitude, but also about sharing. Here are a few suggestions how to increase your chances of being happy:
• Volunteer whenever you can. You will meet like-mined people and feel good about yourself. That in itself is enough to make anyone feel happy.
• Count your blessings. You probably don’t realize that you are luckier than many.
• Be positive. Times are tough, but things can always get worse.
• Life is not easy. Happiness has to be worked on.
• Have a dream. Have a plan. Then go for it.
And finally, remember that nothing lasts forever. Tough times have to be lived through. But when life goes well, enjoy every minute of it!
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About the Author
Zarrine Flores is a free-lance consultant, translator, nature lover, environmental activist.
She’s passionate about healthy living, Eastern philosophies and alternative methods of healing. A life-long vegetarian, she enjoys great outdoors, writing and photography.
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Energy Thieves, Energy Shields
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These wise words came from my vet, but, over the years I came to realize that they apply even more to humans than they do to pets. Although happiness means different things to different people, we all want it. But, happiness is not our birthright. We have to search for happiness, think of ways to lure it into our life, maybe even fight for it. And if we are lucky enough to find it, we must always remember that it is like a delicate flower – it needs to be nurtured in order to last. Philosophers have pondered about the idea of happiness for ages, and the more I think about it the more I feel that being happy is an art. And the true masters of happiness are those who not only manage to be happy despite the challenges that life presents, but also try to spread happiness around.