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Purpose. Some believe it’s real while others do not. Just because you can’t see something though, that doesn’t make it fake. You can’t see your brain right now, so does that mean you don’t have one? Purpose is real and we’ve each been assigned a specific purpose unique to us. Finding your purpose is the only way for you to ever find real happiness on this Earth, I believe. As humans we are made to produce and to achieve, so without doing anything meaningful with our lives we will never be truly happy. Why do you think people that work a 9 to 5 are so miserable? Some of them enjoy their jobs, don’t get me wrong, but the majority of them hate it. You must do something with your life that you love, that you’re passionate about, that you’re good at. You must do what you’ve been purposed to do. Our time here on Earth doesn’t last forever, despite the fact that people act like it does. So don’t waste the time you have, don’t waste your life. I want to help you which is why I wrote “Finding Purpose.” It’s not lengthy at all, it’s not some complex step by step system for you to find what you’re meant to do. I’m not promising that you’re going to read this and all of sudden out of nowhere you found your calling, in fact, I’m saying that that is most likely not going to happen. This is simply a guide, useful information, and wisdom to help you.
The Glass House
When we are born, we are born into glass houses. (Think about it, you may know where I’m going with this). Society has already assigned expectations to us. Go to school k-12, graduate high school, go to college or trade school, get a job, get married, buy a house, have kids, and pay bills until you die. That’s something I’m sure you have heard before and it’s the truth. This is an expectation that is placed on us from the day we enter this world. Don’t get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with building a family, I want one as well. There is nothing wrong with going to school and buying a home. We all need somewhere to live, right? All I’m saying is don’t live your life as the average person. If these things that I listed are your dreams then by all means go for it and be the best you can be. The issue is most people just stay inside this glass house of expectation and they never break out. It’s a world of uncertainty sometimes when you’re on the outside, but it leads to a more fulfilling life. Break down the walls and go towards what you really want to do. Glass isn’t hard to break, but when you shatter the glass it is going to make a noise that attracts people’s attention. People are going to judge you and mock you, there’s no denying that so don’t be surprised when it happens. It’s only because they can’t see your vision. They don’t know why you’re doing what you’re doing. They don’t understand why you’re so much different than everyone else. You’ll get those weird looks. You will have to learn to live with that. That can’t stop you though. No one is stopping you but you. Breaking the glass is something you are going to have to do if you really want to live out the purpose that has been given to you. Step out and feel the freedom that comes along with it.
You may have heard successful people tell you how they made it and it sounded easy, I hate to break it to you, but it’s far from it. In the process of finding out what you’ve been placed on this Earth to do. In fact, before you even begin to believe in yourself and realize there is more for you, you will face pain. There is always some hurts along the way. “It hurts,” is something I think we’ve all said to ourselves before and I’m not referring to physical pain when you bite your tongue or running in the corner of a table and feeling like you’ve been shot. This is internal pain. I remember laying on my bed in complete darkness and I’m not referring to the lights. I allowed other people to hold the key to my happiness and it ended up breaking me when they walked away. I was depressed. I didn’t sleep, maybe a few hours a night. I ate very little, I didn’t have an appetite. I can’t put into words the pain that was running through me and I laid there in my bed praying harder than I’ve ever prayed before. I repeated multiple times, “This hurts.” Let me tell you one thing. When people walk away from you, let them walk. They are not tied to you, but that is a whole other lesson. As for my hurts, I wish I would have known then where that pain would take me. The storms that life brings are not just simply to bring you pain, but to put you through a pain that will force you to grow. These are the good hurts. I thank God every day for them. But, Terry why would you thank God for allowing you to go through such heart wrenching pain? Because those hurts killed the boy in me and made the man arise. For those of you that don’t understand why God would allow these things to happen to us, let me inform you on the history of the golf ball. Yes, you read that right. I believe golf balls are one of the most divinely inspired objects. When gold balls were first created they were smooth, they did not have the dimples in them like they do today. When the smooth balls were continuously hit, dents would be formed in them and the ball was no longer the smooth ball that it originally was. People began to realize that the more dents and bruises that the golf ball had, the farther it traveled. God is allowing you to get beat up a little, He’s allowing you to take some hits and get some bruises because he knows they will take you farther than you’ve ever gone before. He doesn’t want you to stay where you are, He has bigger plans for you. He has secrets for you, He wants to tell you who you really are. He wants to show you the kind of pain you really can endure. He wants you to know that you’re much stronger than you think. The good hurts are the painful experiences that propel us. Through them, you’ll find your passion but that is if and only if, you fight and claim your victory.
I told you about the pain you’ll feel throughout life and to get out of those dark situations, you will have to do something. The day that I found my purpose and decided to change my life, I drilled this one thing into my head. No matter what you go through, no matter how many times you fail, no matter what, you have to keep going. You have to push through all the difficulties and the pain. The roadblocks that are placed in front of you are going to force you to think and learn how to keep moving forward and get around them. Through this fight you will fail at some things but understand that failure is inevitable. You may fail but that does not make you a failure, what makes you a failure is when you give up. I know what you’re saying, what does this have to do with finding my purpose? If you give up now, you won’t ever find it. I found mine because I was in the darkest time of my life and I was tired of living that way. I kept fighting and fighting. You need to have that mindset that nothing can stop you, that you won’t be defeated. Some of you have given up on your dreams because life knocked you down. Now you just blame it on what happened and the fact of the matter, you can’t blame anyone or anything but yourself. Your opposition was fighting but you gave it the power to win. Defeat is optional, it’s not up to anyone other than you. Don’t give up, don’t give in. Fight on.
One question that we are always asked from the time we are young up until we figure out what we want to do with our lives is, “What do you want to be when you grow up?” When you’re young that’s such an easy question to answer. You also change your answer every time you’re asked, but there is nothing wrong with that. You’re a child, you don’t yet know the person you’ll become. When I was younger I wanted to be a cop for the longest time and I was so interested in everything that had to do with them. That quickly changed to wanting to be a firefighter and although that didn’t last long it intrigued me when I looked back on it. I’ll explain more about that later. What I’m getting at is we spend years trying to figure out what we want to be because that’s what we’re taught. I’m currently attending college and the majority of my peers still have no idea where they are headed. Why is this? All this time everyone asked what we wanted to be, but no one ever taught us how to figure it out. Let me ask you something. If you were to come across an object, a vacuum for example (you could insert any object), and you had no idea what it was used for. I’m sure you all know what a vacuum is and what it does but just imagine for a moment that you don’t. Imagine if you didn’t even know the name of it. You just came across this thing and were utterly confused. How would you figure out what it was? You could play around with it and try to figure it out yourself, but you ultimately you get nowhere. This forces you to research and ask around. You could contact the creator of it somehow or ask someone who heard about it from the creator. Someway, somehow you are going to have to talk to someone who heard it from the one that created it. The creator ultimately is going to be the one that informs you on its purpose. This is the same with your life. You can try different things and see what interests you, but in the end you will not figure it out if you don’t get in touch with your creator. You were knit together by the very creator of the universe and if you think for a second he didn’t design you with purpose you are fooling yourself. Get in touch and stay in touch with your creator and soon you will find your passion and your purpose.
In the section “Finding Purpose” I told you how I was intrigued by my switch from wanting to be a cop to a firefighter and that I would explain to you why that was interesting to me. That time is now. What do the police and firefighters have in common? Their main job is to serve the people and save lives. This will all add up I promise, just keep reading. After I grew a little older, I got to 5th grade when I began playing football. I fell in love with football and wanted to be the best. I began dreaming about the day I would play in the NFL just as all kids do growing up. Everyone wants to play professional sports, but only 1% actually make it. I was so motivated to get better mentally and physically. I wanted to get mentally strong and smart when it came to the playbook. Physically, I wanted to get bigger, faster, stronger, and be in better shape overall. I imagined myself getting to the point eventually where I was the team leader and I was giving our pre-game speeches. I was basically going to be the next Ray Lewis. I played for many more years and all of sudden in 11 th grade, after a knee injury I just lost interest. Not in the sport, I still love the game of football and wouldn’t turn down a game to play at the field with some friends, but I didn’t have the desire to play for an organized team anymore. That would end up being my last year and through all of that, I look back and all I see is destiny clues. A little while after that is where I came to the point when depression smacked me in the face and through that I started a blog that would encourage and help others. My purpose is to serve. I want to motivate, inspire, empower, and encourage others through my words, my actions, and overall how I live. I want to touch your pulse and change your life. So what’s my point? I started out with wanting careers that were going to involve me serving people and saving lives. I moved on to a sport that involved high levels of motivation and I wanted to motivate my team. I could go on and on about all the clues I got looking back through my life, but this is just to help you understand. The things I thought I wanted are not actually what I wanted or what I was purposed for, but the concepts behind them are what I’m purposed for. The concepts behind them are what I’m living for. There are clues throughout your life of what your destiny is but you won’t understand and be able to see them until you receive your vision.
What Can I Do?
I told you a few things that you could do to help you find your purpose. Get in touch with your creator, etc. There is one more thing though. This is going to involve some thinking on your own. You may need a pen and paper to write down your thoughts, but that’s your decision. Now, I want you to think of something that really makes you angry. What really gets you going? What gets you fired up? What are you passionate about? After that, think of something that you are good at. This could be something that you think you’re good at or something that somebody else thinks you’re good at. This could be anything from writing, to singing, to fixing cars. It’s basically a wide range of anything. What are you good at? Now I know I’m only in the process and have yet to be established, but I want to share with you my example. I am passionate about people and the way they think and behave. I can’t stand when people are fake, disrespectful, lazy, and don’t care about anything. It fires me up when people are negative about everything. I own a clothing brand (The Undefeated) designed to encourage people and empower them. I have also been told so many times that I should be a motivational speaker or a life coach. People have told me time after time how I have encouraged them beyond what they could explain to me. I say this all humbly. Put this all together and you end up with my purpose. Encouraging and empowering others in a variety of ways. I want to help people change their lives and realize what their calling is. No one was made to do nothing. I encourage you to seek out what you were meant to do and don’t give up on figuring it out. It will be revealed to you when you’re ready.
Your life is meant for more than what you have been doing up to this point. There is greatness inside of you and I want you to recognize it. It’s time to stop pitying yourself because that will only destroy you. It’s time to stop doubting yourself because that will only hinder you from moving forward. A lot of you are unsure of what you are destined for, but let me help you. The things you are passionate about are not your passions by accident. There is a reason for that. Do you remember reading about how I had a passion about football, etc.? It’s not what I am going to be doing for the rest of my life, but by chasing my passions I have been lead to this point. Football is the reason I ever stepped into a weight room and now fitness is a huge part of my life as well. So, whatever it is that really excites you, go for it. Maybe that’s not your ending, but only your destiny clue. That’s okay. Chase whatever your dreams are at the current moment, fight through all the obstacles and all the pain. Don’t ever forget to take the time out of everyday to get in touch with your spirit. Lastly, stop looking at yourself as just another average person, believe you are better. You are. All of this will take you far beyond where you ever imagined going. I love you all and I’m here you. I will leave some of the ways to contact me in the end of this eBook. God Bless you.