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Confidence Is The New Sexy

Before I even go into detail, let me give you a heads up. I might randomly bounce from one thought to another, but it’s all for a good reason – to get my point across. So bare with me! Oh, and one more thing. I’m gonna need you to trust me. The suggestions given in this book were performed by me to help with my low self-esteem and also assist me in boosting my confidence. In addition, the problems stated in this book were also experienced by me… So I know how you’re probably feeling, but just know that it CAN be fixed. Even if you’re already a confident person, applying these tips and suggestions to your daily life may boost your confidence even more (even if you don’t need it, keeping it in mind doesn’t hurt!). Now on to the good stuff. Confidence is being able to live life knowing your self worth, which is a blessing. So many people have went their entire lives looking for comfort in all the wrong places just because they did not feel comfortable in their own skin. They would often ask themselves: “Am I attractive enough?” “What if they don’t like me?”

Understand that “they” don’t really matter.

Sorry if I sound harsh, but anyone’s thoughts and opinions that isn’t your own is irrelevant. What some people fail to realize is that everyone is unique in their own way. In addition, the most fascinating thing about being unique is that there is only one of you and that’s what makes you one of a kind! So own it, my friend. Own it with pride.

Inhale confidence. Exhale doubt. Studies show that when you are confident about not only your appearance, but also confident about everything you do as well as everything you put your mind to, stress levels dramatically decrease. Let that marinate.

Admit it (admitting to your issues actually increases your chances of making thorough transitions). You have came across some moments in your life where you were super confident – behind closed doors. You were probably afraid to let people acknowledge it because you were too concerned about what they might say. Let’s face it. People are going to talk, and that’s something we all have to live with. But who said you had to care about what they say and think?

No one! =)

You only live life once, so live it to the fullest! No one can live it for you, and you owe it to yourself. Life is what you make it, isn't it ????????

Of course it is. Surround yourself with positivity. Positive minded people. People you can actually learn something from. Fun people! Distance yourself from anyone that seems to create negativity, bad vibes, or just drain your energy. Too much negativity seems to rub off on you after a while, trust me. I’ve been through it enough before I finally took it upon myself after some years to get my “groove” back.

Before I even go into detail, let me give you a heads up. I might randomly bounce from one thought to another, but it’s all for a good reason – to get my point across. So bare with me! Oh, and one more thing. I’m gonna need you to trust me. The suggestions given in this book were performed by me to help with my low self-esteem and also assist me in boosting my confidence. In addition, the problems stated in this book were also experienced by me… So I know how you’re probably feeling, but just know that it CAN be fixed. Even if you’re already a confident person, applying these tips and suggestions to your daily life may boost your confidence even more (even if you don’t need it, keeping it in mind doesn’t hurt!). Now on to the good stuff. Confidence is being able to live life knowing your self worth, which is a blessing. So many people have went their entire lives looking for comfort in all the wrong places just because they did not feel comfortable in their own skin. They would often ask themselves: “Am I attractive enough?” “What if they don’t like me?”

Understand that “they” don’t really matter.

Sorry if I sound harsh, but anyone’s thoughts and opinions that isn’t your own is irrelevant. What some people fail to realize is that everyone is unique in their own way. In addition, the most fascinating thing about being unique is that there is only one of you and that’s what makes you one of a kind! So own it, my friend. Own it with pride.

Inhale confidence. Exhale doubt. Studies show that when you are confident about not only your appearance, but also confident about everything you do as well as everything you put your mind to, stress levels dramatically decrease. Let that marinate.

Admit it (admitting to your issues actually increases your chances of making thorough transitions). You have came across some moments in your life where you were super confident – behind closed doors. You were probably afraid to let people acknowledge it because you were too concerned about what they might say. Let’s face it. People are going to talk, and that’s something we all have to live with. But who said you had to care about what they say and think?

No one! =)

You only live life once, so live it to the fullest! No one can live it for you, and you owe it to yourself. Life is what you make it, isn't it ????????

Of course it is. Surround yourself with positivity. Positive minded people. People you can actually learn something from. Fun people! Distance yourself from anyone that seems to create negativity, bad vibes, or just drain your energy. Too much negativity seems to rub off on you after a while, trust me. I’ve been through it enough before I finally took it upon myself after some years to get my “groove” back.

Never underestimate your strength, and never overestimate your weakness.

Get a journal. Make a list of things you feel unsure or a little iffy about. This list can consist of anything. Past experiences, events that changed your life… Basically things that seems to be blocking your confidence from increasing. Look at that list. Always remember that there is room for change. Improvements. Transitioning. Always. It’s NEVER too early nor too late to make changes to that list. The reason for making this list is to eventually eliminate the list, one thing at a time, to keep up with your progress and constantly remind yourself that you’re capable of doing more than you think. At the top of that list, don’t write “weaknesses”, but put “growth areas”, in big letters. Why did I choose growth areas? Simple. Because you are always capable of growing.

Confidence is something like a muscle. The more you use it, the stronger it gets.

Find it in yourself to activate that confidence. You’ve came so far in life without knowing the amount of confidence that’s waiting to explode. Test yourself. Let it come naturally. Show yourself that you are as good as anyone else. What are you afraid of? Society? Let me get one thing clear. Society doesn’t dictate a damn thing about you, not even your reality. However, society can affect you only if you allow it to. That’s when your strength comes in. Give it your all. Think of this as your guide to winning the lottery, or even your guide to being happier than you probably are now. Didn’t you know that in order to be happy you have to be happy within yourself? If you don’t believe in yourself, how the hell do you expect someone else to believe in you?

Think about it. And while you’re thinking about that, go back to your journal. Turn to a new page. Time to add two lists to your “Growth Areas” list. This list is going to consist of actions you are going to take to work towards turning your growth areas into strengths – but we’re going to put a little twist to these lists you’re making.

Are you ready for the twist?

Never underestimate your strength, and never overestimate your weakness.

Get a journal. Make a list of things you feel unsure or a little iffy about. This list can consist of anything. Past experiences, events that changed your life… Basically things that seems to be blocking your confidence from increasing. Look at that list. Always remember that there is room for change. Improvements. Transitioning. Always. It’s NEVER too early nor too late to make changes to that list. The reason for making this list is to eventually eliminate the list, one thing at a time, to keep up with your progress and constantly remind yourself that you’re capable of doing more than you think. At the top of that list, don’t write “weaknesses”, but put “growth areas”, in big letters. Why did I choose growth areas? Simple. Because you are always capable of growing.

Confidence is something like a muscle. The more you use it, the stronger it gets.

Find it in yourself to activate that confidence. You’ve came so far in life without knowing the amount of confidence that’s waiting to explode. Test yourself. Let it come naturally. Show yourself that you are as good as anyone else. What are you afraid of? Society? Let me get one thing clear. Society doesn’t dictate a damn thing about you, not even your reality. However, society can affect you only if you allow it to. That’s when your strength comes in. Give it your all. Think of this as your guide to winning the lottery, or even your guide to being happier than you probably are now. Didn’t you know that in order to be happy you have to be happy within yourself? If you don’t believe in yourself, how the hell do you expect someone else to believe in you?

Think about it. And while you’re thinking about that, go back to your journal. Turn to a new page. Time to add two lists to your “Growth Areas” list. This list is going to consist of actions you are going to take to work towards turning your growth areas into strengths – but we’re going to put a little twist to these lists you’re making.

Are you ready for the twist?

This first list is going to be called “Guide To Growth: Short-Term”. This list is going to be short-term actions that will help you begin the process in turning your growth areas into strengths. The second list is going to be called “Guide To Growth: Long-Term”. This list is going to consist of long-term actions that will help you maintain those strengths so they don’t fall onto the “Growth Areas” list again. Make sure each action from each list is connected to each issue on your “Growth Areas” list. What if a strength happens to fall onto the “Growth Areas” list again? Well, that’s when you turn to your “Guide To Growth” lists. Keep in mind that you have to be consistent when it comes to making an attempt to make yourself stronger. And one other thing: In order to change, you have to want change for yourself as much as I want it for you. Seriously.

There are always two voices sounding in our ears: The voice of fear and the voice of confidence. One is the clamor of the senses and the other is the whispering of the higher self.

Fear gets the best of us at some point in life, but the only way changes can be made towards it is by doing what we’re afraid to do (Nothing illegal though. Don’t be ridiculous!). You probably fear the consequence more, or maybe the long-term affect it might cause… But what if you stressed things just a little less? It’ll make a huge difference. However, these transitions don’t happen overnight. Be patient! It’ll ALL be worth it.

I am clothed in strength and dignity, and I laugh without fear of the future.

Say it out loud:

Makes you feel a lot better don’t it? Now, all I need you to do is believe it. Like really believe it and apply it to your daily activities, which will then become a normal part of life without you even realizing it. You’ll suddenly begin to feel more energized, positive minded, and actually have a greater outlook on life and the things it has to offer. What’s more exciting than having the desire to live life and explore?! It’s not like this isn’t true. It’s already stored in you, you just need to activate it – and that’s what you’re going to do. Random thought – you’re probably wondering why there aren’t really chapters in this book. I just wanted to take things out of the ordinary and go out of my comfort zone a bit – which is also a part of boosting self-esteem as well as confidence. Trying new things often require you to go out of your comfort zone. What is more awesome than challenging yourself to new measures?! Never be afraid to challenge yourself. NEVER!

Fall seven times, stand up eight.

This first list is going to be called “Guide To Growth: Short-Term”. This list is going to be short-term actions that will help you begin the process in turning your growth areas into strengths. The second list is going to be called “Guide To Growth: Long-Term”. This list is going to consist of long-term actions that will help you maintain those strengths so they don’t fall onto the “Growth Areas” list again. Make sure each action from each list is connected to each issue on your “Growth Areas” list. What if a strength happens to fall onto the “Growth Areas” list again? Well, that’s when you turn to your “Guide To Growth” lists. Keep in mind that you have to be consistent when it comes to making an attempt to make yourself stronger. And one other thing: In order to change, you have to want change for yourself as much as I want it for you. Seriously.

There are always two voices sounding in our ears: The voice of fear and the voice of confidence. One is the clamor of the senses and the other is the whispering of the higher self.

Fear gets the best of us at some point in life, but the only way changes can be made towards it is by doing what we’re afraid to do (Nothing illegal though. Don’t be ridiculous!). You probably fear the consequence more, or maybe the long-term affect it might cause… But what if you stressed things just a little less? It’ll make a huge difference. However, these transitions don’t happen overnight. Be patient! It’ll ALL be worth it.

I am clothed in strength and dignity, and I laugh without fear of the future.

Say it out loud:

Makes you feel a lot better don’t it? Now, all I need you to do is believe it. Like really believe it and apply it to your daily activities, which will then become a normal part of life without you even realizing it. You’ll suddenly begin to feel more energized, positive minded, and actually have a greater outlook on life and the things it has to offer. What’s more exciting than having the desire to live life and explore?! It’s not like this isn’t true. It’s already stored in you, you just need to activate it – and that’s what you’re going to do. Random thought – you’re probably wondering why there aren’t really chapters in this book. I just wanted to take things out of the ordinary and go out of my comfort zone a bit – which is also a part of boosting self-esteem as well as confidence. Trying new things often require you to go out of your comfort zone. What is more awesome than challenging yourself to new measures?! Never be afraid to challenge yourself. NEVER!

Fall seven times, stand up eight.

When it comes to living life, one thing you must accept is failure. Listen, things happen. We are not perfect, and damn sure aren’t meant to be perfect. We all are perfectly imperfect, but we all have that side of us that are winners, achievers, go getters, ambitious, and the list goes on. However, not everyone are brave enough to bring that side out of them once they don’t get the results they want the first time they make an attempt to achieve their goal. Why is that?

Because self-motivation is needed.

Self-motivation begins with believing in yourself and not beating yourself up when you fail. When you fail, that’s your queue to try again. You know, “fall seven times, stand up eight”. It’s only right. You are as positive as you think. Think negative, you will end up becoming a negative person. No one said this was going to be easy, but no one said it’s impossible either.

Do not tolerate disrespect, even from yourself.*

Getting into the habit of setting standards, boundaries, and speaking your mind can be difficult, especially if you’ve had issues being outspoken – just like I did. I often cared way too much about what other people thought of me, having friends no matter what their intentions were, and most of all – caring too much about society accepting me, my flaws, my education level… Just me. Because of this, I got myself involved in unhealthy friendships, unhealthy relationships, and unhealthy situations that just wasted time and energy… But most of all, I learned from those experiences. That’s what matters, whether or not you learn something from an experience and apply that lesson to your future decisions to avoid the same conflict from occurring again. Not everyone learn from their mistakes, some learn at a different pace, and some just take longer to develop the desire to change.

NEVER downgrade yourself in order for someone to like you, hell, or even love you. It’s called having SELF-RESPECT. A real person would accept you, and look at you as if you’re flawless. Don’t blame yourself for a friendship, relationship, or certain situation not working out because that person did not agree with an involvement of your personality, appearance, or goals you have. If they can’t respect the fact that you are brave enough and care enough for them to see you for who you are with no filter, then they don’t deserve your time!

When it comes to living life, one thing you must accept is failure. Listen, things happen. We are not perfect, and damn sure aren’t meant to be perfect. We all are perfectly imperfect, but we all have that side of us that are winners, achievers, go getters, ambitious, and the list goes on. However, not everyone are brave enough to bring that side out of them once they don’t get the results they want the first time they make an attempt to achieve their goal. Why is that?

Because self-motivation is needed.

Self-motivation begins with believing in yourself and not beating yourself up when you fail. When you fail, that’s your queue to try again. You know, “fall seven times, stand up eight”. It’s only right. You are as positive as you think. Think negative, you will end up becoming a negative person. No one said this was going to be easy, but no one said it’s impossible either.

Do not tolerate disrespect, even from yourself.*

Getting into the habit of setting standards, boundaries, and speaking your mind can be difficult, especially if you’ve had issues being outspoken – just like I did. I often cared way too much about what other people thought of me, having friends no matter what their intentions were, and most of all – caring too much about society accepting me, my flaws, my education level… Just me. Because of this, I got myself involved in unhealthy friendships, unhealthy relationships, and unhealthy situations that just wasted time and energy… But most of all, I learned from those experiences. That’s what matters, whether or not you learn something from an experience and apply that lesson to your future decisions to avoid the same conflict from occurring again. Not everyone learn from their mistakes, some learn at a different pace, and some just take longer to develop the desire to change.

NEVER downgrade yourself in order for someone to like you, hell, or even love you. It’s called having SELF-RESPECT. A real person would accept you, and look at you as if you’re flawless. Don’t blame yourself for a friendship, relationship, or certain situation not working out because that person did not agree with an involvement of your personality, appearance, or goals you have. If they can’t respect the fact that you are brave enough and care enough for them to see you for who you are with no filter, then they don’t deserve your time!

So, let’s go over a few things.

1. Get a journal. 2. List things that is causing you to lack confidence. (past experiences, events, anything you can think of!) 3. Name this list “Growth Areas”. 4. Keep in mind that there is always room for change, improvements, and successful transitioning. 5. Keep this list handy. As you create your second list, you will be crossing out items on this list, one by one, as your confidence and self-esteem levels increase pertaining to each item that seemed to be an obstacle prior to creating this list. 6. Add to this list as needed. 7. If you seem to have continuous problems conquering items on your growth areas list, write down the problems you are having (add them to this list).

Creating Your “Growth Areas” List

Creating your “Guide To Growth” Short-Term and Long-Term List(s)

1. Turn to a new page. 2. On this list (Guide To Growth: Short-Term), make sure to write short-term actions that can be taken to begin the process of eliminating the Growth Areas list as well as simultaneously boosting your confidence. Make sure each action is connected to each issue listed in your Growth Areas list. 3. Create a second list (Guide To Growth: Long-Term). Make sure to write long-term actions that can be taken to help you maintain your high confidence levels. Once again, make sure each action is connected to each issue listed in your Growth Areas list. 4. Add to these lists as you add to your “Growth Areas” list, but DONOT eliminate your “Guide To Growth” lists AS YOU ELIMINATE your “Growth Areas” list. 5. Keep these lists handy! Turn to these lists as many times as you’d like. That’s the reason for having them! To help yourself. Take FULL advantage of this.

[_Reminder: Your “Growth Areas” list is meant to be eliminated as your confidence levels boost. Your “Guide To Growth” lists ARE NOT meant to be eliminated. _]

So, let’s go over a few things.

1. Get a journal. 2. List things that is causing you to lack confidence. (past experiences, events, anything you can think of!) 3. Name this list “Growth Areas”. 4. Keep in mind that there is always room for change, improvements, and successful transitioning. 5. Keep this list handy. As you create your second list, you will be crossing out items on this list, one by one, as your confidence and self-esteem levels increase pertaining to each item that seemed to be an obstacle prior to creating this list. 6. Add to this list as needed. 7. If you seem to have continuous problems conquering items on your growth areas list, write down the problems you are having (add them to this list).

Creating Your “Growth Areas” List

Creating your “Guide To Growth” Short-Term and Long-Term List(s)

1. Turn to a new page. 2. On this list (Guide To Growth: Short-Term), make sure to write short-term actions that can be taken to begin the process of eliminating the Growth Areas list as well as simultaneously boosting your confidence. Make sure each action is connected to each issue listed in your Growth Areas list. 3. Create a second list (Guide To Growth: Long-Term). Make sure to write long-term actions that can be taken to help you maintain your high confidence levels. Once again, make sure each action is connected to each issue listed in your Growth Areas list. 4. Add to these lists as you add to your “Growth Areas” list, but DONOT eliminate your “Guide To Growth” lists AS YOU ELIMINATE your “Growth Areas” list. 5. Keep these lists handy! Turn to these lists as many times as you’d like. That’s the reason for having them! To help yourself. Take FULL advantage of this.

[_Reminder: Your “Growth Areas” list is meant to be eliminated as your confidence levels boost. Your “Guide To Growth” lists ARE NOT meant to be eliminated. _]

Here’s my ACTUAL Growth Areas list and my Guide to Growth lists. Maybe it can help you start yours.

1. Starting College but not finishing 2. Loss of close friends and/or family members 3. Health scare (Chronic asthma, which seems hard to control) 4. Having financial hardship 5. Searching for confidence boosters in other people that doesn’t seem to care about my well-being 6. Difficulty finding a steady and stable job/source of income 7. Not liking my hair texture or hair length 8. Putting everyone and their problems and also well-being first, which results in me putting myself and my problems as well as my well-being last. 9. Trying to make everyone happy and end up forgetting about my own happiness. 10. Not speaking up for myself because I worry about people being uncomfortable around me or disliking me. 11. Feeling a strong need to have friends 12. Fear of being alone 13. Failing relationships and/or friendships 14. Lack of energy to keep going on with life 15. Giving up so easily

Growth Areas

1. Find out what subjects seem to be difficult. 2. Think of the good times we had. 3. Go to my doctor for advice. 4. Look for tips on how to manage money. 5. Look in the mirror. 6. Look for job search engines. 7. Realize everyone’s different and unique in their own way. 8. Get my priorities straight. 9. Start to consider fixing my own happiness. 10. Understand no one will know what’s on my mind if I don’t tell them. 11. Realize friends isn’t needed in order to live a strong, healthy, fun life. 12. Cannot fear the consequence. 13. Have to bring it to their attention and see if they are willing to repair the friendship/relationship. 14. Might have to consider exercising and eating healthier and most of all – getting more sleep. 15. Have to stop giving up so easily because of me being angry when things don’t go my way.

Guide To Growth (Short-Term)

Tip: Realize and observe that both lists are connected to each other, issue to the action. One list consists of the issues while the other list consists of the beginning of the actions.

Here’s my ACTUAL Growth Areas list and my Guide to Growth lists. Maybe it can help you start yours.

1. Starting College but not finishing 2. Loss of close friends and/or family members 3. Health scare (Chronic asthma, which seems hard to control) 4. Having financial hardship 5. Searching for confidence boosters in other people that doesn’t seem to care about my well-being 6. Difficulty finding a steady and stable job/source of income 7. Not liking my hair texture or hair length 8. Putting everyone and their problems and also well-being first, which results in me putting myself and my problems as well as my well-being last. 9. Trying to make everyone happy and end up forgetting about my own happiness. 10. Not speaking up for myself because I worry about people being uncomfortable around me or disliking me. 11. Feeling a strong need to have friends 12. Fear of being alone 13. Failing relationships and/or friendships 14. Lack of energy to keep going on with life 15. Giving up so easily

Growth Areas

1. Find out what subjects seem to be difficult. 2. Think of the good times we had. 3. Go to my doctor for advice. 4. Look for tips on how to manage money. 5. Look in the mirror. 6. Look for job search engines. 7. Realize everyone’s different and unique in their own way. 8. Get my priorities straight. 9. Start to consider fixing my own happiness. 10. Understand no one will know what’s on my mind if I don’t tell them. 11. Realize friends isn’t needed in order to live a strong, healthy, fun life. 12. Cannot fear the consequence. 13. Have to bring it to their attention and see if they are willing to repair the friendship/relationship. 14. Might have to consider exercising and eating healthier and most of all – getting more sleep. 15. Have to stop giving up so easily because of me being angry when things don’t go my way.

Guide To Growth (Short-Term)

Tip: Realize and observe that both lists are connected to each other, issue to the action. One list consists of the issues while the other list consists of the beginning of the actions.

1. Seek tutoring and other resources or alternatives. College isn’t the only path to success nowadays. 2. Constantly remind myself of the good times and be thankful I was able to spend those times with them. 3. Seek a specialist for my asthma. 4. Practice money management. 5. Compliment myself everyday. 6. Apply for jobs and constantly update my resume and cover letter. 7. Learn to love myself more and not care about what anyone thinks because I AM BEAUTIFUL, flaws and all. 8. Put my priorities into effect. 9. Put myself first, and make everyone else understand that I come first, whether they like it or not. 10. Start to speak my mind and speak up for myself, respectfully and thoroughly. 11. Enjoy myself more and actually want friends. Friends has to be wanted, it can’t be forced. 12. Challenge myself more to higher measures. 13. Attempt to fix the relationship/friendship ONE TIME ONLY. If they refuse, then hell with them. 14. Stick to an exercising and healthy eating routine, or even walk more. walking is healthy too! 15. Stop giving up. Things don’t come to those that wait, but those who work hard for it.

Guide To Growth (Long-Term)

Tip: Realize and observe that all three of my lists are connected to each other, issues to the actions. One list consists of the issues while the other two lists consists of the beginning of the actions as well as the maintenance of the actions.

Confidence is stronger than any drug.

Moving on…

Believe it or not, lack of confidence can lead to some serious health risks. Although the list is pretty steep, some severe health risks include depression, drug abuse, alcoholism, or even worse: thoughts of harming yourself. However, this can be avoided by recognizing the resources available. What are some resources available?

1. YOU* (You'll see why this is #1.) 2. Therapist 3. Self-help books/articles 4. Family member 5. Friend 6. Significant other

Why did I choose you? You might think I’m crazy, or it might sound a little extra to you. I chose you as a resource because you know yourself more than anyone else knows you! So why not help yourself out. Also, some people would rather talk to someone who doesn’t know enough about them to judge them, but know enough to give pure, honest, helpful feedback and/or advice. Sometimes, people just need someone to hear them out, a good listener. After all, talking about things does help. Never let issues and thoughts pile up. It turns you into an unstable ticking bomb.

1. Seek tutoring and other resources or alternatives. College isn’t the only path to success nowadays. 2. Constantly remind myself of the good times and be thankful I was able to spend those times with them. 3. Seek a specialist for my asthma. 4. Practice money management. 5. Compliment myself everyday. 6. Apply for jobs and constantly update my resume and cover letter. 7. Learn to love myself more and not care about what anyone thinks because I AM BEAUTIFUL, flaws and all. 8. Put my priorities into effect. 9. Put myself first, and make everyone else understand that I come first, whether they like it or not. 10. Start to speak my mind and speak up for myself, respectfully and thoroughly. 11. Enjoy myself more and actually want friends. Friends has to be wanted, it can’t be forced. 12. Challenge myself more to higher measures. 13. Attempt to fix the relationship/friendship ONE TIME ONLY. If they refuse, then hell with them. 14. Stick to an exercising and healthy eating routine, or even walk more. walking is healthy too! 15. Stop giving up. Things don’t come to those that wait, but those who work hard for it.

Guide To Growth (Long-Term)

Tip: Realize and observe that all three of my lists are connected to each other, issues to the actions. One list consists of the issues while the other two lists consists of the beginning of the actions as well as the maintenance of the actions.

Confidence is stronger than any drug.

Moving on…

Believe it or not, lack of confidence can lead to some serious health risks. Although the list is pretty steep, some severe health risks include depression, drug abuse, alcoholism, or even worse: thoughts of harming yourself. However, this can be avoided by recognizing the resources available. What are some resources available?

1. YOU* (You'll see why this is #1.) 2. Therapist 3. Self-help books/articles 4. Family member 5. Friend 6. Significant other

Why did I choose you? You might think I’m crazy, or it might sound a little extra to you. I chose you as a resource because you know yourself more than anyone else knows you! So why not help yourself out. Also, some people would rather talk to someone who doesn’t know enough about them to judge them, but know enough to give pure, honest, helpful feedback and/or advice. Sometimes, people just need someone to hear them out, a good listener. After all, talking about things does help. Never let issues and thoughts pile up. It turns you into an unstable ticking bomb.

STAND UP STRAIGHT. Your mind and body are one. Therefore, how you feel affects how you hold yourself AND how you hold yourself affects how you feel. STOP COMPARING YOURSELF to others. Always remember you are GREAT and you are constantly learning and growing! FOCUS ON WHAT YOU THINK. Trust that you know what works best for you (since you do know yourself better than anyone knows you) and stop worrying about what others think. BOOST YOUR STRENGTHS. Find ways to use and grow your strengths. It is indeed YOUR OPPORTUNITY for the greatest growth and success in life. (Studies show that confidence increases your chances of having a more successful career.) ACCEPT YOUR GROWTH AREAS because we ALL have them! Perfection is hard to love, but flaws makes us more lovable. SPEND MORE TIME WITH THE PEOPLE THAT MAKES YOU FEEL GOOD! Yes, you are already fabulous, but it never hurts to be reminded. Remember to use your time wisely! Time is very precious and it is something we CAN’T get back. DON’T LIVE LIFE FOCUSING ON YOUR PAST AND WHAT COULD HAVE BEEN DONE TO CHANGE IT. How would you have came to be the great person you are today? Never live life with regrets from the past. If anything, think of your past as learning experiences. ANYONE CAN LEARN SELF CONFIDENCE…. It simply starts with deciding to LIKE YOURSELF and BE COMFORTABLE IN YOUR SKIN.

Self-confidence and self-esteem is like a mirror. What you portray is what people will see.

THERE IS NO HAPPINESS WITHOUT SELF-ESTEEM. Happiness comes from positive emotional energy. Therefore, without enough self-esteem, a person really isn’t able to experience true happiness. It all begins with you! DEPRESSION IS THE OPPOSITE OF SELF-ESTEEM. Depression is when our negative expectations and negative emotional energy outweigh our positive expectations as well as positive emotional energy. So, if you are full of self-esteem (positive expectations and positive energy), you can’t be depressed. SELF-ESTEEM IS generated by your own feelings about yourself, not what others think of you. Once again, it all begins with you. YOU CAN’T FAKE SELF-ESTEEM. Although many have tried to fake self-esteem, it can’t be bought, sold, or borrowed from status symbols, money, looks, or fame. It MUST BE GENERATED FROM WITHIN. Know yourself. Understand what makes you feel great. Recognize things that makes you feel down. Set clear, realistic goals to achieve. Develop trusting friendships that makes you feel good. NEVER be afraid to ask for help. Stand up for your beliefs and values. Help someone in need. Take responsibility for your own actions. Take good care of yourself.

STAND UP STRAIGHT. Your mind and body are one. Therefore, how you feel affects how you hold yourself AND how you hold yourself affects how you feel. STOP COMPARING YOURSELF to others. Always remember you are GREAT and you are constantly learning and growing! FOCUS ON WHAT YOU THINK. Trust that you know what works best for you (since you do know yourself better than anyone knows you) and stop worrying about what others think. BOOST YOUR STRENGTHS. Find ways to use and grow your strengths. It is indeed YOUR OPPORTUNITY for the greatest growth and success in life. (Studies show that confidence increases your chances of having a more successful career.) ACCEPT YOUR GROWTH AREAS because we ALL have them! Perfection is hard to love, but flaws makes us more lovable. SPEND MORE TIME WITH THE PEOPLE THAT MAKES YOU FEEL GOOD! Yes, you are already fabulous, but it never hurts to be reminded. Remember to use your time wisely! Time is very precious and it is something we CAN’T get back. DON’T LIVE LIFE FOCUSING ON YOUR PAST AND WHAT COULD HAVE BEEN DONE TO CHANGE IT. How would you have came to be the great person you are today? Never live life with regrets from the past. If anything, think of your past as learning experiences. ANYONE CAN LEARN SELF CONFIDENCE…. It simply starts with deciding to LIKE YOURSELF and BE COMFORTABLE IN YOUR SKIN.

Self-confidence and self-esteem is like a mirror. What you portray is what people will see.

THERE IS NO HAPPINESS WITHOUT SELF-ESTEEM. Happiness comes from positive emotional energy. Therefore, without enough self-esteem, a person really isn’t able to experience true happiness. It all begins with you! DEPRESSION IS THE OPPOSITE OF SELF-ESTEEM. Depression is when our negative expectations and negative emotional energy outweigh our positive expectations as well as positive emotional energy. So, if you are full of self-esteem (positive expectations and positive energy), you can’t be depressed. SELF-ESTEEM IS generated by your own feelings about yourself, not what others think of you. Once again, it all begins with you. YOU CAN’T FAKE SELF-ESTEEM. Although many have tried to fake self-esteem, it can’t be bought, sold, or borrowed from status symbols, money, looks, or fame. It MUST BE GENERATED FROM WITHIN. Know yourself. Understand what makes you feel great. Recognize things that makes you feel down. Set clear, realistic goals to achieve. Develop trusting friendships that makes you feel good. NEVER be afraid to ask for help. Stand up for your beliefs and values. Help someone in need. Take responsibility for your own actions. Take good care of yourself.

Studies show that helping other people makes you feel better about yourself! Confidence is so contagious… Why not encourage it? You just made someone’s day. That’s something to be proud of! Communication has shown to also boost confidence and self-esteem. Have positive and healthy conversations. It could be about anything (correction: all positive things). In addition, if the conversation does happen to start consisting of negative thoughts, just say possible, positive outcomes that you are hoping for. It’ll also help others recognize your confidence, determination, and boldness as well as transition that conversation into a more positive one. It doesn’t get any better than this! So, there you have it. I just wanted to get to the point as to why Confidence is the new sexy. I really hope this helps you as much as it has helped me. You’re probably wondering why this book was so short. Simple: Because attention starts to shift when people see that the length of a book seems too long. All people are looking for are answers, and that’s exactly what I have provided.

Confidence is contagious. Be confident enough to encourage confidence in others.

[_Notice: MORE is the opposite of LESS. Challenge yourself. You can do it! _]

Studies show that helping other people makes you feel better about yourself! Confidence is so contagious… Why not encourage it? You just made someone’s day. That’s something to be proud of! Communication has shown to also boost confidence and self-esteem. Have positive and healthy conversations. It could be about anything (correction: all positive things). In addition, if the conversation does happen to start consisting of negative thoughts, just say possible, positive outcomes that you are hoping for. It’ll also help others recognize your confidence, determination, and boldness as well as transition that conversation into a more positive one. It doesn’t get any better than this! So, there you have it. I just wanted to get to the point as to why Confidence is the new sexy. I really hope this helps you as much as it has helped me. You’re probably wondering why this book was so short. Simple: Because attention starts to shift when people see that the length of a book seems too long. All people are looking for are answers, and that’s exactly what I have provided.

Confidence is contagious. Be confident enough to encourage confidence in others.

[_Notice: MORE is the opposite of LESS. Challenge yourself. You can do it! _]


Confidence Is The New Sexy

We've all had our moments in life where we would question our confidence. Read on how to conquer those questionable moments and gain control of your self-confidence and self-esteem today!

  • Author: Carla Williams
  • Published: 2016-05-17 23:20:15
  • Words: 6992
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