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Are Women Incapable Of Telling The Truth? – A Case Study On Texting

Are Women Incapable Of Telling The Truth? – A Case Study On Texting

Hello and thank you for taking the time to download this e-book. There are a few things I want to clear up before I get started on this topic, first; this will be a very non-serious case study, that will hopefully contain a few pieces of knowledge that is relevant to your own life. Second; If I had the choice I would name this “Are Women Incapable Of Telling The Truth? – A Case Study On Texting, In The Specific Case Of Deliberately Putting Women In An Uncomfortable Position”, but that would simply be too long of a title.

With that cleared up, let’s get on with the topic. First off; I was very deliberate in choosing the test subject, this was for a couple of reasons:

p<>{color:#000;}. I wanted the subject to be the best-case scenario for women not lying. I therefore chose this subject because –

p<>{color:#000;}. The subject knew me, and had a previously positive (though not romantic) relationship with me.

p<>{color:#000;}. The subject was aware that I could handle rejection.

p<>{color:#000;}. The friendship I had with the subject was disposable (since friendships are often based on logistics, and she would be moving away soon at the time of the texting).

With that out of the way, here is the conversation we’ll be having a look at today.

The Conversation

Translation And Analysis

So, as you can see, the conversation is quite short, but that shouldn’t be a problem when it comes to explaining the basic functions of it. You might also have noticed that it is in another language; Norwegian. If you want to control my translation of the texts you can use a translation tool online, or use a Norwegian friend. You, or your friend might have some trouble with my texts however, since I write in a broad accent.

For the sake of this analysis we’re going to be calling the subject Ella (not her real name, of course). We’re going to be analyzing the conversation as we go along.

The first few sentences are of low analytical value, and I only brought them in for context. Translated they are:

Me – “For future reference: about when are you done with the essays?”

Ella – “Today, I hope”

Me – “Nice, which day during next week are you available?”

p<>{color:#000;}. Here I am referencing a meetup I proposed earlier while testing the waters for this test.

Ella – “I don’t really know, we’re going to start training for the graduation-performance tomorrow, so I have to wait until then before I really know”

p<>{color:#000;}. All right, so here we have something tangible. What she’s doing here is one of two things: 1. She’s telling the truth, and wants me to wait until tomorrow for a more precise answer, or 2. She’s trying to let me know gently that she’s not that interested as to not upset me, We’ll see which one in a bit.

Me – “yeah, it’s the best semester for you now (being sarcastic), and what about the future? Are you going for the pedagogy studies, or are you going straight to living your life?”

Ella – “I don’t really know, I’m planning on taking them – but I’d rather do it in Oslo.”

p<>{color:#000;}. At this point I confirm that logistically speaking our friendship would be difficult to maintain, which made her eligible for this study. So I’m looking for a way to round out the conversation to send the first validation-seeking text, which will hopefully give more insight in her opinion of me.

Me – “gotcha, tired of Stavanger? Or do you just miss the tram?”

Ella – “haha – not exactly that much happening in Stavanger, I could do with a bigger place.”

Me – *sent a link to a hilarious video, in my opinion.*

p<>{color:#000;}. Now I made sure to wait for half an hour before sending the first validation-seeking text. For those of you who do not know, a validation seeking text is a text that demonstrates lack of value. Sending these will often make you (as a man) seem desperate. The reason for this is that they communicate that you place a disproportionate amount of value on the woman compared to what they perceive is suitable for your relationship.

Me – “It was nice talking with you tonight, but I’m going to bed now, sleep tight when you finally decide to go to sleep, because I’m fainting just about now.”

p<>{color:#000;}. And with that I waited about 24 hours, until the end of “tomorrow”. Of course, she didn’t send a message, most likely because she thought the previous message combined with ignoring me would hammer home the message that she wasn’t that interested, and it did. But that wouldn’t make for a fun test, now would it? so I sent her a text late on Monday.

Me – “Which day ended up being the best fit?”

p<>{color:#000;}. Noticing she doesn’t answer, I decide to send another value giving text.

Me – “Look, it does nothing to me if this is something you don’t want to do. But please, give me an answer, I believe you know me well enough to know I don’t have the patience for this.”

p<>{color:#000;}. Now, she actually takes until the next morning to answer. This makes me inclined to believe her explanation (that she was asleep), as there really is no benefit in waiting 8 hours in giving a text that’s meant for stalling a conversation.

Ella – “Haha – Magnus, relax. I was just so tired I’d gone to sleep.”

p<>{color:#000;}. Notice how there is no date set in the text. So it is clear to me that this is a stalling text, probably to give me more time to realize she’s not that interested. Of course, me being the gentleman I am, I reminded her of this.

Me – “That’s fine, I’m probably too impatient for my own good. That being said, I still don’t see a date in the text.”

Ella – “Well, I don’t really know yet. I’m thinking it’s going to be a bit too much this week. Maybe this weekend or the next?”

p<>{color:#000;}. Now, you might think this is a reasonable response, let me tell you why it isn’t: normally, if a girl actually wants to meet you she’ll tell you beforehand that she is not available for a certain period of time, not after she have to tell you that after you’ve put pressure on her. This is the third, and last indication of non-interest I can possibly subject myself to, so I round out the conversation.

Me – “cool, let me know.”

Ella – “will do!”


So, what knowledge can we draw from this, and is it a representable case?

Well, first of all it should be abundantly clear that the answer to the question in the title of this book is “no”. Women do tell the truth, and you’re probably able to tell whether they are or not if you’re not lying to yourself. What women are incapable of doing is to spell those truths out in a concise and decisive manner. Why this is, I can only hypothesize about, and I will be unable to provide any tangible proof for those claims. That being said – I believe that it’s because they don’t want to risk social standing by giving to concrete answers when it comes to questions regarding their romantic interests. The second piece of knowledge should also be obvious: if you want to maintain a positive relationship with a woman (or with anyone, really) do not dabble in too much validation seeking, it will push people away.

Now, to the second question, is this case a representable sample? Not really. While many women show similar tendencies, especially when compared to men, you must account for a) your preexisting relationship, b) the woman’s personality, c) your own ability to communicate clearly and d) her ability to interpret that communication correctly. It should also be noted that the subject in this case is quite young, 22 at the time of the texting. This is important to note as it seems as this kind of behavior slowly goes away with age, and again; I can only hypothesize as to why.

Well, I hope you learned something, and that you weren’t too offended. Please love me and take care. (give me that sweet validation please.)

Are Women Incapable Of Telling The Truth? – A Case Study On Texting

  • ISBN: 9781370939404
  • Author: Magnus Vågen
  • Published: 2017-01-16 15:50:09
  • Words: 1403
Are Women Incapable Of Telling The Truth? – A Case Study On Texting Are Women Incapable Of Telling The Truth? – A Case Study On Texting